How to be a gentle girl

How to be a gentle girl

1. Control the desire to show off

The more you like to show off in front of others, it will often make people unhappy. Facts have proved that showing off is not good except making enemies for yourself, causing trouble and pulling hatred. Be sure to believe that if a person is awesome enough, others will definitely see it. The fault of people lies in being a good teacher. The more they talk about it all day, the more they show high-profile and competitive people, and there is no great promise.

2, get rid of the problem of outspoken

There is a saying that I don't know when I don't say it properly, "Don't say it at all. Think before you speak, especially if you don't know your personality. In front of people, try to be convergent and peaceful. If it's too cold, heat it up, if it's too radical, calm it down. Before joking, think about whether others will be comfortable and laugh when they hear this, otherwise you will be a joke in others' eyes.

3. Don't promise easily, and do everything you say

Don't promise easily, and don't agree to other people's requests easily. When others ask you for help, think before you agree. Don't just say yes before you finish listening, but later you screw up and don't borrow money easily, and it's very hurtful to borrow money. If it is necessary to borrow, be sure to say in advance when to return it, take the initiative to pay back the money when it is due, and give some compensation to others by the way, or take a small gift as a gift.

4. Accept yourself as an ordinary person

Accepting yourself as an ordinary person is the first step to become extraordinary. Some people are afraid of ordinary life, so they try their best to disguise themselves. As everyone knows, growing up with your heart is to shake hands with this increasingly dull life. Accept the fact that you are an ordinary person, and you will not become eager for quick success because of your slow pace. In interpersonal relationships, everyone helps each other with one foot deep and one foot shallow, which is the real world.

5. Admit that you are not that important to others.

Perhaps you have been timid because you stood on the podium, and you were depressed because of a speech, but later you found that not many people cared about your performance. Don't be afraid to let others see your shortcomings, edges and shadows, and don't worry about those nonexistent audiences. Deduction doesn't fit your life script. When you let go of this self-imposed psychological pressure, you will live more comfortably and freely.

6. No matter what happens, control your emotions first

Don't turn the first step to solve the problem into venting your emotions. Don't panic when things happen, first stabilize your emotions, and then start to deal with problems. Don't make too many complaints and entanglements about things that have become a foregone conclusion, accept the reality and think of countermeasures immediately. Who can hate a girl who is emotionally stable and dedicated to solving problems?

7. Don't be arrogant and learn to put yourself in the other's shoes

A girl who is arrogant and wants others to put her first in everything, but has no empathy, really makes people dislike her. It is very important to put yourself in the other's shoes and understand others. I don't mean that you should become self-sacrificing, but think from the perspective of others and understand and understand each other's difficulties. In short, if you are gentle with others, others will give you a spring breeze.

8. Don't tell everyone about your difficulties and experiences.

Crying about poverty, selling badly, and having a broken heart won't solve any problems, but will only spread your troubles and negative energy to the people around you. You should know that sunny people can attract the favor and closeness of others. Just know and digest your own misfortunes. Many people have their own problems, and there is no reason to help you solve them.

9. Don't gossip behind your back

Many people like to talk a few words of rubbish and gossip. Please don't do this! Especially in the same circle, when you finish talking with your front foot, your back foot will spread to that person's ear. There are many people who are right and wrong. Watch your mouth, don't talk nonsense, and know what to say on what occasions. If you don't bother yourself, others will never bother you.

1. Beautiful and self-aware, but she doesn't show her edge.

A lovely woman must be naturally, truly and sincerely beautiful and self-aware, but she doesn't deliberately show her edge. She won't use her beauty to find a sense of existence in her circle of friends, and she won't use her beauty to "find convenience" and "take advantage" for herself. She is frank, sincere, and doesn't pretend to do anything, and shows her true and natural self to people around her.