# # A 3-year-old girl should wear a 0-degree skirt.

Parents may blurt out the date of birth of their children, but few people know the more important time period than birthday, that is, the sensitive period of children's development. If children want to grow up healthier and smarter, they must seize the "natural opportunity"-the sensitive period of development and make the biggest "investment". There is no regret medicine to eat in this respect, and it is irreparable to miss it! Suggestion: start adding complementary food in 4-6 months, and be sure to pay attention to the diet list to protect your baby's taste sensitivity. In the sensitive period of action, the training of fine movements not only helps to develop good action habits, but also increases intelligence. Features: Children aged 3-4 enter a stubborn sensitive period, and some children enter this sensitive period ahead of time when they are almost 3 years old. The sensitive period of children's obstinacy may come from a sense of order.

What's the matter with a 3-year-old girl wearing a skirt at 0 degrees? Come and have a look with me.

"Mom, where am I from?" The "three questions" of children's sexual enlightenment began.

Today, I saw a news in the mother group that Ms. Li's son Xiaolin has been in primary school for three years this year. In her eyes, although her son is usually naughty, as a parent, he has done quite well in educating his children.

But one day, after receiving a call from the school teacher, Ms. Li felt that "it is good to educate children". This incident was severely slapped: "Mom Li, your son Xiaolin tore the clothes of a female classmate at school. Come to school! "

After receiving the phone call from the teacher, Ms. Li felt incredible. Whatever it is, her son went too far and pulled his female classmate's clothes. After arriving at school, she apologized to the other parents and calmed things down.

Afterwards, I learned that my son and his classmates talked about "what's the difference between female students and male students" and had a dispute with other students. He thought there was no difference between female students and male students, but other students said it was different and made fun of him. Later, in order to verify his point of view of "no difference", Kobayashi pulled the clothes of the female classmate.

Many times, parents find that their children are joking about "sexual ignorance" and will ask: I obviously didn't teach my children to do this! Yes, it is because children are not properly guided on the issue of "sex education" that children will make all kinds of embarrassing and helpless actions because of "sexual ignorance".

It's not too late to pay attention to the three questions of gender.

When the child first faced the problem of "gender", he was full of doubts. Parents' attitudes sometimes make children more confused. The "silly" questions we asked when we were young were all evasive and easy, so we had to find the answers ourselves. Sometimes the right answer is too difficult, and you will make mistakes. So when your baby is faced with such a problem, why not be generous and tell him the correct answer?

Question 1: Where am I from?

It is mentioned in Let the Soul Stir and the Body Be Happy that sexual enlightenment begins at the age of three, and sexual enlightenment education and popular science are double-edged swords. In the whole process of education, parents must show a rigorous side.

I have seen many cases where ignorant children ask their parents this question. Parents are either shy or think their children don't need to understand. Just joking, did the child pick it up from the garbage or send it over the phone? This will not only cause a certain psychological shadow to the child, but also hurt the baby's sense of security. It will also miss the initial opportunity of gender education. The correct way is to tell the child seriously in a language and way that he can understand. We can also use picture books and comics to help children understand.

The second question: Why am I a boy?

"You are a boy, I am a girl" in the face of such childish and lovely words between children, we naturally feel normal, but for children, why are you a boy and I am a girl? At this time, children are curious about their gender. Therefore, when children ask such questions, they must explain clearly. Otherwise, things like Ms. Li's son are embarrassing and helpless, and it is other people's children who are hurt. This can't be redeemed by an apology.

The third question: Why can't you touch girls (boys)?

Professor Yuan Ailing said that the avoidance of parents' language and the change of expression will only promote children's deeper curiosity, but can't really solve their inner doubts!

Dabao once came back from kindergarten and told me that the teacher criticized him, and he didn't know why. I didn't know it was because he held a female classmate's hand during recess activities, and the girl told the teacher as a result. But the teacher didn't explain why. Dabao meant well, but he was confused by the attitudes of his classmates and teachers.

So Bao Dad said to him, "The teacher criticized you mainly because you didn't ask others' permission before holding the girl's hand. "In children's socialization, many social etiquette are related to gender. When children encounter related problems, parents should give guidance and make more correct demonstrations.

Children's "sex education" should be sooner rather than later.

Every age group has the task of "gender enlightenment" for every age group. Bao's father, Ma Bao, should carry out gender enlightenment step by step in a way suitable for the baby's age.

