How to evaluate Tanchun's attitude towards Aunt Zhao?

Tanchun's seemingly inhuman attitude towards Aunt Zhao was embodied in a mother-daughter conflict on the 55th. The cause of the incident was that Aunt Zhao's younger brother Zhao died, and Tanchun, the head of the family, rewarded Zhao with twenty taels of silver as usual. Aunt Zhao felt that the reward was too little, so she came to Tanchun to quarrel. Aunt Zhao first blamed Tanchun: "Everyone in this room stepped on my head to pay me back. Think about it, girl You should take it out on me. " Tanchun said quickly, "Aunt, who are you talking about? I can't understand it. Who stepped on aunt's head? When I say it, I will vent my anger on my aunt. " Aunt Zhao immediately said that Tanchun only wanted to get his wife's pain, but she didn't pull Zhao's family and scolded her: "Now you say one is one, and you say two is two." Now that your uncle is dead, you gave me twenty or thirty taels of silver, and your wife won't listen to you? ..... I also want you to take care of Zhao. ! Now there are no feathers, I forgot the roots, just picked the tall branches and flew away! I didn't want Tanchun to listen to Aunt Zhao's words. I was so angry that I was "white and choked" and retorted, "Who said anything about uncle? My uncle will be promoted to nine provinces next year. Where can I get an uncle? I am used to respect, and I respect these relatives more and more. Speaking of which, Huan-erh went out. Why did Zhao stand up again and go to school with him? Why not take out my uncle's money? ..... "As a result of this argument, as the reply said," My concubine and her daughter compete for luxury ",Aunt Zhao not only didn't get a penny or two more, but also had enough.

For this mother-daughter argument, people often feel puzzled when reading here: how can Tanchun be so cruel to his own mother? Why does Tanchun always call her biological mother menstruation, and why does she not recognize Zhao as an uncle and call him a slave? Is it reasonable for Aunt Zhao to let Tanchun pull the Zhao family? Aunt Zhao accused Tanchun of choosing Gao Zhifei only to please his wife. Is it reasonable? It is not easy to completely clarify these problems. Here, we might as well do some concrete analysis from the feudal patriarchal clan system, Tanchun's self-esteem psychology and character, and Aunt Zhao's character.

Under the feudal patriarchal clan system, wives and concubines were strictly distinguished. Aunt Zhao, Tanchun and Jia Huan's biological mother, is an aunt. The relationship between her and Mrs. Wang is by no means the difference between the first wife and the second wife, but the division of master and servant. Concubine generally comes from the servant girl of the host family, such as Qiu Tong, and Jia She gives Jia Lian a concubine; Or the daughter of a poor family bought from outside, for example, Jia Qiu Yuanyang failed, and spent 520 silver to buy seventeen-year-old purples. Whether it is your own slave or bought from outside, although you have become a concubine and your status has improved, your identity is not fundamental. At best, it can only be regarded as "half a master". In the 60th episode of A Dream of Red Mansions, Fang Guan quarreled with Aunt Zhao. She said rudely, "Aunt don't scold me, I didn't buy it from my aunt's house. Xiang Mei became sworn brothers-all slaves! " "In the eyes of this humble little player Fang Guan," father's mother's sister "is not much more noble than her. Although the identity of the aunt is so much, the child she gave birth to is a serious master. But the children they gave birth to, that is, "illegitimate children", all take their formal wives as their legal mothers, while their biological mothers can only be "illegitimate mothers". That is to say, because of the fundamental differences in status, concubines cannot pretend to be "mothers" for their own children, and even have no right to "teach" their children. In the twentieth episode of A Dream of Red Mansions, Aunt Zhao was lecturing Jia Huan in the house, and it happened that Feng heard it outside the window. Xi-feng immediately reprimanded Aunt Zhao: "If his wife and master don't care about him, just spit him out! He is the master now, and it's none of your business if someone teaches him anyway! Here, Xifeng made clear the identities of Jia Huan and Aunt Zhao. Jia Huan is the master and Aunt Zhao is the slave. "。 How can a slave "teach" his master? This is the stipulation of the feudal patriarchal clan system, and it is also the basis for accusing the biological mother Aunt Zhao of being "confused and unreasonable", calling her biological mother "Aunt" and calling Zhao a slave rather than an uncle.

