It is said that desire is a bottomless pit, so how to control your desire?

What is a person? Full of desire. It is said that desire is a bottomless pit. As long as people live, they will have desires, and they will have different degrees of desires for food and love. However, if you don't know how to control your desire, then your desire will become a bottomless pit, drag yourself down and finally fall into the hell of desire. Therefore, how to control their own desires has become an important issue in people's lives. In this regard, in the final analysis, it is still a psychological problem, because the total desire is linked to various desires and demands in one's heart and psychological factors. Then, in order not to fall into the bottomless pit of desire, how should we adjust or control our desires?

First, don't compare excessively, but compare in a moderate range, so as to set a moderate desire goal. Take Stendhal's Red and Black as an example. Lian is the son of a craftsman, whose heart is higher than the sky, but his life is thinner than paper. Lian wants to imitate Napoleon and jump from the civilian class to the upper middle class of the bourgeoisie. His desire is too great. Moreover, in order to satisfy his own self-psychology, he deliberately held the mayor's wife's hand. It was in the constant upward desire that Lian finally lost himself and was sentenced to death. Lian's desire is so great that he wants to jump so big at once, and his unrestrained desire to compare hurts him. Therefore, we should set a moderate desire goal instead of blindly comparing.

Secondly, set small goals and learn to be content. Contentment is a proverb of China people, but it also conforms to the psychological principle. In other words, don't have too many desires. You should feel happy if you can properly satisfy your desires, so that you will always feel happy, not too many desires. Then, contentment is to learn to set small goals, not like Lian.

Therefore, desire is a bottomless pit, so to control your desire, at least learn to compare with others within a moderate range, set small goals, and learn to be content.