Comments on Jin Zhiying Born in 1982

There is a reason why a work can arouse people's response and voice. Undoubtedly, the influence of words is far-reaching. Just like the film adapted from this novel of the same name, those dull pictures bring people deep feelings, which make people think deeply and realize the truth and cruelty of society.

At the beginning of the film, Jin Zhiying stood in front of the balcony with the afterglow of the sunset, staring blankly into the distance. The daughter in the room was playing with toys in the living room, playing with dark colors, which made the film begin. However, she was white and beautiful, but she always felt something was missing, just like a body.

maybe it's enthusiasm and vigor. I braved the pressure of my elders to get pregnant and have children. After having children, I quit my job to take care of my work and children, dressed in plain clothes all day, and juggled with food, clothing, housing, housework, husband, children and shit paper pants. More good wife, good mother, good daughter-in-law, but less yourself. She likes to go to work with high heels in high spirits so much. However, due to the reality, Zhiying, who has been unable to truly express herself for a long time, has suffered from postpartum depression.

Sometimes, she is in an empty daze, standing at the window in the middle of the night and looking out; Sometimes I talk to my husband in the tone of mother, grandmother and other women. Fortunately, her husband is still considerate (the film portrays her husband as more warm-hearted than the original), finds her abnormality in time, tries to share the pressure of taking care of the baby for her, wants to take a year's parental leave at home when she can't find a suitable nanny, hugs and encourages her when she is getting deeper and deeper into a trance, and says with anger, distress and tears in her eyes when Zhiying wants to wronged a job that she doesn't like part-time: I am doing my favorite job now, and I always feel that you are marrying me.

movies are beautiful, but the reality is often not so friendly. How many women are single and become superwomen, with one hand holding the baby and one hand doing the housework, and how many men support life and take care of the baby in marriage, and encourage their wives to bravely pursue their own careers, etc., are still rare. On the contrary, it is all kinds of dissatisfaction after work. If you leave your baby and go back to the workplace, some people will say that you are not a good mother, and you will dislike that you are not independent and have no income at home full time. All kinds of social noises are always groundless. It seems that I wish all my mothers could become women and become the women in everyone's eyes.

Zhi Ying, who was waiting in line to get a drink in the store, was dragged by her daughter's crying, and the drink spilled all over the floor, and there was a look of indifference and disgust around her. Three professionals called her "mother bug" on the internet. Zhi Ying was scolded by her later hand and expressed her dissatisfaction indignantly for the first time. It's disrespectful to tell people what to do if you haven't experienced other people's lives! But in the conservative society at that time, the status of women has been suffering from inequality.

First of all, son preference is serious. Zhiying's mother has been educated like this since she was a child. It's useless for girls to study, so it's useless for boys to study. Obviously, Zhiying's mother is the most suitable for studying, and she has a dream of being a teacher, but she has to give up her studies for her brothers and work to earn money for them to study.

After marriage, I was busy with my children's livelihood and never played my role. I am also ashamed that the first two children didn't give birth to a boy. After seeing the two granddaughters born, my mother-in-law said to her: Nothing, add oil to the next child and give birth to a boy. After learning from the doctor alone that the third child is also a girl in the hospital, Zhiying's mother stayed in bed at night and asked her father: What if, I mean, what if this child is a girl again? I wish what he said was: nothing, boys and girls are the same. However, what he said was: Don't crow, go to sleep. Zhiying's mother bit her lip and sobbed all night, but she couldn't bear to go to the hospital the next day and took off the child.

The fourth child finally gave birth to a boy. From then on, Eun-young and Zhi-ying had a younger brother. Since then, grandma and dad's preference for younger brother has never stopped. And grandma said in front of the guests: fortunately, I have four sons, and now I am living so well, I must have four. It's just that her doting little son didn't give him all the good things now.

Secondly, the ambiguity in sex education. At school, there are exhibitionists standing on the grass. When a female student sees the booing, it is always the girl who is scolded, and no one stops the pervert. The most impressive thing is that Zhiying was followed by a male classmate all the way from the bus to the bus stop sign after class at night. Fortunately, she was helped by an enthusiastic lady and scared away the boys. When my father came to accompany Zhiying home, he said that Zhiying should not go to such a far place to study, cancel it immediately, and should not wear short skirts. This is what they get at home and at school. She grew up under such education: "girls should be careful in everything, dress conservatively and behave appropriately;" Dangerous time and dangerous people should know how to avoid it themselves, otherwise the problem lies in those who don't know how to avoid it. " The film wrote. It seems that no one will accuse men of their mistakes and teach themselves that boys respect girls and don't cross the line.

furthermore, it is not easy for women in the workplace. Zhiying finally got into a more suitable company, and she likes this job, working hard and making progress. There is only one woman among the four executives in a company. By the time of the first promotion, two men with obviously inferior skills were promoted, while two women with better skills had no chance. It is understood that it is because this project team needs several years and is too lazy to face the holiday of female employees getting married and raising children, or it is more reliable to choose male employees. The company's difficult customers are always distributed to women. The leader privately said: Don't suppress the momentum of male employees, after all, male employees are more stable for a long time.

