What's with the second-grade girl passing notes in class?

"You don't love me at all. You don't love Dong at all, and Huo doesn't love me. " This is a note written by a boy to a girl in grade two of a primary school in our city. However, psychologists say, don't over-interpret "love" and misinterpret children's initial "like".

Notes on "Love" by Grade Two Students

"Xiao Ming (a pseudonym), a note for the teacher." A few days ago, Mr. Li (a pseudonym), who teaches grade two in a primary school in our city, just entered the classroom and saw a small note flying from one desk to another.

"When I opened the note and saw the contents above, I was really surprised, but my expression was still very calm. It is no different for students to open textbooks and start classes. " Yesterday afternoon, Mr. Li told reporters that the note said, "You don't love me at all, you don't love me at all, even if you are Huo, I don't love you." It's nothing new for a sophomore to pass a note, but it's the first time she has seen a note with such content.

Student: "Like" means making friends with her.

"This kid writes well." Miss Li said with a smile, after class, she returned to the office and looked at the language of two lines of words and pinyin interwoven on Tian Zige's paper. "I think this should be a sincere friendship between children. Later, I called the child to the office and asked him what he did wrong today. He said that classroom discipline should not be violated. I asked him what love was. He said, "I like it" and want to be friends with that girl ... "

Teacher Li said that it can be seen from the children's words that this should only be an ignorant affection between children, which is very different from the love between adults.

"I think he is more handsome." "I think he is good at telling jokes." ..... The reporter learned in the interview that in the second and third grades of primary school, cute and interesting children are very popular with students of the opposite sex, and academic performance is not the main reason that affects whether children like each other.

Parents: It's just children's naive thoughts.

According to Teacher Li, Xiao Ming's mother didn't reprimand the child for it, only thought it was the child's naive idea.

"Now there are topics about love in TV dramas, comics and even comics, and children will inevitably imitate them." Teacher Li said that she also talked about this issue when communicating with many parents.

"My girl is very close to a boy in the class. I always quietly inquire into her mind and invite the little boy to play at home. In fact, we should not destroy this pure friendship between children. " Ms. Wang, a 36-year-old citizen, told reporters that when she was at school, the teacher was very strict about "puppy love". Originally, boys and girls just liked each other, but after all kinds of education from teachers and parents, they became rebellious.

Ms. Wang said that she has experienced such an experience since childhood, so she has always been more open-minded when educating her children.

Expert: Parents communicate with their children more and misinterpret less.

Is there love between children? In the interview, Xu, a national second-level psychological counselor, told reporters that everyone will experience feelings when they grow up. When they understand love and gain love, that is true love. However, before puberty, boys and girls are not physically mature. They are just based on deep friendship and ignorant goodwill. "Love" and "love" are both "disguises" of role-playing.

"The reason why children use these languages is inseparable from the influence of film and television works and books. Parents can guide their children to watch more TV and books suitable for their age and communicate with them more. Too much interference with the normal development of children's emotions will be counterproductive. " Xu said that it is a misunderstanding to talk about children's "love" in the second and third grades. Under normal circumstances, children begin to pay attention to others and establish small circles around the age of 7; At the age of 8, I began to try to make relatively stable friends. This kind of communication between boys and girls has little to do with gender.