Allusions to Patience and Forbearance

“In this life, there are too many stories of enduring humiliation and bearing heavy burdens. Not everything can be explained clearly, nor can everything be said. From the day people are born, they are here to suffer and to endure pain. Only after you have experienced sadness, sorrow, and tears can you know what happiness and joy are. So I think, no matter what others say, you have to go your own way. No matter what others do and what you bring to yourself, you have to do it. We have to move forward with our heads held high, because we have a clear conscience, because every time we bear the burden of humiliation is the beginning of the next happiness and happiness. Do you think so?" My middle school classmate Du Guobing said this to me with tears in his eyes. Tears filled with tears.

The one standing next to Shennan Avenue in Shenzhen with convenient transportation and pleasant scenery has tens of millions of yuan in assets and more than 2,000 scientific researchers and employees. It is called "Two Dragon Dances of Textile, Printing and Dyeing" by the locals. The modern private enterprise that operates both internally and externally is the masterpiece of my classmate.

This year’s Qingming Festival, my classmate drove his luxury car home to worship his ancestors and chatted with me for half the night. He said: "You see, I am rich today, I am chic, I am beautiful, right? Do you know how I once lived, shabby, and humiliated? For a period of time, I had no money on my body, and I spent several nights on the steps of the Shenzhen Grand Theater I spent nearly a year working as a maid and sleeping with their pet dogs at night... Those days were humiliating! I endured them again and again, standing humiliated and strong. Live!"

"Stand in humiliation" - no matter how difficult, how difficult, how humiliating, you must stand. Drilling into the crotch is a great shame and humiliation, but Han Xin has to drill. If he doesn't drill, there are only two results. One is that he is killed by the butcher, and Han Xin is gone from then on; the other is that he kills the butcher and wins a temporary victory. , but there is no Han Xin from now on, because he killed someone, and the murderer must pay with his life, and he will be killed by the law. In any case, there will be no Han Xin in history. The reason why Han Xin has been passed down throughout the history of China as an image of Cheng Daye is because he looked to the future while enduring humiliation and had lofty goals in his heart.

"Live strong" - To live, you must be strong and bravely face all kinds of humiliation and suffering in life. Don’t forget that you are mortal, and don’t take life too seriously. Although it is sad to realize that life is impermanent, it is not without benefits. It can at least help us reduce our fear of death. You may be unhappy while living, but you will never give up; you may be disappointed, but you will not despair; you may give up, but you will never give up on yourself.

For those who do great things, enduring humiliation and bearing heavy burdens is a basic quality that must be possessed to achieve a successful career. Mencius said: "When heaven is about to entrust a man with a great responsibility, he must first suffer his mind, strain his muscles and bones, starve his body and skin, and wear his body." Being able to endure humiliation in various difficulties is a kind of ability, and being able to endure it is a kind of ability. Carrying heavy weight and fighting hard in humiliation is a kind of skill. A little impatience will mess up a big plan, and this is not the case for anyone who achieves great things.

During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, King Gou Jian of Yue was surrendered by King Wu Fu Chai. Gou Jian pretended to be a minister and raised horses for King Wu Fu Chai. When King Wu fell ill, Gou Jian personally tasted his feces, gained his trust, and was returned to his country. After returning to China, Gou Jian cared about the people, reduced taxes, and ate and lived with them. He also hung gall on his head, often tasted the pain of gall, and recalled the insults he suffered in Wu to warn himself not to forget the past. After more than ten years of arduous training, Gou Jian finally destroyed Wu in one fell swoop, killed Fu Cha, and realized his ambition to restore the country and avenge its humiliation.

Similarly, everyone knows the story of Zhuge Liang insulting Sima Yi during the Three Kingdoms period. Zhuge Liang was stationed at Wuzhangyuan when he left Qishan on the sixth day. Sima Yi knew that his strategy was not as good as Zhuge Liang's, so he adopted delaying tactics and held off sending troops for a long time. Zhuge Liang sent someone to send Sima Yi a set of women's clothing and a message saying: "If you dare not go to war, you should kneel down respectfully and accept surrender; if you have not lost your shame and still have some masculinity, you will be approved immediately." , Fight regularly." After looking around, Sima Yi was very angry and asked for a fight, but Sima Yi refused to fight. Soon Zhuge Liang died of illness due to overwork. Sima Yi did not hurt any soldiers or generals and won without a fight.

It is true that the endurance we emphasize is not absolute, but relative. If we blindly accept the consequences, we will lose our principles, and even lose our personality and even our national character.

Finally, let me end this article with a passage from my classmate Du Guobing. He said: "The ability to endure loneliness is a necessary condition for success, the ability to endure failure is the source of strength to rebound, and the ability to endure humiliation is The ability to endure is a necessary prerequisite for achieving great things. In a sense, it constitutes the huge driving force behind it and is also an absolute factor for success. People without a strong mental state cannot achieve success. "