What should I do to be an interesting speaker? Humorous person?

In interpersonal communication, when people feel ashamed and embarrassed, using self-mockery to deal with difficulties can not only easily find steps, but also produce humorous effects. Therefore, it is a clever way to laugh at yourself, tickle yourself a few times and laugh first.

Legend has it that there was a stone bachelor in ancient times who accidentally fell to the ground riding a donkey, and most people would be at a loss. But Shi Bachelor stood up unhurriedly and said, "I am a Shi Bachelor, but if I were a tile, wouldn't I break into pieces?" A punch line made the people present laugh, and naturally this stone learning also relieved the embarrassment in laughter. By analogy, a fat man fell down and said, "If this body of meat is not supporting you, why don't you break the bone?" If you change to a thin man, you can say, "If it weren't for your light weight, this fall would be a meat pie!" "The author experienced such a thing: the wife of a short scholar laughed at her husband's short stature, and the scholar smiled and said," I think it's better to be short. If I am not1.57m, can I still write now? "If it weren't for my short stature and great strength, would you win every battle? If I am not short, can you say that I am too short? " When these words were finished, the audience was amazed.

Thus, it is easy to laugh at yourself and fire at one of your own shortcomings. But with this tolerance and courage, others will not let you laugh alone, but will usually laugh with you.

After the victory of the Anti-Japanese War, Zhang Daqian returned to his hometown in Sichuan from Shanghai. Before he left, his friends gave him a farewell dinner and invited Mei Lanfang and others to accompany him. The banquet began, and everyone asked Zhang Daqian to sit first. Zhang said: "Mr. Mei is a gentleman and should sit at the top. I am a villain and should accompany the last seat. " Mei Lanfang and others don't understand its meaning. Zhang Daqian explained: "Isn't there a saying that' a gentleman speaks, a villain does it'?" Teacher Mei's singing is lip service, while my painting is hands-on. I should let Mr Mei Qing sit down first. "All the guests smiled and asked them to sit side by side in the first seat. Zhang Daqian laughed at himself as a villain, as if he were laughing at himself. But "the meaning of drunkenness is not wine" not only shows Zhang Daqian's open mind, but also creates a relaxed and harmonious conversation atmosphere.

Someone wants to go abroad for further study. His wife said half jokingly, "You may see other women when you go to that world of flowers!" " "He said with a smile," Look at my face: I have a flat face and round legs. I'm afraid I can't lift my head when I stand on the road! "A word amused his wife. Everyone is afraid to mention his appearance defects, but this husband can accept his birth defects and doesn't care about exposing ugliness. This self-mockery reflects the modality of sugar and wine and the wisdom of life. Isn't it better than solemnly swearing to your wife that you will never have sex? At this time, he must become beautiful and lovely in the eyes of his wife.

In social interaction, when you are in an awkward position, self-mockery can often help you get out of the predicament with dignity. At a reception held by a club, the waiter accidentally spilled beer on a guest's shiny bald head while pouring wine. The waiter stunned the audience. The guest smiled and said, "Brother, do you think this treatment will be effective?" The people present laughed, and the embarrassing situation was immediately broken. With the help of self-mockery, the guests not only showed their generosity, but also maintained their self-esteem and eliminated their sense of shame.

It can be seen that timely and moderate self-mockery is a good accomplishment and a communication skill full of face power. Self-mockery can create a relaxed and harmonious conversation atmosphere, make yourself live easily, make people feel your cuteness and humanity, and sometimes maintain face more effectively and establish a new psychological balance.

2. Public figures need to laugh at themselves.

In interpersonal communication, high-ranking people or celebrities are prone to feel arrogant when interacting with others. Maybe it's because others are too nervous and stressed, or maybe these people haven't got the hang of getting along with ordinary people. Generally speaking, making fun of yourself can relieve the pressure of others and make ordinary people feel human, just like ordinary people, thus making people feel very comfortable.

There are many such examples, and some crosstalk performers, comedians or program hosts often win the praise of the audience. There are many such people in life. Although a teacher is only in his forties, most of his hair is bald, revealing a "barren land". Students used to call him a bald teacher behind his back. Later, he simply explained to his classmates the reasons for baldness due to illness. Finally, he added this self-mockery: "It's good to lose all my hair. At least the lights in the classroom will be much brighter when I am in class." The students smiled in a friendly way, and no one called him the bald teacher anymore.

Of course, self-mockery is not self-abuse, not making a fool of yourself. We should be careful here.

Try to be personalized and vivid, and learn to laugh at yourself appropriately, which can often make your speech interesting. The power of humor can identify with humorous things. Therefore, a truly great person will laugh at himself and encourage others to laugh with him. They give and get by sharing human nature with others, and you can do it!

President Lincoln also made fun of himself, especially his appearance. Once he started his communication with others with such a short story:

"Sometimes I feel like an ugly person, walking in the forest and meeting an old woman. My mother said, "You are the ugliest person I have ever seen. I can't help it The ugly man replied. "No, I don't think so," said the old woman. "At least you can stay at home! "'