My wife doesn't want to communicate. What kind of psychology is it to chatter outside?

Hello, in this case, as a wife, you may feel angry, puzzled, confused and depressed.

There are several possibilities to understand this phenomenon from the perspective of psychological motivation.

1, want to get more recognition. As a man, if his sense of self-worth is gained by being recognized by others, then he wants to gain a sense of identity by speaking outside. If the wife can't give her the identity she needs, it will strengthen the behavior of men seeking identity outside.

2. Not being fully listened to. Men, like women, also have feelings and events to express. Sometimes at home, for various reasons, the wife is unwilling or can't understand what her husband says, which will make men feel incomprehensible and invisible. Therefore, it will make men have the need to speak out.

3. Have negative emotions or perceptions about your wife. There are inevitably contradictions and conflicts between husband and wife, and men rarely express their grievances and unwillingness under the "bondage" of social roles. So "cold violence" is often used to express it. For example, don't talk to your wife, but talk outside.

Of course, in addition, the influence of men's own "love rat" attribute or the breakup of husband and wife's feelings cannot be ruled out.

In short, if you encounter such a situation, as a wife, you can try to express your feelings to your husband without criticism. At the same time, find more topics that are intimate with her husband.

I think such people are arrogant and arrogant.

At home, I feel that I am the only one who can dominate the world. My wife and I have little communication. I feel very smart, and I talk endlessly outside to show my erudition, show off myself, win praise from others and enjoy my psychological happiness.

Hello! I have a deep understanding of this subject, because my grandfather is such a typical figure. He talked endlessly with others outside, and once he got home or saw his wife, he never wanted to communicate again. What kind of psychology should he have? I think the reason is a kind of contempt, because he despises my grandmother from the bottom of his heart and thinks that his pattern is higher, and his wife is just a blind man coming from feudal society.

No matter my grandfather or other such people, whenever they have such behavior, I think most of them have a strong self-esteem and an unequal relationship between husband and wife, or they have long been alienated and indifferent to each other. Of course, this way of getting along is not normal, which has buried many potential hidden dangers for the relationship between husband and wife. Let me just talk about my grandfather!

Although my grandfather disliked her from the first day he married her, he has been in the same boat for more than 60 years. They have long been accustomed to this kind of "men are superior to women" family life, and they are insensitive. Just like Huang Gai of Zhou Yu, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer, but we young generation will never be able to point out the maze and change this situation in a few words.

Although grandpa is a farmer to the core, he studied hard when he was young. If he were now, he would probably be a master of science. He is good at math. At that time, he played abacus well and later became the village accountant. However, grandpa's IQ is superior, but his EQ is worrying. He is just too honest and outspoken to know how to beat around the bush. Because he is outspoken, he often offends others without knowing it, which leads him to make enemies all around the village, and everyone "complains" him behind his back. His personality and way of dealing with people doomed his early death in "official career". A year later, someone in the village took grandpa's place. Because grandpa couldn't kiss up, was unsociable and couldn't turn a blind eye to the problems in the accounts, he was "expelled from class" in obscurity, but he didn't complain a word, like a gourd, but his heart was like a mirror.

Frustrated grandfather never tells his grandmother about his work when he comes home, no matter whether it is good or bad, he just holds his breath in his heart, but he will never confide in his grandmother. He thinks that a housewife like grandma is only suitable for cooking and serving the young and the old, and she knows nothing else. Even if she did, she would read her own jokes. Grandpa with strong self-esteem will never be tolerated.

Now, grandpa is old and still keeps the habit of reading newspapers every day. Although he is in a remote rural area, he is keen to care about state affairs. Every time I have a long talk with the villagers, he explains the current affairs news in those newspapers. Everyone just listened attentively to him and listened to his analysis, but he couldn't get in a word. He could only sigh that Grandpa was knowledgeable. The crowd dispersed and everyone went home. Grandpa went back to the house and sat down, but he just wanted to do his own thing. Grandma cooked in the smoky kitchen. ...

Grandpa's life is bumpy, and it seems that he was born at the wrong time. Later, he married a woman he didn't like. He took the initiative to talk to his grandmother, mostly when he accused or abused her. Maybe so, he can vent some disappointment. Later, grandma was deaf and couldn't hear grandpa's scolding. Grandpa raised the decibel and shouted in grandma's ear. The neighbors heard it, but grandma was still indifferent. ...

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Men who don't want to talk to their wives talk to others at home. What kind of psychology is this man? Psychologically, this kind of man should be a cheap wife.

Men hate cheap wives for the following reasons:

The wife is at her in-laws' house. In addition to her husband, her mother-in-law has the most contact. Mother-in-law's every move, every word and deed will attract his wife's attention.

The wife's feelings about her mother-in-law's actions, words and deeds are often used as a topic of communication with her husband. When communicating, the wife is mostly self-righteous and holds a negative view of her mother-in-law.

As soon as the husband hears his wife say, it's not fucking. Can he play his wife's harmony? He will never respond to his wife's malicious comments on his mother, because it is the mother who gave birth to him and raised him, and he wants to protect her. To this end, he will hate his wife's disrespect for his mother!