From enrollment to employment, everything is men's priority. After eating boys and girls, the monitor will always be men, and three-thirds of the executives in the workplace are men. Although it seems to be a progressive society, it still retains the stereotype of men and women. Moreover, women are often disrespected in their daily work. They openly joke about dirty jokes, keep drinking at dinners, and install cameras in women's toilets. The male staff took the lead in finding out and shared private photos without telling them. After finally being caught by the defendant, they also said indignantly: It's not that we installed the cameras, we just paid to watch them regularly. Why should we be arrested? Listen, isn't this the Korean sexual harassment and the N-room incident that have appeared repeatedly in recent years? Disgusting and horrible.

No matter whether we were born and raised, or before or after marriage, besides ourselves, the person who loves us the most is always our mother. Although in such a patriarchal social atmosphere, although the son has always been the mainstay in the family, Zhiying's mother will try her best to love her three children and give them more equal love except her father and grandmother. Grandma loves her mother, and her mother loves her daughter. This love continues from generation to generation. After her mother-in-law learned that her son wanted to take a year's parental leave, she made a burst of angry words at Zhiying and called her mother-in-law to tell her this absurdity.

Zhiying's mother defended her daughter's right and replied firmly, ↓

Because she didn't get equal treatment in marriage and the help of her mother-in-law and husband, she didn't want her daughters to follow in the footsteps. After learning from her mother-in-law that her daughter was suffering from depression and occasionally talked nonsense, she was extremely distressed. She immediately let go of her work and went to her daughter's residence alone, giving Zhiying a warm hug and confessing that she would come to help take care of her niece after handling the meal. At any time, the mother loves her children the most.

Zhiying stopped instantly after hearing this, and suddenly turned into a grandmother's voice and said something to her mother, asking her not to come and help her with the children, because she knew how her mother had come over for so many years, always helping her family and thinking of others, and never living for herself. She didn't want to let her mother get into trouble because of her own life. After hearing this, my mother instantly wet her eyes with tears, holding Zhiying in her arms and saying with distress: My daughter, my Zhiying, how did this happen?

Yes, only the mother who is a woman understands the difficulty of a woman better. The word "mother" is really just a cry, and everyone feels warm.

It is said that if there are three children in the family, the second child is the most likely to be neglected. From Deshan in 1988, colleagues in life, and Zhiying here. From their stories, I learned that they have older sisters and younger brothers, and they have suffered some inequalities and neglect in their family growth! And they are usually the most clever and sensible, but when they grow up, they will easily think of others and ignore their own ideas. And Zhiying is also the most like her mother, and she became a sensible daughter-in-law at first like her mother. Suppressed their true thoughts.

The elder sister, Enying, is generous and outspoken, seemingly annoying, not so afraid of offending others, caring about others' ideas, but living her favorite appearance. When choosing college entrance examination volunteers, my mother said that girls had better choose teachers, because there are winter and summer vacations, and it is convenient for the family to take care of the children after marriage. Enying said: Why is it suitable for girls, not boys, but also teachers? Taking care of the family is not a girl's business. When I meet my relatives at home and say why I'm not married, I can express my thoughts without hesitation! Although she finally made a little sacrifice for her family and chose the teaching profession, fortunately she still likes it more.

Therefore, you should not be too good, too friendly, too caring for others' ideas and ignore yourself. Be kind, gentle and firm with sharp edges!

The ending of the film is slightly different from that of the original. The original Jin Zhiying has not been able to get out of that circle and find his heart. And the film gave a friendly ending.

Zhiying in the film is lucky. She has a good mother and husband to support and encourage her. Her father and brother also began to reflect on themselves and try to care more about their daughters after a mother's collapse.

Ji-ying herself is being treated, and she slowly thinks about why others can go through this difficult time, but she can't. Looking for team leader Jin to explain frankly that she can't return to the workplace immediately now that she is ill, and will return to her favorite job after she recovers, she slowly took out a pen engraved with "Jin Zhiying" and a notebook from her brother, and began to describe her life, start her writing career and find something meaningful. In the elevator, Zhiying held a book with her own articles in her hand, revealing a long-lost smile with a sense of accomplishment.

I will also stride down the street with my husband in a good mood; Finally, in the sunny room, Zhiying turns on the computer and continues to write … At this time, Zhiying, who is doing what she likes, seems to have a clearer life!

Although there are still differences between life and movie stories, although the society is changing and the times are progressing, women are becoming more independent, free and have the right to speak. There is also a lot less patriarchal atmosphere ... However, the reason why the story can still arouse women's * * * is because in the invisible life, there are still some women who are deeply troubled by postpartum depression and unfair marriage life. Jin Zhiying's life is just a microcosm, and life is far more real and cruel than movies.

I sincerely hope that every woman can be respected and understood, and can also have her favorite career and life; Never give up on yourself at any time! In fact, this work promotes feminism, not to raise or lower a certain gender, but to hope that the society and men can have more empathy, look at each other from the perspective of women, help each other, and join hands in free sexual life.

Finally, end with a passage from the original work:

Being a woman in this world has already represented more hardships. Nevertheless, I still hope that women can become strong enough, no matter what they face, they should not be afraid, but take our strength and courage to meet the difficulties. Being a woman can be gentle, but it can also be powerful.