I met my girlfriend's family for the first time. Should I spend the Spring Festival in Xi 'an?

I went to college in Xi 'an. There are many students in Xi 'an. It's been four years, so you should know everything. Hanzhong women, marry Han, dress and eat. My girlfriend is willing to take you home, and I hope you can join this family one day. I want you to meet her parents. I hope they will become your parents one day. So boys, please seize this rare opportunity. When you go to your parents' house for the first time, you should bring gifts. Men rarely "lose blood" several times in their lives. You must spend some money this time.

Whether my father-in-law likes drinking or not, it is necessary to bring two bottles of good wine. Two bottles of Maotai and Wuliangye will do. In fact, it is no problem to get two bottles of delicious dry red. But whether your father-in-law smokes or not, even Chinese cigarettes, you'd better not bring them. You know, even if your father-in-law likes it, your mother-in-law won't like it. Please keep this in mind. (In fact, in most cases, as long as the son-in-law that the mother-in-law likes is generally close. Of course, good tea can be brought.

Moreover, it is more intimate to bring something they like and need. Naturally, I got a lot of points (you can ask your GF). No tonic, little use, no time to eat. The main shelf life is too short. Remember to bring at least three things, but don't bring four (not four or six). Is there an old saying? "Things are not enough, fruits make up." . In fact, the multifunctional soymilk machine is also good, and beans are a treasure that women can't live without for a lifetime. Don't worry, it's not too heavy. If it is too much, she can give it to your grandmother, indicating that it is from you. Kill two birds with one stone!

It's best to wear casual clothes, not too personal. If you are used to wearing a T-shirt, wear it with leather shoes, as long as it is clean and neat. Pay special attention to your soles, or clean them before you go. Don't step on a room full of plum blossoms. This is more important than face, paying attention to details.

The opening remarks at the door are very important. "Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth". It's better to call uncle and aunt, but uncle and aunt are a little too polite. Ps: If your girlfriend keeps a dog at home, you should go back twice when your parents-in-law are not at home. It is also a magic weapon for dogs to be familiar with and like you. Otherwise, you will suffer. Barking dogs will always affect your communication with your family, and your impression will be greatly reduced.

Don't wander into the house. Sitting on the sofa. Don't sit too stiff, but don't put your back on the sofa either. After all, this is not your home. Remember to communicate with your father-in-law. If he turns on the TV, you should try not to pay too much attention to the specific content on TV, in case he suddenly throws you a question. Before you can react, you will naturally be illogical and may stutter a little. Speak with "tie" and be kind and warm. After lunch, my father-in-law may talk less. In order to prevent embarrassment, you can talk to someone who is most familiar with current politics or professional counterparts, but make sure that your father-in-law likes and cares about it, and you will have a very speculative conversation. Otherwise, if you talk too much, your father-in-law will become an out-and-out audience. Don't put the cart before the horse! Even if you talk a lot, you should know that your purpose is not to make him feel that you are knowledgeable, but to make him happy and amuse him. If he likes it, you are all right. Note: Never tell a cold joke, let alone a dirty joke. You can't say a word if you are uncivilized, or you will be sentenced to death.

Women generally prefer to entertain their son-in-law at home for the first time, especially when your mother-in-law can cook a good dish. But the biggest disadvantage of cooking at home is the long time. It is possible that my mother-in-law will be busy in the kitchen for a long time, which requires you to have a little insight. Go to the kitchen more often, chat with my aunt, be caring and attentive, and let her divert her attention so that she won't feel tired.

Don't be too busy if you can't cook, or you will be self-defeating. Don't be afraid to cook, and she won't ask you for help. Just remember to help clear the table and sweep the floor after dinner. (But at this time, if she asks if you can cook, don't be too honest, just say that you can cook a tomato and scrambled eggs or something, or that you are learning to cook. In short, she won't let you do it, but she psychologically hopes you can do it. After all, no one wants their daughter to suffer with you. Don't forget to praise your aunt's cooking when eating at the dinner table. If she cooks eight courses, you'd better eat everything. You should tell her by actions that "everything is delicious as long as it is cooked by aunt". Taboo words on the table are also very important. Look your girlfriend in the eye and act. Generally speaking, GF can't tell you all her parents' likes and dislikes in detail, and the conversation is unpredictable. But MM should pay attention, if what he says is inappropriate or sensitive, help him out quickly and move on to the next topic that your parents must like as soon as possible. )

It is best to talk 1~2 hours after dinner, and then take the initiative to leave. When chatting, ask your parents-in-law for advice. You can't pretend to understand if you know. Let them answer more questions for you, which will not only make them feel that you are studious and modest. It also satisfies their psychology of being a teacher, knowing that your GF doesn't listen to them at home. So they won't feel sleepy. Kill two birds with one stone. Around 2~3 pm, you should leave. You know, after 4 o'clock, it's the so-called dinner time, which is a no-no.

Before going out, your parents-in-law will tell you "Don't buy anything next time", so don't take it seriously. It is strange that many people are very polite. Remember to say goodbye to them politely and signal that you will come to see them often. This will not only pave the way for your next visit, but also make them feel that one more person is more concerned and warmer.