Girlfriend Northeast, what should I bring when I go to her house for the first time?

1) Gifts

When you go to your parents-in-law’s house for the first time, you can’t help but get gifts. Men, you will rarely experience "heavy bleeding" several times in your life, so you must spend some money this time.

Whether my father-in-law likes to drink or not, having two bottles of good wine is a must. Just two bottles of Moutai and Wuliangye. In fact, it’s okay to grab two bottles of good dry red. But no matter whether your father-in-law smokes or not, even if it is Chinese cigarettes, it is best not to take them. You must know that even if your father-in-law likes it, your mother-in-law will not like it either. Remember this. (In fact, in most cases, the son-in-law whom the mother-in-law likes is usually inseparable.) Of course, you can bring good tea.

In addition, it would be more considerate to bring something they like and need. Naturally, it adds a lot of points (you can ask your GF about this). Just skip the supplements. They are of little use and you don’t have time to take them. The most important thing is that the shelf life is too short. Remember to take at least three things, but don’t take four (four or six will not make sense). Is it the old saying, "If you don't have enough food, you have to make up for it with fruits."

(2) Clothing

In short, casual attire is best and not too personal. If you are used to wearing T-shirts, then pair them with leather shoes, which will be neat and tidy. Pay special attention to the soles of your shoes, clean them before going and don’t step on a room full of plum blossoms. This is more important than the issue of face, so pay attention to details.

(3) Time

It is best to visit them at ninety o'clock on the weekend morning, so that they do not have to get up early for your arrival. You can also tidy up the room, prepare fruits and vegetables, and wait for your arrival.

(4) Title

The opening remarks when entering the door are very important, "Disease enters through the mouth, and disaster comes out of the mouth." It is best to call them uncle and aunt, but uncle and aunt are a bit too polite.

Additional note: If your girlfriend’s house has a dog, then you should go and visit her twice more when your parents-in-law are not at home. Letting your dog get to know you and like you is also the magic weapon to win. Otherwise, you will suffer. A barking dog that keeps barking will always affect the communication between you and your family, and your impression will be greatly reduced.

(5) Behavior and speech

Don’t wander around after entering the house. Just stay on the sofa. You don’t need to be too rigid in your sitting posture, but don’t lean your back on the sofa. After all, it’s not your home yet. Remember to communicate with your father-in-law more often. If he turns on the TV, try not to pay too much attention to the specific content on the TV, in case he suddenly throws a question to you, and before you have time to respond, your logic will naturally be illogical, and you may even stutter slightly. Use "we" more often when speaking, which is friendly and warm. After lunch, your father-in-law may talk significantly less. In order to prevent embarrassment, you can find topics that are current affairs or professional topics that you are most familiar with, but you have to make sure that your father-in-law likes and cares about these, and you will have a good conversation. Otherwise, if you talk endlessly and your father-in-law becomes an out-and-out listener, wouldn’t it be putting the cart before the horse? Even if it's just chatting, you have to know that your purpose is not to make him feel that you are educated and knowledgeable, but to make him happy and make him happy. If he likes it, everything will be fine for you.

Note: Never tell cold jokes, let alone dirty jokes. Don’t say a word of uncivilized words, otherwise you will be sentenced to death.

(6) Dining

The woman generally prefers to entertain the "son-in-law" who is visiting for the first time at home, especially if your mother-in-law can cook well. But the biggest disadvantage of cooking at home is that it takes a long time. It is possible that your mother-in-law will be busy in the kitchen for a long time. This requires you to have some discernment. Go to the kitchen more often, chat with your aunt, greet your aunt, and let her know. She won't feel tired if she distracts herself.

If you don’t know how to cook, don’t be too busy trying to cook, or you may be self-defeating. Don’t be afraid if you don’t know how to cook, she won’t ask you to help. Just remember to help clear the table and sweep the floor after the meal. (But if she asks you if you can cook at this time, don’t be too honest. Just say that you can make scrambled eggs with tomatoes or something, or that you are learning to cook. In short, she will not let you But she psychologically hopes that you will do it. After all, no one wants their daughter to suffer with you.) Don’t forget to praise your aunt’s cooking while eating at the dinner table.

Taboos at the dinner table are also very important. Pay more attention to your GF's eyes and actions.

(This is generally the case. It is impossible for a GF to tell you all the likes and dislikes of her parents in detail, and the conversation is also unpredictable. However, ladies, please note that once what he says is inappropriate or sensitive, you should quickly help him get over it. , move to the next topic that your parents will definitely like as soon as possible)

(7) Farewell

It is best to chat for 1 to 2 hours after the meal. Actively signal to leave. Hope to adopt it