But looking back at the current situation, more and more borrowers no longer have the same thoughts as my mother. Instead, they use moral kidnapping and other methods to force the other party to lend

But looking back at the current situation, more and more borrowers no longer have the same thoughts as my mother. Instead, they use moral kidnapping and other methods to force the other party to lend money to them after being rejected, and even use slanderous methods after being rejected. Ruin the other party's reputation. Last year, something like this happened in my hometown. The son of my neighbor, Lao Zhou, was about to get married. He originally wanted to get engaged before the Mid-Autumn Festival, but he didn't expect that the prospective in-laws suddenly asked a matchmaker to come over and say that the wedding date was postponed. Monk Zhang Er was confused and Lao Zhou inquired privately and found out that it was a relative who had been rejected when he came to borrow money before, who was causing trouble and almost ruined the marriage. Relatives spread rumors outside: "Lao Zhou's family is a charlatan. If you lose money in business, you dare not tell your parents-in-law that your daughter will suffer if she marries his family!" And the reason for all these rumors is because Lao Zhou didn't I am willing to lend money to a relative who is a bad gambler to pay off his debts. Never take relying on others as your own ability, let alone take the other person's kindness to you as a matter of course. There are not so many things in this world that are taken for granted. I lend you money out of love, but I don’t lend you money out of duty. You can borrow money from me because I treat you as one of my own, but if you feel that you can borrow money from me, you can borrow money from me because of my kindness and trust. And if it’s profitable, that’s a big mistake! Your kindness must have an edge. Hong Kong genius Ni Kuang summed it up this way when talking about how to behave: You want a Bodhisattva to lower his eyebrows, and even more to have a Vajra's angry eyes. To sum it up simply, you must be kind in order to behave in society, but your kindness must have an edge. I am a self-media creator, so most of the people active in my circle of friends are strangers from all over the world. The basis for establishing friendship between each other is trust. In 2017, I lent 2,000 yuan to a senior writer out of trust. In the eyes of many people, 2,000 yuan was nothing, but for me at the time, it was two months of living expenses, and it was my every word. Words written out of hard earned money. It wasn't until the senior was exposed a few months later that he had illegally raised funds and defrauded dozens of netizens, including me, of their money, that I realized that I had been deceived! I was filled with righteous indignation at the time, but facing this "big guy" who had a large number of fans on many platforms and had published two books, I was just a low-key coder at the time. My friend who was defrauded with me advised me: "Forget it, just take it as a lesson and don't mess with such a person." But I thought about it, gritted my teeth and decided to get my money back. I have always believed in one sentence: good people should be rewarded, and good people should not be allowed to suffer, let alone be discouraged! So in those days, I ran around looking for help on various platforms, and finally got my own money back. With my encouragement, more and more netizens have given up on the illusion of appeasement and got their money back. I tell my own experience to tell every friend who is owed a debt and does not repay it, not to give up their legitimate rights and interests for so-called friendship, because your appeasement and connivance will, to some extent, encourage the other party to continue to harm others. There is no need to think about the old relationship anymore, because from the moment he decided not to repay the debt, he has already given up the friendship with you. You can scold the other party loudly and righteously: "When I talked about feelings with you, you talked about money; now that I want to talk about money, you talk about feelings with me? What a dream!" I would like to write this article to those who owe money. Shameless people who refuse to repay the money and still accuse the creditors from the moral high ground: shut up! Have you ever experienced "borrowing money" in your daily life? Do you have any criteria for whom you can “borrow money” from? Please share it in the comment area.