I was laughed at by my classmates because my parents divorced.

I admire what you are doing because you are willing to help yourself! ! Your concern for your mental health has greatly exceeded that of many people who suffer silently (many adults don't even care and love themselves as much as you do, and are suppressed by many untrue "ideas"! In fact, one of the harms of parents' divorce to children is that children tend to become sensitive and always want to find answers, often attributing problems to family background. The same thing happens to children whose families have not broken down, and the damage will probably be less.

Adolescence is a very delicate stage. Boys and girls began to pay attention to the shaping of appearance, manners, gender charm and the creation of "friends circle". Children with divorced parents may get much less attention and help from their parents in this respect, for example, they don't have so much spare money to dress up, food, clothing, housing and transportation are not as fashionable as others, and they don't often go out with friends to take care of their families. . . The lack of these aspects will make these children a relatively weak group in social interaction. Although few people can become popular minority activists, no one wants to be one of the isolated "minorities".

Looking back on my adolescence, I actually feel stable and willing to be mediocre, which is a very happy thing. Because of chatting with friends, everyone seems to have their own "dark zone" in adolescence, hoping to get more kind treatment at that time. But the world is like this, it is very realistic, and we need to strive for fairness in life. We also need to clear our minds with wisdom and solve the difficulties in reality with a healthy attitude.

Regarding the question that you said that the appearance was ridiculed, you can actually think like this:

1, what they said, can it represent the facts?

If so, what changes can I make? If it's not true, or my ability can't be changed (such as my parents' divorce), then I don't need to worry about what they say. I should focus on what I am good at or can work hard at, such as studying, caring for others, developing my hobbies, such as reading and drawing. . .

2. Ask yourself, can your value be determined by a word from others?

Where do you think your value can best be reflected? Is it a kind heart that is ready to help others, an attitude of studying hard and living, or the evaluation of your appearance by those little boys? You know, there are too many examples of ugly ducklings in junior high schools becoming radiant at the class reunion ten years later.

Whose words are the most decisive to your value?

The person you love, the person who loves you, the person who laughs at you, or yourself?

In short, you live for the people you love, for the people who love you, and more importantly, for yourself. Remember this, and you will give yourself good protection. Slowly, establish your own psychological boundary, and others will not hurt you so easily. In this way, even without your parents to protect you, you can protect yourself and love yourself ~ ~ ~ We came to this world to learn this, right?

Finally, try to see the world with more compassion. Many problems may become less acute, and many problems will be easily let go. Think of those who maliciously or unintentionally slander you. There must be all kinds of problems in their lives. They can't be more loving and kind. In fact, they still have a lot of homework to do in their hearts, but they just don't realize it. We should smile and forgive their spiritual deficiency ~ ~

I suggest you watch a mental health program "It's not about fate" in Taiwan Province Province, and you can choose a topic that suits you. You can also find an article hosted by Dr. Deng Huiwen, hoping to help you ~ ~

Because these efforts helped me ~ ~