Goal of 0-2 years old: Know the body and distinguish between men and women.

Babies aged 0 ~ 2 should learn to know all parts of the body, including SZ devices. You can also use all kinds of information to distinguish between sexes. For example, knowing that mom is a woman and dad is a man. Girls wear braids and skirts in class and so on.

Goal of 2-6 years old: more gender knowledge

After the child is two years old, gender awareness will gradually strengthen. After accepting the "gender expectation" from parents and society, there will be gender preference. Simply put, the little boy will ask himself to wear blue and green clothes. While girls like pink and play with dolls.

At this stage, children may ask themselves where they come from. We can seize this opportunity to carry out "fertility education" and let the children know that the baby grew up in the mother's womb. Learn to refuse others' contact, especially "private parts".

How to give children "sex education"?

When parents educate their children about sex, don't escape, answer questions positively, and at the same time, don't preach seriously. On the one hand, parents can use tools that babies can easily understand, such as picture books and animations, to let their children know about gender knowledge.

Children's world is childlike and lovely, so we can choose picture books as the material for children's "sex education". In many countries, the material of children's sexual enlightenment is the picture book of children's interesting characters. Parents can look at the pictures for sex enlightenment and sex education. Picture books full of childlike interest can reduce the influence of sex, stimulate children's interest and let parents take the opportunity to guide education.

On the other hand, I encounter gender-related scenes in my life, just like the question "Why I am different from him in gender" mentioned above. Answer the child in time, don't escape, don't ridicule, and tell the child the answer seriously. You can also take the initiative to popularize the social etiquette of getting along with each other to your children: for example, boys should not lift girls' skirts, and girls should protect their privacy from others and guide children to understand gender-related issues in time.

To parents and friends:

Many parents adhere to the concept of "knowing when they grow up", but children's "gender enlightenment" is related to their safety and health, so it is best to educate them in time. Don't laugh at all kinds of "mistakes" and "jokes" made by children because of ignorance, and don't overreact.

Dry goods! Children aged 0-9 have 3 1 sensitive period, and it is irreparable to miss it.

Parents may blurt out the date of birth of their children, but few people know the more important time period than birthday, that is, the sensitive period of children's development. If children want to grow up healthier and smarter, they must seize the "natural opportunity"-the sensitive period of development and make the biggest "investment". There is no regret medicine to eat in this respect, and it is irreparable to miss it!

1, and the sensitive period of light sensitivity is 0-3 months.

Features: Newborn babies are very sensitive to light. At this time, they need to adapt to the light difference between day and night, so they should open the curtains during the day and turn off the lights at night to let the baby adapt to the natural light changes.

Suggestion: You can show your baby more black and white pictures.

2. The sensitive period of taste development is 4-7 months.

Features: the baby's own mouth can feel sweet, salty, sour and other flavors.

Suggestion: start adding complementary food in 4-6 months, and be sure to pay attention to the diet list to protect your baby's taste sensitivity.

3. The sensitive period of oral cavity is 4- 12 months.

Features: At this time, the baby likes to eat his hands. He is trying to feel even some abstract concepts with his mouth.

Suggestion: Give the baby a chance to develop oral cavity, let the baby eat enough, and don't take the baby's hand away from his mouth mercilessly.

4. The sensitive period of arm development is 6- 12 months.

Features: At this time, the baby likes to throw things, which is the earliest standard for the coordinated development of hand and eye.

Suggestion: Please ask the caregiver not to control the baby's behavior and let him throw enough.

5. The sensitive period of musculus maximus development is 1-2 years old; The sensitive period of small muscle development is 1.5-3 years old.

Features: like to help, standing and walking hard.

Suggestion: The two-year-old baby can already walk, which is a lively and active period. At this time, give him enough space, familiarize him with body movements and play games with him on the premise of ensuring safety, so as to exercise all kinds of muscles, improve the parent-child relationship and make the left and right brains develop in a balanced way. In the sensitive period of action, the training of fine movements not only helps to develop good action habits, but also increases intelligence.

6. The sensitive period of interest in subtle things is 1.5-4 years old.

Features: Busy adults tend to ignore the little things around them, but children can often capture the mystery. He often makes small moves that we don't understand, such as picking up a fallen leaf and inserting it into a flowerpot, or playing with a handkerchief, but they can see more mysteries from it.

