What are some tips for euphemistic tone?

In interpersonal communication, you must be able to hear the other person's overtones and malicious intentions, otherwise you will become the butt of laughter, and you will be laughing at someone else's expense. You should also express yourself euphemistically and implicitly, and speak artistically, so that the listener can understand and understand the edge of your words. Below are some tips on euphemistic tone that I have collected for you. Welcome to learn from them.

1. Speak and listen to the sound, listen to the gongs and drums

There are a lot of things in life that don’t need to be said directly, just bring it out in the words, and you can’t say it directly. The meaning must be expressed through hints. Therefore, there is artistic language such as puns, insinuations, innuendos, and other insinuations.

In 1952, US President Richard Nixon, who was visiting the Soviet Union, would visit other cities in the Soviet Union. General Secretary of the Soviet Union moved Lezhnev to see him off at the Moscow airport. At this moment, the plane malfunctioned and one engine could not start. Airport ground staff immediately carried out emergency maintenance. Nixon and his party had to postpone boarding.

Brezhnev watched from a distance, his brows furrowing more and more. In order to cover up his predicament, he pretended to be relaxed and said: "Mr. President, I'm so sorry for wasting your time!" As he said this, he pointed to the busy crowd at the airport: "Look, what should I do?" They?

No,? Nixon said, they should improve! If they hadn't discovered the malfunction before takeoff, how terrible it would have been once the plane took off!? There was bitter irony and bitterness in Nixon's words. A bitter sarcasm, a silent accusation, but these were conveyed in words that seemed like compliments. After hearing this, I couldn't say anything except a wry smile: I don't have any unpleasant words to say, so why bother? I'm so pretentious. ?, where is the handle for ?neurosis? However, more practice in "interpreting" and "answering" can improve your ability to express unspoken meanings.

Answering the question is very simple, you can answer and echo. It doesn't seem difficult to interpret the words. In addition to speaking directly and clearly, it is easy to understand. Listening to the words and listening to the gongs and drums can also help you understand the hidden meaning. But in actual conversations, not everyone can interpret the words accurately and answer the words appropriately.

Whether the answer is correct or not, in addition to the speaker's own cultivation and ability to control language, also depends to a large extent on the accuracy of the "interpretation". Do not underestimate the "interpretation". Mistakes are not just trivial matters that create a few jokes, but also affect whether conflicts and misunderstandings may arise in interpersonal interactions.

Sometimes others may ignore your message because they don’t grasp the true meaning of your words. Let's first tell a story about misunderstanding. I hope that when you communicate with others in the future, you can make others understand that you are speaking to them.

Little Johnny said to the teacher: "I don't want to scare people, but my dad said that if my grades don't improve, someone will get beaten." ?

The possibility of misunderstanding requires us to pay attention not only to whether the literal expression is appropriate when expressing, but also whether the possible conversational connotations are appropriate. For example, there is a popular advertising slogan: Carlsberg may be the best beer in the world (there are many advertising slogans that imitate this sentence). Some people think that this advertising slogan is more realistic and not exaggerated, but if we look at it from the perspective of conversational implications, problems arise. According to the criterion of quantity, this sentence means "Carlsberg may not be the best beer in the world", which means "Carlsberg may not be the best beer in the world". Obviously, this is a useless statement that advertisers and authors are unwilling to accept. Han. Taking daily life as an example again, if you are a guest at a friend's house, you must not praise the food or exquisite exquisite products. For example, you cannot say: "This bottle of wine is so good, I have never seen it before", "This lighter is very beautiful" ?Wait, otherwise your friends will think you want to drink or ask for gifts.

However, if you say a sentence with useless connotations, there is no need to panic, because the connotations have an important characteristic, that is, they can be eliminated. According to the argument of the English linguist Gedad, the literal content of the utterance is stronger than its verbal connotation, so the utterance itself can be used to eliminate the conversational connotation.

Let’s extend the above example. When you are a guest at a friend’s house and rashly say: “This bottle of wine is so good, I’ve never seen it before”, your friend will definitely think that you want to drink this bottle of wine, because of this sentence The words themselves have the connotation of "want to drink this wine", but you don't have to panic at this time. You can change your tone: "Unfortunately, I don't have the luxury of drinking. I am allergic to alcohol." ?This will remove the connotation and make your friend relieved.

2. Hidden explanations, using softness to overcome hardness

In daily life, if you directly insult others, the listener will of course easily hear it. If the speaker uses conversational connotations to insult others, , the listener should pay more attention. The listener must not only be good at hearing the other person's malice, but also be able to "treat the other person in kind" when necessary and give the other person an implicit reply. It is said that a businessman met the poet Heine (Heine was a Jew) and said to him: I recently went to Tahiti. Do you know what caught my attention most on the island? Heine said:? Tell me, what is it? The businessman said: "On that island, there are neither Jews nor donkeys!" Heidi replied: "That's easy. If we go to Tahiti together, we can make up for this shortcoming." . ?Here the businessman compared?Jews?with?donkeys?, apparently secretly scolding?Jews, like donkeys, cannot reach the island?, but Heine heard the other party's insults and teasing, and his answer was lively, implying This businessman is a donkey, making the businessman look for trouble.

