Please stop "Chinese teasing"! These "jokes" hurt children far beyond your imagination. Why?

The horses I once heard complained in the group. Because Ms. Li and her husband are busy at work, the children's three meals a day are basically given to their mother-in-law.

A few days later, several relatives came to visit, and one of them joked with the child and said, "Does your mother want you?" How else can I throw you to grandma? "

Hearing this, the child cried on the spot until his relatives came home. She wanted to find her mother, but her mother-in-law had no choice but to call Ms. Li to coax her.

Almost one night, the children were glued to Ms. Li, and Ms. Li was not allowed to go to work the next day. Ms. Li was still very angry when she talked about it. She said, "If it weren't for that relative, I would definitely kick him out!"

In fact, in real life, this kind of ridicule is still very common. Almost everyone who teases the baby thinks they are harmless and just want to play a joke. These jokes seem funny, but for different children, the reaction is very different. Some children don't care, and some children take it seriously easily. You can't blame the child for this result.

These "Chinese-style" teasing dolls seem fun, but they are actually harmful.

Tease a child.

Usually at dinner, in order to enliven the atmosphere, many people will encourage their children to perform programs, and even say to them, "You give us a program, and this gift will be given to you." This kind of behavior is often the performance of adults teasing children. If you are a lively and cheerful child, it may not have any influence.

However, if the child is introverted and sensitive, this practice of adults is likely to make the child particularly embarrassed. If you leave a psychological shadow on your child, he will feel flustered no matter where there are many people. Nowadays, many children always don't like eating with relatives, mostly because of the shadow left by childhood.

Many post-90 s children said that the "performance program" of family dinner as a child was simply their nightmare.

Induce children to drink and smoke.

At the party, you will also meet some very rude people. They always try their best to trick their children into drinking and smoking. If the child's parents stop it, they will be called stingy and disappointing by the other party.

Children's bodies are still in the development stage, whether smoking or drinking, it has a great influence on their development. In addition, children are still young and don't realize how much harm these behaviors will bring to the body. This kind of wrong demonstration by adults will make children have wrong cognition.

Create discord among the children

In normal times, I always see some people make their children cry for fun. For example, they will threaten Dabao, "Your parents don't love you when they have a younger brother or sister", "Your mother said she would give you to me and you can come home with me later" and so on.

Most children are sensitive and lack judgment, so they will take these jokes seriously, which is likely to lead to children's insecurity in the future. In order to test parents' love for them, children will also have some unreasonable behaviors in peacetime.

In a word, this kind of "Chinese-style teasing baby" with playful elements is very harmful to the healthy growth of children. I hope that when you are facing children, try not to hurt them because of your bad taste. At the same time, I also hope that parents can stand with their children and try not to let this kind of injury happen to them. When you meet unreasonable people, you must take a stand. You must take a stand.