If your mother and I had a fight, who would you help?

After dinner, I chatted with Yong Guo about home affairs. I asked him jokingly: "If your mother and I had a fight, who would you help?"

He said that I was fine looking for trouble and that such a situation would not happen in their family. He also gave me an example. His younger brother has been married for so many years, and his sister-in-law and his mother get along very well... He asked me why I am thinking about these things, instead of thinking about how to live a better life? I was speechless. Well, I admit it was too idle!

Actually, this is not the case. I happened to read an article about this type of article that day, and I thought about how my grandma and my mother and their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along with each other when I was a child. !

In my impression, grandma is a very strong person. Once you do something that dissatisfies her, she will nag you for a long time and show off to you. Because of this, my mother is often annoyed. When I was a child, my grandma complained that it was too tiring to take care of children while she was taking me. My mother had to come back from the city to accompany my brother and me to school. What was just too much was that she accompanied her uncle's children to study until they graduated from elementary school.

Of course, these are all things of the past. The most serious conflict I have ever seen between my mother and my grandma was on New Year's Eve of a certain year. My mother tried various tricks to get her to come to our house to celebrate the New Year. Later she joked that if she didn't come this time, she wouldn't be allowed to come. . Unexpectedly, when my grandma heard this, she immediately became furious and felt that we didn’t want her to come here to celebrate the New Year.

The neighbors’ persuasion was useless, and our apology was useless. Anyway, the New Year’s Eve that year was quite unpleasant. From the first lunar month to the Dragon Boat Festival, she began to slowly let go, and from time to time she would take it out and tell others, to be honest, I admire my mother's courage.

After these incidents happened, I felt sad for my mother and felt that she spoiled my grandma. I feel so ungrateful and frustrated towards her.

But I will remember what my mother said to me forever. She said that everyone will grow old in the future. She is being kind to grandma now to set an example for us. She hopes that we can also respect our elders in the future.

So, I saw my mother taking care of my grandma’s daily life for two whole months when she had difficulty moving, without any complaints. When her grandma was sick, she, who was prone to motion sickness, took the train for more than ten hours to bring her grandma from her hometown to her. Every year, because we are worried about grandma spending the New Year alone at home, all of us rush back to celebrate the New Year no matter how late it is.

To be honest, I am proud to have such a mother. Because she is sensible, there are no disputes in our family, and I have never seen my father get upset because of trivial matters at home. The important thing is that she gave us a good start and let us know the meaning of respecting the elderly and loving the young.

So, behind the joke were questions that I shouldn’t have asked him to answer. In this world, there are no people who give without expecting anything in return, and there are very few people who take without being satisfied. From the beginning to the future, it is a transition from distrust to trust, from guests to family members. We must believe that the power of time will allow us to grow in life.