In social situations, when we encounter villains who make insinuations and criticize others, we can adopt the following strategies:

1. Use retreat to advance. Sometimes during a conversation, the purpose of retreating on the surface is actually to counterattack more powerfully, just like drawing a bow to shoot an arrow. The purpose is to pull the hand back first in order to shoot the arrow more powerfully. In ancient times, Yanzi from the state of Qi was sent as an envoy to the state of Chu. Because of his short stature, he was ridiculed by the king of Chu: "Are there no people in the state of Qi?" Yanzi said: "Pedestrians on the streets of the capital of Qi can cover the sun with one move of their sleeves, and they sweat so much." Like the rain, people were crowded together, how could there be no one? The king of Chu continued to tease: "Since there are so many people, how can we send someone like you as an envoy?" Yanzi replied: "We, the king of Qi, sent the most capable person People go to the wisest king, and the least promising people go to the worst king. I am the most hopeless person in Qi State, so I was sent to Chu State. ?The few words he said made the King of Chu blush and feel bored. Yanzi's answer in this story is to adopt the method of retreating to advance. It seems that he was devalued as the least promising, so he was sent as an envoy to the Chu State. This is a retreat?, but in fact it is a mockery of the incompetence of the King of Chu. This is an advance. Using retreat to advance, hiding needles in cotton wool, the King of Chu failed to insult Yan Zi, and was ridiculed instead.

2. Tooth for tooth. Timely and skillfully seize the loopholes in the other party's speech and strike back, to expose the ugliness, tease the ignorant, fight back against the malicious provocation, and get out of the predicament. Andersen was very simple. He once walked on the street wearing a broken hat. A passerby teased him: "What is that thing on top of your head? Can it be considered a hat?" Andersen immediately replied: "What is that thing under your hat?" ?Can it be regarded as a head? This answer of Andersen, who has been agile all his life, is to use the sentence structure of the other person's ridicule to laugh at the other person, making the onlookers feel happy and happy.

3. Use softness to complement hardness. For example, A and B have a bad relationship. Once they met in a narrow alley, A said arrogantly: I won't give you the way, what can you do to me? Can you eat me? B said slowly:? I Of course I can't eat you, because I am a Muslim. The dynamic answer seems to be asking A to compromise, but in fact it means that A is a pig.

4. Hidden edge. In some cases, a fixed tone is broken down and explained to give the original word a novel artistic conception, which can turn corruption into something strange and win applause. Once, when Zhou Enlai met an American reporter, a malicious reporter asked provocatively: "Your Excellency, Prime Minister, why do you Chinese call the road that people walk on a road?" Premier Zhou Enlai listened and proudly replied: "We Chinese The path we take is the path of Marxism, also known as the road for short. ?The reporter was speechless and embarrassed after hearing this. Premier Zhou's wonderful answer cleverly used the appeal method to create a novel meaning. Sometimes the mountains and rivers are repeated, and sometimes the flowers are dark and the flowers are bright, turning stones into gold and turning clumsiness into skill. It not only safeguarded the dignity of the Chinese people, but also cleverly hit back at the American reporter. It can be said that the hidden front is unpredictable and the abyss is unpredictable, and the exposed tax is blocked by the world's heroes.

5. There is something hidden in the words.

Generally speaking, there are two basic skills: one is to be able to hear the other party's hidden meanings and malicious intentions, otherwise you will become a laughing stock, and you will still have a smile on your face even if you are wanted. The second is to express yourself euphemistically and implicitly, and speak artistically, so that the listener can understand and understand the edge of your words. The sound of being knocked down by your enemy implies evil. This is an invisible thunderbolt that can even ruin your reputation. It must not be underestimated. The best way to deal with the evil-intentioned assassination of Fei Zhen is to be skillful in receiving escorts and return the favor. Maintaining one's reputation and face is self-protection. The necessary skills to stand in the world.

3. Refute other people’s face, stop at it If you offend someone, you will become an enemy; if someone does something wrong to you, you should be merciful and forgiving, but the expression of "forgiveness" should not be blunt; when you express your heartfelt feelings to the one you love, you should also be tactful and subtle, and try to be reckless. . Using hidden words to hint to others is a subtle skill that is indispensable at all times.

1. Refuse wisely. Some people who are asking for help are embarrassed to speak directly for various reasons and like to use hints to ask for directions. At this time you'd better refuse with hints. Two working fellows, Mr. Li, found a job in the city and told them about the difficulty of working. They repeatedly said that they could not afford to live in a hotel and there were no suitable rental houses. The implication is that I want to stay overnight. After hearing this, Li immediately hinted: "Yes, the city cannot compare with us in the countryside, and housing is very tight." Take me for example, three generations of people live in these two big houses. My son, who is in high school, has no choice but to sleep on the sofa at night. You came all the way to see me, shouldn't I let you stay at my house for a few days? But you can't do that!? After hearing this, the two fellow villagers walked away very knowingly.

