I hate your dad. He abandoned me for 20 years. He made me lose my father's love and was treated as a joke.

The problem may not entirely lie with your dad. The gap between you and your dad is just like the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is stuck on your son. You are stuck on your mother. Your mother is the most critical. People.

If your mother interferes with it, for example, your father calls you and your mother deliberately finds ways not to answer the phone, or often complains about your father’s faults in front of you, over time, your father will treat you You and your mother are considered the same person, so they gradually have to alienate you. Of course, the above is only one of the possibilities.

It is not ruled out that you met a father who completely abandoned you.

It’s more about fate. Two inappropriate people met together and gave birth to you. You are destined to have more than half of yourself contradictory and half of you are contradictory. Creation put many sharply opposed contradictions in it. In the same person, your dad must have many difficulties, but he is your God after all. Without him, you would not exist, and you would not be able to see all the beauty and ugliness in the world. Be considerate of him.

The conflict between your mother and him is their conflict. You are you. Don’t let your mother equate you with your mother. Think more about the other person’s difficulties.