How can I become a person with a sense of humor and humor?

A sense of humor is not innate, but can be cultivated.

The key to cultivating a sense of humor is to pick jokes from each other's perspective! In other words, you have to figure out what kind of words can make the other person laugh. Not all jokes can amuse each other. A lot of things you think are funny may not be funny, or even offend each other.

Let's look at the following three examples:

In the first example, the other party uses an Android phone. You told him a story about someone who made a mistake in a function when using an Android phone and made a fool of himself in public. The other person probably can't laugh, thinking that you are criticizing him and alluding to him. At this time, if you tell him a joke that someone made a fool of himself with an Apple phone, the other person will definitely laugh and think that using an Android phone is really wise.

In the second example, the other person also knows a friend of yours. When you describe your friend's anecdote to him, the other person will feel very funny. And if the other person doesn't know this friend, it's hard for you to poke his smile.

According to the above two examples, we can know that in order to make the other party laugh and make the other party feel that you have a good sense of humor, what you say must meet two conditions at the same time: 1) It has something to do with the other party and causes the other party to sing; 2) Don't belittle each other's interests.

In addition, if what you say can let the other person vent their negative emotions, it is equivalent to making him happy and making him laugh.

For example, in this third example, the other person feels that he is poor and can't earn more money, so he is sad. At this time, if you tell him that a rich man is very rich, but his wife has cuckolded him, it is finally made public, and his wife reveals all kinds of secrets that he can't receive money, and finally the rich man goes to prison. After listening to your words, the negative emotions such as depression, anxiety and dissatisfaction accumulated in the other person's heart have been released and vented.

Therefore, those people who you think have a good sense of humor just know how to choose jokes from each other's perspective. Telling the same joke to different people may have the opposite effect.

To make the other person laugh, you must stand in the other person's perspective. Around this core, we can further cultivate a sense of humor:

1. Confidence: "Knowing how to pick jokes" is a feeling that needs constant practice to be discovered. So, you should have confidence, even if your jokes don't poke anyone's jokes at first, you can't give up. In addition, if you are not confident when telling jokes, you will reveal a kind of nervous mood, and the other party will obviously feel it, which will greatly reduce the appeal of jokes.

2. Accumulation+imitation: accumulation is input, that is, the accumulation of materials, such as watching more online jokes, cross talk jokes and spitting jokes. Imitation is output, that is, learning the expression and tone of comedians and funny network celebrities when telling jokes, and constantly practicing telling jokes to friends around them. Slowly, on this basis, you will combine your daily life, create some interesting jokes, or burst out some golden sentences when chatting with friends.

1) Pick jokes from the other side's perspective; 2) self-confidence; 3) Accumulation and imitation, through the continuous study and practice of the above three points, suddenly one day, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that one person smiled, two people smiled, three people laughed ... Finally, most people laughed!

From then on, you are recognized as a person with a sense of humor.