How to save an ex-girlfriend?

Saving feelings is a technical job, and many people ask: I feel hopeless. Can it really be saved? What are the chances of recovery? Just tell me the success rate.

In fact, there is really no so-called success rate in relationships. Suppose I say your success rate is as high as 90%! Or your situation is too difficult, only 30% chance, but with my method, the success rate can reach more than 75%! Well, you must have been dubious, but there was nothing you could do. This is the last hope and lifeline. Since you said I had a chance, I must seize it!

In fact, many people just take a fancy to the psychology of the redeemer and report a specious so-called success rate to achieve the purpose of sales promotion. Ask carefully, this success rate; Well, he may tell you, because of experience! Because we have had many similar cases! In your case, 80% of us successfully recovered it in three months!

Whether the case is true or not, how to prove that this data is true? Whether it has been counted or not is unknown. Even if everyone has the same reasons for breaking up, the process is very different. In the same way, going through different practices after breaking up will also lead to completely different results, and everyone's personality is different. We can't judge the so-called similar cases just by the reason of breaking up. No couple's breakup is similar, so you can apply the method directly, otherwise you don't have to adjust it according to your personal customization. So you know your own problems best, and it is meaningless to ask others about the success rate. Simply put, you want to make it back, and you are determined to change the status quo, that's enough. It's hard to recover. If you have no confidence, you'd better give up as soon as possible.

If you have read the above carefully and are determined to save it, let's talk about how to save it. Saving your girlfriend can be roughly divided into the following parts. You can read one article at a time, or you can just choose what you don't know and are interested in, but it's best to read all of them first. Many people think they have understood, but they don't. Don't refute it yet, and then discuss the problem after reading it.

catalogue

● Detailed judgment of fake breakup and true breakup.

● Recovery strategy of fake breakup

● The recovery strategy of real breakup

● Explain "secondary attraction" in detail.

First, the detailed judgment of fake breakup and real breakup

There are many emotional pains, and the most painful is loss. Many friends often lose a love unconsciously, and when they wake up, they have missed the opportunity and regret it. A core technical point that is very important to save feelings is: how to distinguish a fake breakup from a real breakup. So, after breaking up, how to distinguish a fake breakup from a real breakup?

1, communication (telephone, WeChat, QQ)

If it is a fake breakup, the other party will generally not blacklist your phone number, WeChat and QQ (even if you delete it in a rage, you can add it back soon). You don't care how bad the other person's attitude is. As long as she still ignores you, answers your phone and sends you text messages, at least she is still communicating with you, and there is great hope to save her life.

If you really break up, you won't answer the phone and text messages, both WeChat and QQ will blacken you and treat you like a stranger. Therefore, whether the communication is normal or not is an important indicator to judge the fake breakup and the real breakup.

Of course, this is not absolute. It depends on personal circumstances and is for reference only. For example, after breaking up, she still keeps all your contact information, but all the messages you sent in the past have fallen into the sea and never got a reply, or the other party is very calm. No matter what you say, it will only tell you that it is impossible in the shortest words, so this is often the embodiment of a real breakup.

2. Emotional indicators (anger, blame, swearing)

Sometimes the phone is not answered, and both WeChat and QQ are deleted, which is not necessarily a real breakup. In fact, in many cases of fake breakups, women are angry and delete each other's QQ or WeChat while keeping their mobile phones. When you call her, she shows anger, or blames you, which shows that this is just a fake breakup, but it also shows that your contradiction is more serious.

Actually, it's not terrible for a woman to quarrel with you. Noisy means that a woman has mood swings and may still want to get your attention.

The real breakup is to ignore you at all, and your whole being with her is like air. All she did was keep silent and ignore you. Because girls are really desperate for you, they will be silent.

No matter what you do, when she hates or avoids it, then you have to think about the recovery strategy in a different way. Therefore, the emotional fluctuation of the other party is also one of the very important indicators in recovery.

3. Social circle (relatives, friends and colleagues)

If the target broke up with you, but she didn't tell her relatives, friends, colleagues and classmates, it means that she is still giving you a chance to make up for the time being. But if everyone in the social circle knows, it may be a real breakup.

In reality, what many brothers do is, as soon as they hear the news of breaking up, they keep looking for the target's girlfriends and friends to help them intercede, making the target more boring. As a result, the great opportunity was ruined in vain. A woman doesn't tell others that you broke up, but she is actually struggling, because she still has your goodness in her heart. In addition, she also left a way out for herself, because she was watching your performance. After all, if she easily tells people around her that she wants to get back together in the future, she is also afraid of embarrassment and jokes from people around her.

Of course, if a woman tells her friends that you broke up, it already shows that this woman is thoughtful and wants to break up with you. Then, at this time, you can't just pester her and beg her, but make compensation for your contradictions.

4, network status (for example, log, circle of friends)

When breaking up, women are likely to post some status and say some words in the circle of friends of Weibo and WeChat, such as cold love and death, love has nothing to do with others, even if a person goes on strongly ... There is also a foolish behavior, and some women will post some dating processes with other men to stimulate you, hoping you will be jealous, and so on. If it is a real breakup, she may not post anything on Weibo and WeChat, and there is silence, just like the silence of the Dead Sea. Therefore, observing each other's social network dynamics is also a reference indicator.

