Mr toad goes to see a psychiatrist: a fairy tale of psychological healing

Summary of the story: Toad is a passionate, fashionable and adventurous guy, who has caused many troubles and jokes. But now he is depressed and can't extricate himself. His friends decided to help, including the wise and dignified badger, the caring but rambling rat, and the considerate and kind mole. They discussed it and decided to urge toad to pay attention to this problem and take him to receive psychological counseling. At the end of the story, after ten interviews with the consultant Heron, some changes finally happened quietly in toad's mind ... < P > Three personality states: children, parents and adults < P > Children's state: influenced by childhood life emotions, and even life-long behaviors can be defined. Because of this, certain situations and scenes will stimulate our basic behavior patterns and make us react automatically, so we will do the same as when we were children. After people enter the state of children, their feelings and behaviors are exactly the same as those of childhood, which has nothing to do with their actual age.

Parental state: When you are in the' parental state', basically you are either critical or educating others. Either way, you are repeating the ideas and values you learned from your parents with your words and deeds. You will want to prove them to others and let them accept your ideas and values. This state of certainty cannot leave a place for new knowledge and new ideas. Old ideas dominate you, which is why arguing alone can't change a person's mind, it will only make people more stubborn.

Adult state:' Adult self state' means that we act in a rational rather than emotional way. In this state, we can plan, consider, decide and act, and we can act rationally and reasonably. In this state, all our knowledge and skills can be used by ourselves, and we are no longer driven by the voices of our parents in the past, nor are we trapped by childhood emotions. On the contrary, we can think about the present situation. Decide what to do based on facts.

life coordinates (see Figure 2)

1. I am good; Hello, too. Belief and behavior from the heart, believe in yourself and others, and don't have to believe in God or the supernatural.

2. I'm fine; You are not good. People in this psychological coordinate often occupy the commanding heights of power and authority, and they will always be' picky parents'. These people are ready to blame, so anxious that they will lose their temper at any time, and they want to judge others by impossible standards. Of course, sometimes they will pose as' parenting parents' and say things like' I am more heartbroken than you' or' I am doing it for your own good', but most people can hear that this is insincere.

3. I'm not good; Hello. People at this coordinate think they are victims of life, so they play games that will turn them into victims, such as thinking they are unlucky. Some people will try their best to choose to remember those sad and unhappy events and forget or ignore the good times. People at this coordinate are prone to depression.

4. I'm not good; You are not good either.

I may reread it and gain psychological knowledge, but I don't feel cured. I feel that toad has recovered inexplicably. At present, this book is a fairy tale for me. Maybe rereading will pay off!