Why are many people unwilling to have three children?

When the three-child policy came, the news immediately spread all over the internet, causing discussion among the whole people.

From the perspective of development, the state encourages everyone to have three children; Decide whether to have three children from our own point of view!

It's actually quite simple. Conditional people will have children, and unconditional people don't even want to have a second child.

1. Nowadays, young people have strong self-awareness and low fertility will.

Having three children, the country is considering adjusting the population structure to cope with the aging, and will gradually improve various supporting measures.

But in reality, most young people are self-centered, get married late and have little desire to have children. In the final analysis, because of the pressure of life, the house bears the brunt. How many young couples don't support their mortgage now? How much is a month's salary, but there are thousands of fixed expenses!

More importantly, if your home is now a three-bedroom apartment, you should change to at least four rooms after you have three children, and at least five rooms if you need the help of the elderly to look after the children!

Second, the economic pressure is great, even if you have money to live, you have no money to support.

Now the main force of fertility should be the post-85 s and post-90 s, right? The vast majority of young couples are ordinary working-class people, who are burdened with high mortgage and car loans. They have to support four old people and 1 or two children.

In the face of rising prices, children's education expenses, medical expenses/old people's support expenses, wages have always stagnated, and the pressure brought by this life makes it basically impossible and unrealistic to have three children.

It is said that it is difficult to get pregnant and have children. It's even harder to raise a child after a pass. As a parent, it is definitely not enough to raise a child after birth, but also to worry about him everywhere and be responsible for him everywhere.

In addition, the hard work of raising children is even more exhausting. After the child is born, in addition to daily necessities such as milk powder, diapers and toys. When you are sensible, you will start all kinds of early education classes, which are very long and cost a lot.

You said that the economic pressure is great, then save the money! But will you really be indifferent when you see other children dancing and drawing?

Third, both husband and wife have to go to work, and no one takes care of the children.

More importantly, who will take care of the triplets? When the first child is born, grandparents and grandparents are in good health and can help look after the children; Even if the couple go to work, the elders can cope with the children; After two years, grandparents and grandparents are not so tough, but taking care of two children can make do; In two years, the third child will come, and it will be difficult for grandparents and grandparents to take care of the children. And they have to take not only the third child, but also the first two children to school, which is probably too much.

So who will take care of the children at this time? Is mom at home full time? Then poor families will be even worse.

Of course, this is still in the case that the elderly are relatively healthy and can take care of themselves. If the elderly are unwell, you should take time off to take care of not only the elderly, but also the children, which makes you feel suffocated.

Fourth, it is difficult for women to balance career and family.

It is not uncommon that women of childbearing age are repeatedly discriminated against when looking for a company, and it is difficult to effectively protect the rights and interests of pregnant women.

I believe many sisters are asked whether they are married or have any plans to have children when looking for a job, and once they truthfully answer "married without children", then the job is not finished. Another friend of mine once talked about her own experience. After pregnancy, the company kept letting her go on a business trip. It was really inconvenient for her, so she wanted to transfer her post. The company didn't agree and finally had to resign.

There are still many problems with the first child, not to mention that novice mothers have to go through breastfeeding and night milk after giving birth, which will make novice mothers reject the second child, let alone the third child!