5, invitation (dinner, party, play)

Even if she blackmailed you, you contacted her through other channels to invite her, but she still promised to meet you. This situation may still be a fake breakup. But if she starts to say something like this to her friends, "If we meet, you must not bring someone, or I won't go." "Starting today, but don't tell me what others tell you, or we won't even have friends." Explain that women don't want you to appear in front of her, so in this case, it is likely to be a real breakup. Therefore, whether you can invite is also an important reference sign.

6, whether completely disappear (meet, intersect)

When a woman breaks up with you, she chooses to disappear completely, which means that she has completely given up on you. If she already treats you as a stranger in her heart, it can only mean two things. First, she really doesn't have any needs for you. Second, she hates you so much. You really disgust her. She thinks she wants to escape completely. If it is the first case, it is really broken up. If it is the second case, it is a real breakup in a broad sense, and the chances of recovery are slim. Although everything in the world is not absolute, it still needs a little luck to save it.

Second, the recovery strategy of fake breakup

In view of the fake breakup, in fact, the woman still has hope for you. The problem is that she can't stand your way of getting along or make her extremely unhappy, so she will seek opportunities to readjust her way of getting along by breaking up. What you need to do is to meet her needs and expectations.

The first step, what you need to do is to pursue.

You should actively and sincerely express your feelings, let her know that you attach importance to her and this relationship, let her know your determination and sincerity to save it, and let her regain her confidence in this relationship. At this stage, you can show your love and do your best. Get rid of each other with sweet words and practical actions such as various romantic offensives. Don't be silly when breaking up. Many people blindly believe the rumors of breaking up on the Internet, thinking that as long as I don't look for her, she will think of my goodness and come back voluntarily. As a result, the chance of recovery will be ruined in vain!

The second step is to build a sense of security.

This step of building a sense of security is based on the success of the previous step. If your love moves her, and your behavior seems as intimate as love, but she refuses to get back together with you, then she is probably insecure. At this stage, she needs you to give her enough security from the outside.

There are two sides to a sense of security.

You should show her your determination to repent. You need to let her know what she should do and what kind of punishment you will get if the same situation happens again in the future. For example, you can make some rules and regulations to make her feel your sincerity. This regulation can be oral or written, which can make women feel confident and safe.

Make a woman feel that you really love her with your actions. You don't have to say a lot of nice words, what you need is to prove your love for her with practical actions. Let her know that no matter what she or you become, no matter what happens in the future, you will always love her and stay with her forever. After doing this, her sense of security for your feelings is established. Such feelings, as if with a solid foundation, will be more stable.

The third step is to change the way you get along and communicate.

Whether it is a real breakup or a fake breakup, it shows that there are problems in their relationship, and these problems cannot be ignored. If these problems are not solved, even if she is with you now, there will still be the risk of breaking up in the future. As I said before, women are emotional, and many brothers like to communicate with women with rational thinking. Then, women will think that you are not at the same point. Therefore, changing the previous way of communication and getting along with each other is an important guarantee for consolidating love after recovery.

Third, the recovery strategy of real breakup

Just now I talked about the recovery strategy of fake breakup, so how to recover the situation of real breakup? When you really break up, it shows that women are disgusted with you and have a firm determination to break up. It's no use kneeling down for her if you admit your mistake. The correct way to save is:

In the first step, the space is pulled away (completely disappeared).

When a woman breaks up, it means that you are no longer attractive to her. It's time to stop pestering at once. At the same time, I have to pull away for a period of time and disappear into her world, making her feel like turning into air. The reason for this is that the negative impression we have left in front of women has been formed. After pulling away, take time to dilute her original impression of you.

Key points: space retreat is not a simple general freeze, not a general inability to find her, but a complete disappearance in front of her, but many people can't do it.

The second step is to change yourself (high-value buildings).

You should understand that your emotional problems have nothing to do with your partner, but with your ability. The problem between you and her today, even if you have the next relationship, will make the same mistake. In fact, the ultimate goal of saving is not to save her, but to save yourself. Saving you is more attractive. At this stage, what you need to do is to reflect on the mistakes you made in this relationship and think about how to avoid similar mistakes in the future and enhance your charm again. Although, in many cases, this promotion is very painful and tangled, if you really make up your mind to do it, even if you really break up, your chances of recovery will be greatly improved.

The third step is to restore contact (rebuild attraction).

When you return with high value, you have enough strength and capital to pull you back to the same balance line. Then, at this stage, you can get in touch with her, or create a chance encounter, so that she can feel your change and your value. Contact here, it is best to establish a chance encounter, because women actually like feelings and fate. If you feel your charm by accident, then she will probably believe that it is the fate of heaven that makes you meet again.

The fourth step is to warm up feelings (build comfort).

