How to deal with a leader or colleague who is deliberately making things difficult for others?

Five tips to ensure you can turn defeat into victory.

1 Laughing in anger - making it look like a joke to him.

The so-called laughing while angry means that although you are very angry when you meet someone who deliberately makes things difficult for you, you should not show it on the surface. You should pretend to be a confused smile. Your smile should not be serious. , there is no way to achieve his goal. In fact, the person who deliberately makes things difficult for you just wants to see your jokes, and you treat it with a peaceful attitude, not angry, and you don't fall into his trap. In this way, things There is a buffer.

2 Don’t complain - hide your grievances first and prevent third parties from getting involved.

No matter how good-tempered you are, resentment will inevitably arise in your heart when you meet someone who deliberately makes things difficult for you. Remember, you must hide your resentment temporarily. Don’t express your attitude first, and use slaps instead. You have to deal with him in different ways. If you talk to him, you will immediately attract people to watch the fun, which will not end well. So you just complain without speaking and watch the situation change. Preventing people from watching the fun is the key. .

3. Being attracted and hindered by desire—deliberately provoking him and completely digging out his reputation.

After completing the first two steps, the situation will basically calm down. What you have to do at this time is to deliberately tease him and let his ugly face be completely dug out. At this time, you have the advantage. Upside, be sure to remember that no matter what action you take or what method you use to deal with it, you must do it with a smile instead of pretending to be angry or deliberately making things difficult for you by arousing your desires. Nine times out of ten, people will no longer embarrass you. First, they are infected by your magnanimity, and second, there is no point in embarrassing you anymore.

4. Make peace and give away the source - find out the people and things that deliberately make things difficult for you, and strive for reconciliation.

For someone who deliberately makes things difficult for you, no matter what method you use to deal with it, you will inevitably have some small conflicts and frictions in the end, because if you don’t give him the result he wants, he will feel unhappy in his heart. You will also get angry when talking to others. At this time, what you have to do is not to expand the conflict and strive for reconciliation. The method is also very simple. Sometimes it is just a matter of one sentence, which is to suffer a small loss. If you can suffer a small loss, Make sure it's safe and sound, I think this can still be done.

5 Be decisive and resolute - if it cannot be resolved, then decisively draw a clear line with it.

If someone who deliberately makes things difficult for you is very popular, you must mess up your affairs. No matter whether you show weakness or adopt a conciliatory approach, there is no way to stop him. This When the time comes, you can't be soft, you have to be hard. The method is also very simple. Tell him the result directly. From now on, please draw a clear line with me. I have nothing to do with you. After doing this, Stop talking to him. If he still refuses to let go, if you have leaders above you, colleagues around you, and people in the unit who are dedicated to solving this problem, let them intervene, and things may get better.