Some of our wife's female compatriots don't understand this. When they have time to chat with their husbands, they always criticize their mother-in-law over and over again. Can that husband not be disgusted?

In this way, the wife who loves to spit out her mother-in-law in front of her husband will definitely not be rejected by her husband. In the future, my husband can't bear to talk to his wife in order to keep his ears clean!

Sometimes, couples have nothing to say, probably because they have different interests and don't talk to each other. As a result, husband and wife gradually have nothing to say. This so-called lover talks more than half a sentence!

My friend Xu likes reading and calligraphy. Wife Zhang junior high school culture.

One day, Xu invited some friends from the calligraphy circle to have a pen meeting at home.

Between the host and the guest, chatting while writing a book.

Xu is good at official script. It was suggested that the new reading desk in Xujiang County Park should be written in official script and inscribed with a plaque for future generations to learn from. Xu said modestly, "Climb high and look far, make contributions ..." Xu's voice did not fall. Zhang Lu is out of date, and after listening to her husband say "Climb high to make meritorious deeds", she couldn't help saying "Climb high to make meritorious deeds, and feel refreshed".

Zhang's lame answer made everyone burst into laughter.

Zhang asked, "What are you laughing at? Did I say something wrong? ″

A guest said to Zhang, "Mrs Xu, you are really modest. He means to write a plaque for the reading desk in the county, but it is still difficult for him to be a big post. Therefore, he said modestly,' Climbing high is looking at the crowd', which means inviting another high surname. But his words haven't finished, you can use your understanding of his half sentence to answer, and the result distorts the original intention of his words, so everyone laughs ... "

The liberation of the guests made Zhang retreat, lost evidence and slammed the door angrily.

Afterwards, Xu said to his wife, "Don't pout when there is a literate person present, lest you laugh at others' generosity!" ″

"Xu, in the future, don't let your educated friends come to my house to make irresponsible remarks!" Zhang rejected her husband's suggestion.

Instead of listening to her husband's advice, Zhang angered the visitors. Is her husband interested in communicating with her in the future?

In a family, the husband doesn't want to communicate with his wife. There are reasons for both husband and wife.

How to make peace between husband and wife?

When talking with couples, try not to offend the reputation of their relatives. Once offended, not only will the wound be difficult to heal, but it will also lead to endless quarrels and disharmony between husband and wife.

Husband and wife should go in opposite directions in their hobbies, and never go their separate ways.

When Korean dramas were popular in China, many wives loved watching them, and even took their husbands who didn't like watching Korean dramas with them. Isn't it unpleasant again?

At this point, why don't the husband make do with his wife and watch a few episodes with her? After reading it, it is a very pleasant thing to exchange views, talk about experiences and narrow the psychological distance between husband and wife.

Those husbands who love reading books must feel something after reading a book and want to communicate with their wives. If a wife cares about the book her husband reads, she will look through the contents of that book. Don't couples have a common topic?

Close relatives of husband and wife should create more topics of common interest. If so, they will have a full moon every night, wouldn't it be enviable!

There are two situations. First, there is something wrong with the emotional communication with my wife, which needs to be repaired urgently. The second is that the relationship between husband and wife is very good. Everything in the family is decided by the wife, and the wife at home is relatively strong.

There are many such families in real life, which is also a problem that needs our social attention. The bonds that maintain emotional and family relationships are relatively fragile. If you don't do it well, there will be problems, which should really attract the attention of families and society. We need the active involvement of the third party, do more targeted work, promote the emotional exchange between husband and wife, and promote the development of this family in a better and more harmonious direction.

The reason for this phenomenon is the husband and wife's own problems first. It is often said that people with high emotional intelligence always put themselves in others' shoes and can correctly handle the relationship between people. Unfortunately, both husband and wife are not people with high emotional intelligence, and they always put themselves first when they encounter things. Over time, the emotional communication between husband and wife is basically bickering. In the long run, I will get tired of the communication between husband and wife, even don't want to communicate with my wife, and I will talk endlessly outside.

The second reason is that there is a big gap between the social status and wealth possession of husband and wife. There are problems in the adaptation period after getting married, and there is no timely communication. The contradictions are piling up, and there is nothing to say between husband and wife. All these problems need the timely intervention of a third party, through which the husband and wife can re-establish their feelings and start to maintain their family life. Avoid husbands who don't want to communicate with their wives at home and chatter outside. The third reason is that the wife's strong position in the family should be changed. As the saying goes, you must tie the bell to solve the problem. His wife realized her own shortcomings, took the initiative to be patient and meticulous, and even used some flattering tricks. What kind of man can't stand it, let alone his own husband. Active communication between husband and wife is the best way to solve the problem. Under such an offensive, what kind of husband doesn't want to communicate with his wife, and he will never chatter outside.

In short, when the husband doesn't want to communicate with his wife, the family is in trouble, so don't take it lightly. Both husband and wife should show great enthusiasm and patience to maintain the healthy development of the family, so that the family will always maintain harmony, stability and long-term stability.

What you do at home is yourself, and what you do when you go out is others.

Another way is to chat with your husband. He ignores you, so you can only talk to someone else.

This happens because it is better to quarrel when you talk than not to talk. So you can speak freely when playing outside, but you can keep your mouth shut when you are with your wife.