Why do my parents always imply that others look down on me?

Not all parents know how to be parents. I always thought so.

1, I quite understand you. I have experienced such a thing before. Of course, it is not that serious, but I also have a deep memory in my heart. It seems that everything you do is wrong in the eyes of your parents. Moreover, we say that parents should actually encourage their children. Some parents do have poor education for their children because of their educational level, the surrounding environment and the influence of people around them. We often say that children with good family environment are psychologically better and even more confident. Children who are accused by their parents every day lack a sense of psychological loss, warmth and so on.

I suggest you have a serious talk with your parents, tell them what you said, tell them that you are an adult, what they said deeply hurts you, and tell them that you are better than anyone else. You can write and tell them what you want to say before you talk. I talked about the possibility that they might reflect on their words and deeds, not to mention that they will always do so.

I saw the following answers from Kai Shunhe and the response from the landlord.

What I want to say to Kai Shunhe is that since everyone wants to help the landlord, we must be patient, don't you think? Maybe Kaishun and I can't understand the feeling of not being recognized by our parents when we were young. It doesn't matter if we are children, no matter who doesn't approve, because we think we still have a home and parents' approval. A parent who doesn't recognize his children will certainly give them much less warmth. I quite understand. I'm not saying that Kai Shunhe is wrong. I just hope everyone understands the landlord. Before I graduated from college, it was hard for me to accept what I had done to my mother. I am also from the countryside: I didn't understand what my parents were busy with since I was a child. Other children are all dressed up by their mothers, and my own mother really doesn't know what she is busy with and doesn't care when and what clothes the children wear. My mother never praises me in front of my neighbors and relatives. Even at the end of my brother's wedding, we went outside to see my in-laws, and they said, it's good to see your eldest daughter, and this is also the university graduation. Haha, my mother said with a smile, ok? It's ugly. I'm speechless. It has been eight years, but it has had a great influence on me. More seriously, I was stimulated. I even thought to myself, "How can there be such a mother? Is it really stupid or fake? " Of course, my father approved of me. I didn't understand my father before, but now I love my father very much. I just want to tell Kai Shunhe that you can't understand what kind of influence such a family and such parents have brought to the children themselves, and even disasters, including the children's personality, temper and humanity, are actually influenced by their parents. Of course, we also say that the education level of parents has a lot to do with the environment. After all, they gave us flesh and blood, and we couldn't choose our parents. If your parents have a great influence on you, you are really happy. Cherish your parents, because not everyone can have people like your parents.

I want to say to the landlord: many things are beyond others' understanding, especially the influence on the mind and soul is understandable. Everyone's environment is different. I suggest you make a good plan for yourself, such as your work, your life, your preferences and so on. Don't let yourself really become the kind of person in their eyes because of the influence of your parents. Make more mentors and friends, and you will be well edified. If you like your job very much, it doesn't matter, work hard. If conditions permit, I suggest further study, such as learning some technologies, such as computer, photoshop, interior design, etc. For example, in life, cultivate more hobbies, such as running, swimming and ball games, and strive to make yourself sunny. No matter how you look at it inside, the sunshine outside can drive away things that are not calm inside you to a certain extent. It doesn't matter what kind of parents you have, what matters is what kind of yourself you have.

It is also recommended to talk to parents, not asking them to understand or change, but it is always right to communicate with others more. Have a serious talk. How we accept these negative effects without solving them will affect us as a whole for a long time. What did you say?/Sorry? "

I have graduated from college and have been working for several years now. On graduation day, I had a stable job with good salary and benefits. I have saved some money myself in these three or four years. In fact, I have always felt that I have a lot of restless things in my heart, carrying them all the way. At that time, I studied psychology, law, yoga after graduation, fun run and so on, all of which I wanted to practice myself through. Now I have found someone who loves me. He came back from studying in Korea. Actually, I talked to my parents once after graduation 1 year. It's just the imbalance for so many years, and the resentment in my mind when I went to school outside for so many years. I wonder if my mother changed her mind after that conversation. She is very proud now. In fact, dozens of students in our village have not stayed in big cities until now, and few people have my current job and salary. As my husband said, I almost belong to the local phoenix flying out of the countryside. In the two years after graduation, I didn't go home much, and I was not far from home, because there seemed to be nothing to worry about at home, but my parents were old. In recent years, I have called my parents every day even if I don't go home, because they are old after all, and they are our parents after all. The older they are, the harder it is for them to be parents. In recent years, my mother has been urging me to go home and cook food every time I go home. Sometimes it rains so hard that my mother even calls me at 2 o'clock in the middle of the night to ask if I have closed the window. I'm afraid this kind of affection is not shared by everyone.

As the saying goes, when God closes a window for you, he will inevitably open another window for you.

Finally, I wish you all happiness!