"Always compete with the same interests, not with fools."

The first time I saw it on Ode to Joy, it felt quite reasonable. Arguing with like-minded people or people with high IQ can improve themselves, but what's the point of arguing with fools except belittling themselves?

What I want to talk about here is the book Owl by Lao Yang.

The book takes 22 stories as the main line, directly hitting the lens of utilitarian society and cruel reality, exposing your self-pity, inferiority, self-deception and self-contradiction, and telling you that your ideal life is: efficient social interaction, clean circles, self-disciplined life and people who enjoy it. For you who are not smooth, sophisticated, immature, naive, and don't want to be bad or too good.

I like the humorous, sharp and realistic sentences in the book. This is really a refreshing book. I'll extract some and recommend them to you.

1, your balance is not much, but there are many payment methods; You don't earn much, but you want to buy a lot. You have learned many tips to save money, the most common one is "don't buy"; When the waiter asks you "cash or credit card", you can't wait to ask: can you wash dishes?

2. Some people pursue the distance because there are dreams and poems in the distance. You pursue a distant place because you are a stranger there, which helps to hide "the unhappiness of the moment" and "the ugliness that has been created".

3, the best mentality is: like what you like as usual, but allow yourself not to have it for the time being; Oppose things but accept the objective existence.

The best way is: don't waste time and energy on things that can pass quietly; If you can solve the problem with words, don't swear. There are really not many people worthy of your character and education.

You just need to remember: if you want to be a big tree, don't compete with the grass; The general has a sword and doesn't cut flies.

If quarreling can solve the problem, then shrewish must be a high-paying profession; If everything can be solved by growling, then donkeys will rule the world.

What I call "sedate" is that I can get away with it in unnecessary arguments, exercise restraint in words and deeds that others don't like, and laugh off the provocation that doesn't hurt my bones.

My so-called "down-to-earth" means that you don't need to "obey others" to gain a sense of security, you don't need to "belittle others" to gain a sense of superiority, and you don't need to "be seen" to gain a sense of existence; Is to be able to face everything calmly and know what you should do, what you shouldn't do and what you don't have to do.

When I say "sober", I mean that you still value yourself when others don't take you seriously; When someone flatters you, don't take yourself too seriously; No matter how crazy, impetuous and complicated the world is, you can always be alert, kind and spotless.

By "opinion", I mean that your judgment is based on the information you have, then you analyze and think, and then you come to a conclusion independently, not because nine out of ten people say so, so you say so.

What I mean by "discretion" is the capital that has the power to push people in the past, but will not deviate; Sharp, but not offensive; Have wisdom superior to others, but will not usurp the role of master; There is friendship that cares about each other, but there is no bottom line.

In this way, you won't worry about the last relationship, and you won't be afraid of the next one. Stone lion

I try to be polite, just to show that I don't want anything to do with you.

6. You should remember that it is either a yes or a no.

7. When you can't "spit lotus flowers", you should know that "silence is golden". Choosing to shut up voluntarily means that I'm not speechless, but I don't want to waste time on you, so wait, wait for you to shut up.

8. It is better to remain silent like a fool than to prove that you are an asshole when you open your mouth.

9. Rationality makes people clearly know that they are wrong, but sensibility makes people ignore making mistakes again and again.

10, lovelorn is a lonely battle. You can talk to someone, but you have to bear it yourself after all.

1 1. Someone asked Haruki Murakami: "How can we ensure lasting creative enthusiasm?" Murakami gave an example of running. "I don't want to run today, so I ran. This is the way of thinking of long-distance runners. "

12, when you are desperate, you are lucky, you are lazy, and you shout "Everything is the best arrangement"; When it's time to make progress, you feel sorry for yourself and fantasize and shout, "If not, I believe there are other plans."

Wait until others have passed you, wait until you are killed by inhuman life, and you suddenly realize that it is an arrangement not to be arranged.

13, many times, do your best, only to ensure that you will not fall behind too much.

14, please, please don't let your plans at the beginning of the year become jokes at the end of the year.

15. When meeting such a person, the best attitude is to smile, shut up and do things with your heart.

16, rumors stop at the wise, and prejudice stops at "hehe".

17. Forgive them, forgive them and try not to respond to them. You know, sometimes you are one of them.

18, Lu Xinning, a famous media person, once said, "My only fear is that you no longer believe."

