Why do some blind dates make people feel bored?

It starts with appearance, appearance and talent, and is loyal to character. Love is actually the final result of evolution: the three views are consistent, the looks are good, and it will happen naturally. The extra points for good looks only act as a catalyst, speeding up your understanding of the other party.

Dating is an important way to get to know the opposite sex. Why do most of the blind dates introduced by elders fail to succeed?

First of all, my parents and elders told me that they were really stressed after watching.

Mainly because the elders introduce people who are also acquaintances of acquaintances, and the person they introduce has at least a basic understanding of the situation. However, you and your blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that you two will get along well. This pressure is generally felt by people. No, so it often results in the opposite effect.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is fundamentally different from that of young people

What parents see is that they have a stable job, preferably a car and a house, and their aesthetic standards are even more different. Young people even hope to get to know each other gradually as they get along. The important thing is to be able to live together in the future, but this is what parents cannot participate in. , so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Third, stage fright, or maybe feeling embarrassed

. Everyone's personality is different. Not everyone can talk to a stranger as calmly as if nothing happened, or as if they were an old friend for many years. Just like some people, who have been introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers since childhood, so they have a heartfelt resistance to contact with strangers.

It is the same as a person who is afraid of heights and cannot see heights; it is the same as a person with trypophobia who cannot see dense things.

That kind of fear comes from the deepest part of the heart and cannot be controlled or changed. Many parents don't understand it very well. They think that blind date is just a trivial matter. Is it necessary to be so exclusive?

There are also some people who are not good at words. Although they are usually carefree, when they meet strangers, they immediately become timid and unnatural. They don’t know what to say or what to talk about. What. As a result, the atmosphere became very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape. After experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different. What you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

The fourth and most important reason is that it feels very shameless

. Regardless of men or women, sometimes vanity is at play. When faced with a blind date, many people will have this mentality: "It's not like no one wants me, so why do I have to go on a blind date?"

As a result, many people think that only those who can't find a partner can Will go on a blind date. Why can't the object be found? It means that you are not good enough, so everyone will think that going on a blind date proves that you are not good enough. Then I worry that if my relatives and friends know about it, they will laugh at me, and I will feel very embarrassed if the news is spread. Even though blind dates have become very common, and even if many people can accept it, deep down in their hearts, they still have such scruples and worries.

Especially among young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger. Everyone is so proud of themselves, so no one wants to lose face.

Fifth, I feel that blind date is unreliable.

There is a kind of people who have been full of expectations and fantasies about love since childhood. The love and marriage in their hearts should be as beautiful and romantic as in fairy tales. Therefore, when it comes to blind dates, I am very unwilling to do so. I feel that my marriage should not be so casual and realistic.

In the deepest part of their hearts, they feel that dating is just about finding someone to live with, and it has nothing to do with love or romance.

There is another kind of person who may have left a shadow in his heart because of the misfortune around him. For example, there are couples around who got married through blind dates, but their lives are not happy after marriage; for example, there are couples around who got together through blind dates, but in the end their relationship was toyed with. Because of these examples, they directly believe that all blind dates are unreliable.

It is said that once bitten by a snake, you will be afraid of well ropes for ten years. Although you may not have experienced it yourself, because of the experiences of people around you, you will subconsciously regard it as a wake-up call for yourself. Everyone is serious about relationships, and no one wants their true feelings to be wasted or played with, so we all become cautious.

As there is a saying on the Internet, people nowadays can’t get anything because they live too clearly. We avoid the possibility of being hurt, but at the same time we may also miss the really right person.

To put it in another easy-to-understand way, dating is actually very similar to finding a job. It is impossible to say that you will be satisfied with your first job. You need to constantly coordinate, explore and talk. For example, a man is a job applicant. If you have the ability, major companies are rushing to get you. There is no need for a trial period or several rounds of interviews. It has been done for you a long time ago and is waiting for you to come to your door. On the other hand, if you don't have the ability, just stay where it's cool and make sarcastic comments.

Women are in poor condition, old and ugly, just like a company that is so poor that it is about to close down. No one cares about it. Still want to recruit people? Some people who dare to apply for jobs are old, weak, sick or disabled.

Society is reality, and reality is society.