Suggestion: This period is a good time for us to train our children to observe things carefully, and it is better to know the world with questions and ideas.

7. The sensitive period of language is 1.5-2.5 years old.

Features: Language enlightenment is always accompanied by babies, even in the fetal period. Speaking to the fetus, the baby's babbling began a language sensitive period.

Suggestion: Nature endows children with this ability. From watching their parents' mouths to suddenly speaking, this process is the power accumulated during the language sensitive period. Some children talk late. If they are not sick, they may be influenced by the environment. Whether he can speak or not, we should constantly inject "nutrients" into him, talk to him more and tell stories. When he needs to express his feelings, he will naturally speak. Similarly, good language education will enhance children's expressive ability and learn to communicate with others.

8. The sensitive period of self-awareness is 1.6-3 years old.

Features: distinguish mine from yours, mine from yours. The main performance: from saying "mine" to saying "no" to hitting and biting people, and then imitating others, children gradually have a sense of self. At this time, the most common phenomenon of children is to divide me in order to get rid of you. At the same time, by saying "no", I say this is the most important thing. If something doesn't suit his mind, they will cry and make a scene, and the child's behavior is entirely up to them.

Suggestion: When a child hits or bites, we just need to stop the child's behavior. For children, "hitting you" only means rejection. Don't condemn or preach, because that is different from rude behavior. Let children use themselves without violating the rules. (Note: Don't compete with children, this is a process for children to form themselves. )

Self-awareness is the most important in all sensitive periods, because what kind of person we want to be in the future, whether the future is strong or not, and whether the ability is strong or not comes from the sensitive period of self-awareness formation. Therefore, protecting this sensitive period of self-consciousness formation is equivalent to ensuring children's future personality strength, personality harmony, and such a future ability to stand on the society.

9. The sensitive period of social norms is 2.5-4 years old.

Features: I like making friends and participating in group activities at first, which shows that children have entered a sensitive period of social norms. Education in the sensitive period of social norms helps children learn to abide by social rules, living norms and daily etiquette, and seize the opportunity to edify them, which is helpful for children to abide by social norms, live a self-disciplined life and communicate with others easily in the future.

Suggestion: contact children more. Generally, parents of two-and-a-half-year-old children can be ready to enter the park, and kindergartens can provide a good environment for making friends.

10, the spatial sensitive period is 3-4 years old.

Features: like high base, stereo, drill box, etc.

Suggestion: You can provide more similar toys, and at the same time, you can take this opportunity to learn various geometric figures, so as to lay an interest foundation for studying geometry in the future.

1 1, the color sensitive period is 3-4 years old.

Characteristics: I began to feel and understand colors, and began to look for different colors in my life. The development of human cognition begins with sensory training.

Suggestion: Provide children with colorful pigments and related books, such as the picture book China Moral Education Story, to lay the foundation for their interest in painting in the future.

12, the sensitive period of logical thinking is 3-4 years old.

Features: Keep asking "Why?" "Why is it dark?" "Why does it rain?" "Why do children go to kindergarten?" Wait a minute. These questions always confuse parents, while children are desperate to get to the bottom of it. When we give children answers again and again, children begin to have logical thinking. It is through this question and answer that children develop their thinking ability while understanding the objective world.

Suggestion: Protect children's precious curiosity. If parents can't answer questions, they can study with their children. It is very important to have an encyclopedia at home at this time, because the speed of cognition is twice the result with half the effort.

13, the sensitive period of cutting, pasting and painting is 3-4 years old.

Features: children really consciously use tools from this moment on, which is the best opportunity for most children to establish a focused personality. Whether in the classroom or at home, children are happy to choose cutting, pasting, painting and so on as long as the materials are sufficient. From the perspective of physical development, this is also an important task for children to train hand-eye coordination.

Suggestion: What parents should do is to provide their children with the materials they need, and try not to disturb the children who concentrate on their work.

14, the sensitive period of Tibet is 3-4 years old.

Characteristics: I began to feel strongly the happiness of owning and controlling my own things. Only when children have the material completely and can control it freely can they explore the spirit behind the material and transcend the possession of the material. When the ownership of these items belongs entirely to the children themselves, the exchange begins. At the same time, it also opened the prelude to interpersonal relationships.