I don't believe that rules can overcome hidden rules, that academic fields are different from officialdom, that academics are not equal to politics, and that character is far better than obsequiousness. You may not believe it, because more and more people pursue hierarchy, and fewer and fewer people pursue truth; More and more people talk about treatment, less and less about ideals; There are more and more high-ranking officials, but fewer and fewer masters. So, when you step into the society, what I want to say is, please take care of your passion and ideal. In this age of doubt, we still need faith. "

19, how do villains do bad things? The first is to exploit the loopholes; The second is have it both ways; The third is to enhance their sense of existence by denying others; Fourth, no wind can set off a three-foot wave.

20. What you once expected of yourself was: like a child in the sun, simple and interesting; Like an adult in the storm, calm and calm.

2 1, so don't feel that you have fallen to the bottom of your life when you are young. In fact, you still have a lot of room to fall.

22. Someone asked, "Why do many people miss Myanmar's youth?" The answer that impressed me is this: because youth can cover up many problems. Poverty is nothing, after all, it is still young; It doesn't matter if you don't have enough education, as long as your character is not bad; It's okay to be too lazy to exercise, and your metabolism is high ... However, when the fig leaf of youth is removed, poverty, laziness and ugliness can't be concealed. "

23. Silence is indeed an attitude worth promoting. But its core should be "doing things quietly", not "doing nothing quietly".

24. As Mr. Hu Shi said: "Everything that was yesterday has become me today. Don't think about it, let alone mourn. From now on, how to harvest, how to plant. "

25, now you don't try to let yourself live the life you want, then. You will have plenty of time to live the life you don't want.

26. I keep saying that I don't want to disturb others, but I am always disturbing others. Seemingly trying to avoid disturbing others, in fact, I hope to enjoy the right of "others helping me", but I don't want to undertake the obligation of "gratitude or return".

27. Because of weakness, your right to choose, speak and take the initiative will not belong to you. So, don't rush to find contacts, friends and bosom friends all over the world. Practice your skills first.

28. Make money hard and learn to spend money. By making money and spending money, you can show your ability and value and feel the richness and excitement of life, instead of showing your budget by buying a bunch of useless things and then frowning in front of a bunch of clothes you don't like.

Cheap goods only make people happy at the moment of payment, but they make you unhappy at every moment of use; Good things only make people feel distressed at the moment of paying the bill, but they make people feel valuable at every moment of use.

In other words, good things often have only one "expensive" disadvantage, while cheap goods probably have only one "cheap" advantage.

29. Temperament comes from calmness brought by experience and humiliation brought by strength.

30. You can listen to everything, but you can't believe everything; You can do whatever you want, but don't go with the flow. If you have a strong heart, you will not listen to the wind and rain; If you know more things, you won't follow suit.

3 1, "once a person enters a group, his IQ will drop seriously. In order to gain recognition, you will give up your opinion and exchange your IQ for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe.

32. The most common mistake children make is not lack of time to accompany them, nor lack of filial piety, but always being there.

True filial piety is that although you don't believe what they say so much, you are willing to listen to them; Although you don't like what they do, you support them.

33, so when you leave, don't slam the door hard, thinking that you may come back; Don't go too far when you disagree, because you may regret it.

More patience, less regret and more steps; Less harsh words, less embarrassment and more space.

Only in this way can you appear calm.

What "Monday morning quarterback" is best at is not finding out "where the problem is" or thinking about "how to solve the problem", but telling others fully and clearly that "you are wrong, I already knew it". The outstanding feature is: let others try and make mistakes first, and then make yourself proud.

35. If one day in the future, he suddenly overturns his point of view, or it turns out that his original judgment is wrong, then you should stop saying "Look, I told you so …" and reflect on why you are not convincing.

36. Life often takes two paths: one is what you have to take and the other is what you want to take. You must embark on a beautiful road before you have a chance to embark on the road you want to take.

37. Human emotional problems often come from two aspects: one is too much desire, and the other is unaffordable.

38. Only by doing the things in front of you one by one can we get close to that more ideal self!

39. The best mentality is: like what you like as usual, but allow yourself not to have it for the time being; What is opposed is still opposed, but it is allowed to exist.