2. Just pretending to be confused. The listener heard that there was something in the speaker's words, but pretended that there was nothing in the speaker's words, leaving the other party with nothing to do. For example, Xiao Ming said to his father: Dad, Xiao Wei’s father took Xiao Wei out to play today. ?Xiao Ming’s father replied: First, yes, I understand. ?The implication here is that Xiao Ming wanted to ask his father to take him out to play. Xiao Ming’s father also heard his son’s intention, but he deliberately pretended to be confused.

3. Interpretation is difficult. Make a certain explanation to express your dissatisfaction. For example: There was a woman named Zhou who was on a business trip and sat with a man who looked quite civilized on the train. The man took the initiative to strike up a conversation with her. Ms. Zhou felt that sitting alone was quite boring, so she started chatting with him. At the beginning, the man was quite well-behaved. He and Ms. Zhou just talked about how it was difficult to get on the bus and exchanged views on some unreasonable phenomena in today's society. But somehow, while they were talking, the man changed the subject and asked Ms. Zhou: "Are you married?" Ms. Zhou felt disgusted when she heard this, so she said to the man calmly: "Are you married?" Sir, I heard someone say something like this. The first half of the sentence is: "You can't ask a man about his income?", so I didn't ask about your income; the second half of the sentence is: "You can't ask a woman whether she's married?", so I'm asking your question. Can't answer! Please forgive me. ?When the man heard what Ms. Zhou said, he felt a little backward, smiled awkwardly, and stopped talking. We cannot help but admire Ms. Zhou’s adaptability. In just a few words, he not only expressed his dissatisfaction with the other party's defeat, but also did not make the other party stand down. It can be said that he killed two birds with one stone.

4. Use metaphors to stop troops. In a heated debate between the two parties, if the reasonable party believes that reasoning can no longer eliminate the differences, it may wish to use a warning language to stop the argument and end the conflict. Putting a dilemma in front of the other party, so that it loses the basis for the final struggle, may have the effect of being sincere and calming the argument. The biologist Pasteur was working in the laboratory when a man suddenly came in and accused him of cheating on his wife. During the argument, both sides proposed a duel. Pasteur, who was innocent and reasonable, could have kicked the opponent out or started a duel, but that would not solve the problem and would even cause harm to both parties. At this time Pasteur said calmly: "I am innocent." If you insist on a duel, I have the right to choose the weapon. ?The other party agreed. Pasteur pointed to the two beakers in front of him and said: Look at these two beakers, one contains smallpox virus and the other contains clean water.

You choose one bottle to drink first, and I will drink the remaining one. Is that okay? The man was stunned. He was suddenly caught in an intractable knot, and had to stop arguing and challenging, and exited the laboratory in embarrassment. . Undoubtedly, it was the soft yet prickly problem posed by Pasteur that ultimately caused the duel to fail.

5. Conversation in secret. A person's inner world can be seen from a person's expression, behavior and other body language. A well-educated lover can often sense the inner emotions of the other person from his or her every move and even his or her smile. When a boyfriend always likes to comment endlessly on his girlfriend or talent points while watching a show, his girlfriend can express her inner dissatisfaction with her trustworthy body language. For example, the look of concentration on the show means that you can't be distracted by his lectures, or you can find a magazine to read. Expressing different interests by moving the city. Gradually, the transformation will stop because there is no audience in your high school. Some boys who are passionate about love often have difficulty controlling their emotions. The look or behavior may unintentionally convey some kind of expectation. How should a smart girlfriend deal with this kind of excessive expression? Reprimanding loudly can easily hurt the other person's feelings; letting him do whatever he wants is not what he wants. Then, looking at him with angry eyes, or pulling down your face and making an indifferent expression will definitely let him know the dissatisfaction in his body, and then he will not dare to act casually.

6. There is a skill in blaming. Generally speaking, the party with the obvious advantage in an argument should never speak too harshly. Even if the other party is completely wrong, it is best to hint at him with puns and insinuations to force the other party to admit their mistakes and apologize, thus ending the useless argument with dignity. . An agency worker was eating in a restaurant and found a fly in the soup, and he couldn't help but get angry. He asked the waiter first, but the waiter ignored him completely. Later, he went to the restaurant owner in person and protested: "Is this bowl of soup for flies or for me? Please explain." ?The boss only scolded the waiter but completely ignored his protest. He had no choice but to hint to the boss: "I'm sorry, please tell me, how should I sue this fly for its infringement?" The boss then realized his mistake, hurriedly exchanged it for a bowl of soup, and said humbly: "You He is our most precious customer here!? Obviously, although this customer had the upper hand, he did not pester the boss endlessly. Instead, he used the so-called fly infringement analogy to hint to the other party: "As long as you apologize, I will forgive you." ?This naturally resolves the embarrassment of both parties in a very humorous and tactful way.