Will no dowry be looked down upon by her husband's family?

Will no dowry be looked down upon by her husband's family?

I don't know, it depends on what in-laws you meet.

Some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you don't want a bride price, people still think you are cheap, and you are upside down.

When it comes to marriage, apart from romance and eye contact, bride price and dowry are always unavoidable.

Bride price and dowry always appear in pairs. The woman depends on how much bride price the man gives, and then decides how much to get married.

More often, the bride price given by the man will be "returned" by the woman's parents in the form of dowry, or even bought for her daughter.

This situation, of course, is the best and everyone is happy. What bothers me is that things always don't follow the routine of finding hello, finding me and finding everyone.

Reader Du Fu has encountered this problem: no dowry, no bride price.

Talking about his upcoming marriage, Du Fu felt both happy and uneasy.

After four years of long-distance love with my boyfriend, I'm finally getting married. When love meets marriage, talking about money seems to be an essential thing.

Boyfriend's parents are ordinary employees, and their family conditions are very general. Their savings are only enough to pay the down payment for the wedding room. Even if they can't afford a car, it's a fact that they still owe money after marriage.

In this case, it is impossible to ask for a bride price. Her boyfriend has done ideological work for her many times: don't give a bride price, or the marriage will not be established.

With a feeling of anxiety, Du Fu chatted with his family about his future husband's family. Her parents are very reasonable: as long as Du Fu is willing, there is no problem in not asking for a bride price, and only hope that her daughter can be happy.

The joy didn't last for a few days, and her mother's words made her uneasy again.

Mother said to Du Fu: I have been thinking about Du Fu's marriage these days and feel sorry for my face. If the villagers talk about Du Fu's direct marriage without bride price, I'm afraid it's a joke. Therefore, no bride price, no dowry.

Originally, Du Fu did not consider dowry. When her mother said that there would be no dowry without a bride price, she felt very uncomfortable.

No bride price, no dowry, which is reasonable. The bride-to-be Du Fu's point of view is that without a dowry, she may be looked down upon by her husband's family!

However, it was I who advised my mother not to get a dowry. My mother suggested that it is equally reasonable not to get a dowry. I can't convince my mother in any case. It's one thing to have no bride price, and you can't justify it without a dowry.

Du Fu recalled his longing for marriage when he was young. Everything is the best, the most handsome groom, the most romantic wedding and the warmest new house. ...

However, reason is full and reality is skinny. Now it has completely jumped out of the festive atmosphere, leaving only the panting Qian Qian money!

In fact, in this brand-new era, it takes reason and courage for a woman to decide to marry a man without a bride price.

From Du Fu's initiative to persuade his mother, we can see that she doesn't value these old manners and customs, and her thoughts are modern and objective.

Paradoxically, she thinks that a woman who doesn't marry him will be looked down upon by her husband's family, which is irrational.

In feudal society, it is really important to be suitable for each other. Show the ten-mile red makeup to her mother-in-law. She is confident that she has a big face and strength at home.

However, now is a new era, self-confidence is earned by herself, not by her parents. Women don't have to pay a bride price, and they don't have to care too much about dowry. If they want to win the courtesy of their in-laws, they need to fight for it by themselves, not by dowry.