Suggestion: Provide children with an independent space, such as a room or area of their own. When you enter his room or area, you must ask the child's permission and respect the child's space.

15, stubborn and sensitive period 3-4 years old.

Features: Children aged 3-4 enter a stubborn sensitive period, and some children enter this sensitive period ahead of time when they are almost 3 years old. Explain that everything should be done according to his thoughts and intentions, otherwise his mood will change greatly, he will lose his temper, cry and make trouble. At this time, parents and teachers should give their children enough patience and care, and also learn some soothing skills.

The sensitive period of children's obstinacy may come from a sense of order. When constructing the special quality of sense of order, children's excessive demands are often considered as "willfulness" and "nonsense", but we think the concept of "stubbornness" is more accurate. During this period, children are often inflexible and sometimes unreasonable. We don't know the real reason, but we know that children's psychological activities must be orderly, and when they don't go beyond this order, they will be strictly enforced.

Suggestion: To solve children's stubborn problems, one must understand, the other must be flexible, and the third must be successful. Understanding is not particularly difficult, but flexibility requires wisdom and skill. Only by adapting well can we successfully solve the problem and have the happiness that comes with it. How to master flexible skills is a subject we have been studying.

It should be noted that children's demand for order did not reach a stubborn level at first. At first, they will feel uneasy and cry. With the gradual formation of self, he raised this order to the level of consciousness and began to become stubborn and uncompromising.

16, the sensitive period of pursuing perfection is 3.5-4.5 years old.

Features: children do things perfectly, and it is very painful to sprinkle a drop when carrying water; There should be no spots on the apples you eat; The white bedpan in the toilet should not have any yellow stains; Clothes can't be short of buttons or something. Then it rose to the requirements of the rules: I obey the rules, you must obey the rules, and everyone must obey the rules; Banana peel must be thrown into the trash can. If there is no trash can, be sure to take it.

Suggestion: still respect the children! At this time, you don't have to worry about whether the child must eat a whole cake, whether it will become his favorite waste, and so on. Children's problems should not be enlarged, and when they are enlarged is just for what.

17, the sensitive period of the curse is 3-5 years old.

Features: Words that sound uncivilized and scary, such as "smelly ass and egg", "pooping", "killing you" and "kicking you to death", always come from children of this age. Because at this time, children find that language is powerful, and the most powerful word is curse. The stronger the reaction of adults, the more children like to say it.

Suggestion: ignore and dilute! Don't care about the child's language. This is not what he really wants to express. Wait for this stage to pass slowly.

18, the sensitive period of birth is 4-5 years old.

Features: During this period, children often start to ask themselves where they are from, ask ask. Adults' answers should not be a little sloppy, because this is the earliest source of children's sense of security and the oldest philosophical question of mankind: Where do I come from?

Suggestion: Parents should take out encyclopedias seriously and tell their children the whole process of life formation scientifically.

19, the sensitive period of interpersonal relationship is 4.5-6 years old.

Features: From exchanging toys and food one-on-one, to finding like-minded partners, they begin to be attached to each other, from playing with many children to interacting with only one or two children, the children themselves have experienced the whole process of interpersonal communication, and this kind of communication intelligence is innate.

Suggestion: Parents can give some guidance on how to get along with others, but examples speak louder than words.

20. The sensitive period of marriage is 4-5 years old.

Characteristics: After the sensitive period of interpersonal relationship, the child really started the sensitive period of marriage. At the earliest, children will want to "marry" their parents. After that, they will "love" their teachers or other adults. I didn't "fall in love" with a small partner until I was about 5 years old. For example, I only shared delicious food with my favorite children, often played together, and I didn't want others to interfere when there was a contradiction. In short, they want to have their own space.

Suggestion: No matter how many times children want to get married and how many friends they like, parents should give their children free space.

2 1, the aesthetic sensitive period is 5-7 years old.

Features: Aesthetics means having one's own wishes and aesthetic standards for one's own image, especially girls have a strong interest in their own clothes and costumes.

Suggestion: Children always like to make up during the aesthetic sensitive period. Of course, in the eyes of adults, these "makeup" are outrageous, but these girls are always enthusiastic and always walk around in front of everyone. Until they get your praise, they will leave with a satisfied look and turn to other teachers. In addition to make-up, girls also like beautiful skirts and shoes, so they should wear and dress according to their own ideas. At this time, what children need is the affirmation of adults. At this point, we don't need to make any judgment on beauty.

