My wife wants to see the children born with her ex-husband, but I disagree. Is it wrong to want them to break off diplomatic relations?

"When my wife and I got married, I was unmarried. She's divorced. When she divorced from her last marriage, she had a four-year-old son with her ex-husband.

After we got married, our relationship was fine, but one day she suddenly said that she would take her children back to her hometown for a few days, and I couldn't accept it.

She divorced, so she should say goodbye to her old life completely. Besides, when I married her, I was unmarried and had no children. She was unfair to me, and we had a big fight. I will never let her see her son, and I will never, ever, ever interfere with my new life with her.

She quarreled with me, saying that she only saw her three or four times a year and had visiting rights. I can't cut off her affection as a mother, but she never thought about whether I was sad or not. We are a new family together, and she has to take care of my feelings.

Her ex-husband sent the children there, and she was tired of arguing with me. She said that she compromised, and in order to make me happy, she called her ex-husband to bring the child back.

I am unmarried with her, so I have no children. I think what's wrong with having a family that is completely free from my previous marriage? She just asked me to think about her. Did she miss me? I will have children with her in the future, so she should completely break up with the children in front.

But since then, I have a knot in my heart. I always feel uncomfortable thinking about it. I want to talk about the divorce, but I can't. What should I do? "

My suggestion: You are a man, standing between heaven and earth frankly, how can you be so narrow-minded? You should go with her. A child needs maternal love, just as you need her love. Don't let people visit their children, just want them to abandon their affection and serve you? She is not your exclusive product, and she still cares about her children, which shows that there is still maternal love and benevolence. Is betrayal what you want?

If a woman is cruel enough not to have children for a man, then she can be cruel enough to do anything. Such behavior is against human relations. Do you dare to become husband and wife with such a woman?

From a legal point of view, visiting children is her right, and you have no right to interfere; Morally speaking, mothers love children, and children also need maternal love. This is affection, and your involvement means your ruthlessness and selfishness.

You are not mature enough. It is normal for a wife to visit her children. After all, the child is a piece of meat in her heart. If you were me, would you cut off contact with your children without mercy? The fact that blood relationship cannot be changed.

If you really love your wife, you should support her in this behavior. Besides, he is just looking after the children, not his ex-husband. Before you get married, you should know that this is her second marriage, and the fact that she has children is established. Since you chose her, the fact that she has children also requires you to have an inclusive heart. Of course, I can understand my wife's bad mood of going to see the children. In fact, no one will feel too good. But when a wife goes to see the children, she only does her duty as a mother, instead of rekindling old feelings with her ex or doing something sorry for you. Of course, if you are broad-minded, you can also accompany your wife to see the children, so maybe you will feel more at ease with your wife and the relationship between husband and wife may be better. Your wife will be grateful when she can feel that you are sacrificing your feelings to satisfy her child care.

As long as your wife doesn't actually do anything wrong to you, there is no need to suffer. When you feel uncomfortable, you can tell your wife, for example, try to take care of the children for a short time, go early and come back early. If you can't, you'd better divorce, which is good for both sides.