What will happen if a female university does not avoid her father?

As the saying goes, "Men avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers". Relatives whose blood is thicker than water also need to master the scale and way of expressing love. After all, once you cross the line and go beyond the scope of intimate relationship, you will feel "uncomfortable".

A celebrity father and daughter were criticized by netizens for "big girls don't avoid their fathers". They are actress Li Guolin and her 6-year-old daughter. Intimate father and daughter not only go shopping arm in arm, but also feed each other during meals and kiss mouth to mouth after meals, just like lovers in love.

Looking at the intimate father and daughter, some netizens questioned: "My daughter 16 years old, why don't you know to avoid dad?" Some netizens immediately responded: "Look at the kissing photos of the two, I thought it was a couple if I didn't say it!" Some netizens bluntly said: "It is hard to accept that my daughter is a little lover in a previous life, not a contemporary lover!" !

Looking through many messages, the focus of netizens' questioning is on the photo of Li Guolin kissing her daughter. My daughter is my father's little lover, little cotton-padded jacket! It is every father's innate instinct to love his daughter. Lovely daughter should also pay attention to discretion. Like Li Guolin and her daughter, they go shopping arm in arm, feed each other and kiss mouth to mouth, which really dazzles people.

In fact, not only Li Guolin and his daughter, but also many male stars in the entertainment circle like to kiss their daughters. For example, Wu Zongxian, who is known as the "king of variety shows", even when attending activities with his adult daughter, he "strongly kissed" in public regardless of her wishes. After the kiss, her hands were dishonest!

When attending an activity, Wu Zongxian, as a father, actually helped his daughter arrange a tube top dress in public. Finding that she was photographed, her daughter shouted "Don't touch it again" at her father awkwardly, but Wu Zongxian's big eyes staring at "innocent" were quite meaningful.

All in all. No matter Li Guolin and Wu Zongxian, it is natural and innate for a father to love his daughter. In the eyes of many fathers, daughters can't love too much; In the daughter's heart, having a father who loves himself is also a lifelong treasure.

However, in the eyes of ordinary people, "women avoid their fathers, and men and women are different." The cross-border fatherly love feels spicy no matter how you look at it, and can only be described as "abnormal."

You can't imagine the serious consequences of not hiding from your father.

I have read a myth about "fatherly complex". In ancient Greece, there was a princess named Elektra. The princess's mother has a bad relationship with her father, and her mother has a lover. When the mother and lover United and murdered their father together, the princess decided to avenge her father. Finally, the princess and her brother killed their mother together.

Some psychologists call the complex between Princess Alekera and her father "Alekera complex", which is also commonly known as "father-loving complex", referring to the complex feelings of her daughter's pro-father and anti-mother.

Psychologist Jung once said: Father is the first lover of his daughter and the image of animus. Therefore, the way a father treats his daughter will directly affect her judgment on the relationship between men and women as an adult, and even affect her view on mate selection.

At the same time, the survey of relevant institutions found that 65% of daughters will refer to their fathers' behavioral characteristics when choosing boyfriends or husbands as adults. Indeed, Wenwen's mother found Wenwen's father according to his father's characteristics, hahaha!

Parents have no sense of boundaries, and the injured are all children.

If father and daughter don't pay attention to boundaries and discretion when they get along, they will regard their daughter as a "lover" for a long time, without boundaries. Then, for the daughter, it is not only difficult to get rid of the father-loving complex when she grows up, but also prone to cognitive dislocation.

The most irritating thing is that many fathers don't realize that they don't get along well with their daughters! And brazenly said in public: "My daughter is the meat that fell from me, and hers is mine." In the eyes of this kind of father, he and his daughter seem to be born and saved, and they know everything about their daughter like the back of their hands.

Yu once said: "If a child is a good child, it depends on whether his parents are good parents!" It is true that parents love their children, but in the process of getting along with children of the opposite sex, if you don't pay attention to the discretion and keep your distance, once love crosses the line, it will become a kind of harm.

Last time I called home, I heard my mother say that my uncle's daughter was molested. Let's pay more attention outside. After hanging up the phone, I should have expected it, thinking that my uncle's daughter was molested.

My uncle's daughter is 13 years old. Usually, father and daughter are very close and even kiss in front of everyone. Someone in the village reminded the father and daughter to pay attention to their image, but the uncle bluntly said, "She is my daughter, what's wrong?"

But without a sense of boundaries, the result is that my daughter can't distinguish between love and harm when she takes root. Usually when I get along with boys at school, I often see pictures of hooking up. Even though she was molested by a senior boy, she didn't realize that something was wrong until the teacher found out that her uncle and they knew about it.

In short, parents should realize that children are independent individuals in the process of getting along with children of the opposite sex, and never over-control their possessiveness under the banner of "loving children". Otherwise, it is likely to destroy the child. It is the responsibility and obligation of parents to teach their children how to protect themselves and understand the boundaries of getting along with others.