22. The sensitive period of identity confirmation is 4-5 years old.

Features: Children will give themselves one identity after another. This phenomenon is because children begin to worship an idol and hope that they are that idol. In kindergartens, there are often children in Snow White costumes. You have to call her Snow White before she will agree with you. In the process of children's identity confirmation, we can observe that they begin to express themselves through idols.

Suggestion: You can play role-playing games at home, and children will be very interested. Maybe you will cultivate a famous artist!

23. The gender sensitive period is 4-5 years old.

Characteristics: Around 4 years old, children are most concerned about who is a boy and who is a girl. If someone goes to the bathroom, be sure to follow, because it is necessary to observe whether it is a boy or a girl.

Suggestion: Children's exploration and understanding of the body comes from observation. When adults explain to children, their attitude must be objective and scientific, just like understanding children's eyes, nose and mouth. Of course, the encyclopedia is the best tool at this time.

The sensitive period of mathematics is 4.5-7 years old.

Features: Children are over 4 years old and always like to ask: How many people are there? What time is it? How many people are there? This is because children have a strong interest in names, numbers and numbers. But at this time, the child can't fully understand the logic, and can only match the names, numbers and quantities.

Suggestion: This is the initial development of children's mathematical intelligence. Only by mastering the Trinity can we master the concept of numbers. At this time, children can buy some daily necessities for their families and exercise their computing and economic abilities by spending money.

25. The sensitive period of literacy is 5-7 years old.

Features: This is the first time a child touches a symbol. Our method is to give children some character cards and let them match the words and actions they see to learn the characters.

Suggestion: At this stage, children can only understand Chinese characters from a macro perspective, that is, the overall image, but they can't decompose the strokes of Chinese characters and can't write. Children will also be interested in some familiar words. For example, they will find that the words in their names appear in other places.

26, painting and music sensitive period 4-7 years old.

Features: This is innate intelligence. Painting is the language that children can use best. From doodling to expressing one's feelings, the whole process is a natural display. Children begin to develop hearing in their mother's belly, and children over one year old can twist their bodies with the rhythm of music. Music is the language of human beings, and children are born with the highest artistic appreciation ability.

Suggestion: In this sensitive period, as long as we can provide a high-quality environment for children, we can help them develop.

27, the continuation of the sensitive period of marriage 5-6 years old.

Features: This sensitive period after 5 years old is a continuation of the previous sensitive period of marriage.

Suggestion: At this time, the child's tendency to choose a spouse is very obvious, and he knows some simple marriage rules, such as only those who love each other can get married.

28.6-7 years old is a sensitive period for the development of social interests.

Characteristics: Children's development from 0 to 6 years old is the epitome of a person's macro development. By the age of 6, they began to take the initiative to understand the basic rights of themselves and others, like to abide by each other and establish rules, and form a sense of cooperation. For example, electing the monitor, realizing self-management, supervising who doesn't come into the classroom in class, who doesn't wash his hands before eating, and which child doesn't follow the rules of kindergarten … these are all things they are very concerned about.

Suggestion: Let children participate in some social activities, including public welfare activities, such as picking up their own garbage and donating money. This is a good opportunity to cultivate children's sense of social responsibility.

29. The sensitive period of mathematical logic is 6-7 years old.

Features: There is a difference between the sensitive period of mathematical logic and the sensitive period of mathematical concepts. After completing the understanding of numbers, names and quantities, children begin to be interested in the order of numbers, concepts and the relationship between concepts.

Suggestion: For example, let children learn the methods of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division through Montessori's mathematics teaching AIDS. This method learns mathematical logic rather than simple memory.

30. The sensitive period of animals and plants, scientific experiments and collections is 6-7 years old.

Features: Children begin to absorb all knowledge from nature enthusiastically. Children's interest in exploring nature is much stronger than we thought. Children can remain studious and curious until they are six years old.

Suggestion: Give children more opportunities to observe nature.

3 1, the cultural sensitive period is 6-9 years old

Features: Children's interest in cultural learning begins at the age of 3; 6-9 years old have a strong need to explore the mysteries of things. Therefore, the hearts of children in this period are like a fertile land, ready to receive a large number of cultural seeds at any time.

Suggestion: Parents can provide rich cultural information at this time, which is based on local culture and extends to caring for the world.