Indeed, the feudal patriarchal clan system is against human relations, which is not Tan Chun's fault. However, it seems that these alone cannot fully explain why Tanchun is so cruel to her biological mother. A ready-made example is the relationship between her half-brother Jia Huan and Aunt Zhao. Jia Huan did not affect her feelings with her biological mother because of her master status. What's more, the conflict mentioned above, Aunt Zhao just hopes that Tanchun can help the Zhao family and reward more money. As Tanchun's biological mother, her request is natural, not unreasonable. Li Wan, who was on the side at that time, once advised: "Auntie, don't be angry. I can't blame the girl either. How can she say it when she is full of tears? " Although Li Wan's persuasion was refuted by Tan Chun: "Sister-in-law is also confused. Who am I pulling? Whose girl is pulling slaves? " But from Li Wan's words, we can still feel that there is nothing wrong with pulling the Zhao family in her opinion, just because of the old case in the yamen and the inconvenience of Tanchun's identity. Later, Pinger conveyed Wang Xifeng's words and said, "As usual, only twenty taels are offered. Now please ask the girl to decide and add some more. " It can be seen that in the eyes of others, Aunt Zhao's request is not excessive, and it is human nature to "pull" the Zhao family. At least on things like funeral expenses, it is possible to break the old rules and bend the rules. However, the "goodwill" expressed by the critics to Xifeng was flatly rejected by Tan Chun. Tanchun is so unkind to his biological mother Aunt Zhao, which makes people feel too unkind. Investigate its deeper reasons, we will find that it has an important relationship with Tan Chun's self-esteem and strong personality. "Smart and ambitious" Tan Chun is a talented, knowledgeable and ambitious girl. She once said publicly: "I am a man, but I can come out." I will leave early and set up my own business. At that time, I had my own reasons. " It can be seen that her ambition is extraordinary. But her self-esteem and competitiveness are contradictory to her daughter's unmarried female identity. Xiao Si Xinger said that Tanchun was "unfortunately not raised by his wife". Wang Xifeng also said, "Good, good, good, what a three-girl! I said she was great. Unfortunately, her life is thin and she was not born in her wife's stomach. " What does it matter if you are a gentleman or a lady? Pinger was very puzzled when she heard what Xifeng said. Feng said firmly to her, "You know, being an aunt is the same. Daughters are inferior to men. In the future, there is a frivolous person. First of all, you have to find out if a girl is a concubine. " It can be seen that the identity of concubines has a lot to do with the fate of this self-respecting and competitive girl. Although she said to Baoyu, "I don't know what happened." In fact, in her heart, she also knows and cares. She can't change her concubine status, but she is not willing to be at the mercy of fate. So, she publicly declared: "I only know the master and wife, and I don't care about the rest." Therefore, it is easy to understand that deliberately pulling away from the biological mother, Aunt Zhao, is to be nice to and please Mrs. Wang. However, Tan Chun's painstaking efforts aroused the dissatisfaction of his biological mother, Aunt Zhao. Tanchun always wants to downplay her unmarried status, but Aunt Zhao often reminds Tanchun not to forget that she "crawled out of her intestines". Tanchun resolutely refuses to admit that she has anything to do with the Zhao family, but Aunt Zhao should always remind Tanchun not to forget to help the Zhao family. As a biological mother, Aunt Zhao's request was understandable, but it deeply hurt Tanchun's self-esteem. "Why? Who doesn't know that I am an aunt! " It is necessary to come out at the beginning of two or three months and thoroughly toss for a while, fearing that people will not know and deliberately confess. "How much pain and resentment is contained in Tanchun's words? What saddens Tan Chun even more is that Aunt Zhao's unreasonable behavior has affected her relationship with Mrs. Wang. Tan Chun once said, "My wife is not at home, so my menstruation should rest quietly. Why bother? "My wife is full of love for me, because my aunt often makes trouble and chills several times." Tanchun's words were confirmed by Wang Xifeng. On one occasion, Wang Xifeng said to the commentator, "My wife loves her again, although it seems faint on the surface, because of Aunt Zhao's old things ..." Aunt Zhao's "constant troubles" were unbearable for Tan Chun's strong self-esteem and personality.

When talking about Tanchun's inhuman attitude towards his biological mother, Aunt Zhao, we can't ignore another factor-Aunt Zhao's unbearable conduct. There are many concrete descriptions about Aunt Zhao in A Dream of Red Mansions. For example, in the 25th episode of "Yan Mo Shi Shu Shi Mei meets five ghosts", Aunt Zhao and Ma Daopo conspired to assassinate Wang Xifeng and Baoyu by witchcraft. Back to the sixtieth time, Fang Guan and a group of small players and I fought for "jasmine powder instead of rose nitrate". To sum up, her character is, first, stupid, second, unscrupulous, and third, ignorant of self-esteem. Even Tanchun said that she had seen "Oblivious" and "Too faint! After Aunt Zhao had a fight with Fang Guan and others, Tan Chun rudely accused her biological mother: "Why don't you respect yourself and drink too much and lose your dignity! Look at Aunt Zhou. Why didn't anyone bully him and he didn't invite anyone? I advised my aunt to go back to her room and be naughty. Don't listen to those bastards. It won't make people laugh. Stay alone and give people rude words for nothing. " He added: "At this age, what you do has never been respected. What does this mean? It's also worth arguing about, and it's not decent! "It's like what a daughter said to her mother, but it's really like the master is teaching slaves, or the elders are teaching the younger generation, and the feelings of disgust and contempt are beyond words. Aunt Zhao is really a nobody. We don't even understand why Cao Xueqin wrote her so badly, which makes people wonder how a gentleman like Jia Zheng found such a poor little wife.

Although Tan Chun's inhuman attitude towards her biological mother Zhao Can menstruation can be explained by hard work, and although we love and respect Tan Chun's thorny "rose", we must still point out that Tan Chun's attitude towards Aunt Zhao is really beyond reproach. Of course, Tan Chun's indifference and inhumanity to her biological mother is not only due to her self-esteem, strong personality and the meanness of Aunt Zhao, but more importantly, all this is caused by that society and the feudal patriarchal clan system that distorts people's beautiful hearts and pure interpersonal relationships. As Mr. Jiang Hesen said in his famous "On the Exploration of Spring": "All unreasonable social systems often sprain people's feelings, even the most natural flesh and blood feelings in the world are no exception."