The steps and processes in this stage are the same as those in the usual dating stage. What you need to do at this stage is not to make the same mistake again. What you need to do is to make women feel the beauty and happiness of love with more romantic and innovative tricks and practical actions than before, and let your feelings return to the feeling when you first started dating.

Fourthly, the detailed explanation of "secondary attraction"

Secondary attraction: that is, to attract each other for the second time by improving their own value and charm, so as to save love. After breaking up, you need to act around the second attraction. Whether it's a fake breakup or a real breakup, we all suggest that we can take the second attraction as part of the redemption, increase our chips and make the redemption process smoother.

Some people are struggling to get their girlfriends back when they break up with them. Sometimes, the woman will agree to have dinner with you or consider getting back together with you. Because of this, some people think that redemption is effective, so 1 time can't be twice, and twice can't be three times.

In fact, the other party promised to consider getting back together with you, but it was a temporary weakness. Under your pleading, it is normal for the other party to be soft-hearted for a while. But once I leave you and the pressure you bring, women will think rationally, think of your shortcomings, think of the days when I endured injustice with you, and then think of "men are liars" and "why are you so naive?" I will be deceived by your sweet words, and I don't want to be deceived by you again.

When some friends save it, the woman can come out and say a good word the day before, and immediately become indifferent the next day. This is the case.

In this case, it is very important to give each other space and time. She must be very touched to be with you for so long. As the saying goes, if a husband and wife get along for a hundred days, they will definitely have a warm and happy time, but this positive feeling is easily covered up by the negative emotions you create, and this negative feeling is so strong that she finds it unbearable when she sees you. So give her time, slowly forget your unkindness to her, and slowly recall your kindness to her.

And there are many people who are eager to recover. Don't forget that your impression in her mind now is negative. Every time you appear in front of her, it will deepen her negative impression of you. Even if she still has a good impression on you and an old relationship, she will think you are too annoying at the moment. Your recovery can only make her feel suffocated and finally run away from you.

Besides, there must be something wrong with her leaving you and breaking up with you. Many people say as soon as they make amends, I know I was wrong and I will definitely change it. In fact, before we broke up, the woman would have hinted that your problem needed to be corrected many times, but you either turned a deaf ear or perfunctory it again and again, so I asked you to change it many times, and now I will change it as soon as I break up. Guess what she would think? What did you do before, but now you know you've changed? It is too late.

Everyone knows that action is the most powerful proof, so at this time, the key is not to ask if your verbal commitment can make up for it, but to see how you do it. To her, your criminal record is full of stains and spots. Now, if you change it in two words, she won't believe it. Some people just say that I have made up my mind to change. Why is she so cruel that she won't even give me a chance?

Therefore, in the case that the woman is determined to break up, it is a bad move to save it, which is tantamount to digging two holes in the wrecked ship, which not only makes the present situation worse, but also blocks the road of hope in the future.

In this case, all you need to do is attract again, as follows:

(1) Don't struggle.

Break up and break up. Don't contact her again, don't wander around her space, don't forward comments to her circle of friends and Weibo, and don't send her messages. In short, cut off all contact, let her think about your past, including your good and bad, and try to give her an objective impression of you. This step may not remind her of your goodness or leave a good impression, but at least you can look at your relationship more objectively and rationally. Of course, after being with you for so long, you must have attracted her, which will remain and become clearer to her.

② Cultivate various interests.

Cultivate your hobbies, such as painting, calligraphy, fishing, golf, etc. Live a good life, let yourself live a wonderful and fulfilling life and show your positive energy. After your full life is formalized, you can put your wonderful life in your own space, friends circle or Weibo through photos. Once you get back in touch and add WeChat or QQ, she will be attracted by your wonderful life.

3 spend more time with friends.

Make more friends, go out with your good friends or your friends, meet other girls and expand your circle of friends. This will let her know your status, your changes and your positive side.

④ Learn more and improve more.

During this period, learning more about getting along with men and women and getting to know more about getting along with others will benefit you a lot and let you discover your previous shortcomings. As the saying goes, there is no end to learning. In fact, the knowledge of getting along is the same. Learn more and be good at thinking, so that no matter what happens, you can deal with it calmly.

If you do well and have a deep emotional foundation before, after a while, she will almost contact you. At this time, what you need to do is that when she is a new target, she will feel that you have completely changed.

And this completely different feeling you gave her is the focus of re-attraction.

If you haven't experienced such a process, even if you succeed, the negative feelings you brought to her in the past have not disappeared, but have been pushed down again, and she will soon find that this is just a repetition of the last mistake. No matter how well you do in the future, this negative feeling will always float in her mind, reminding her how much you have wronged her and how much she needs to guard against you, supervise you and control you so as not to let you make the same mistake again. Do you think this relationship is interesting? Re-attraction will clear away the negative feelings before, but it can also inherit the family and goodwill accumulated in the past.

skill

1. It's important to tell the difference between true and false. Don't be stupid enough to break up as soon as you start. Don't be blind in recovery. If you don't go in the right direction, your efforts will be in vain.

2. In the process of recovery, a woman may say a lot of complaints, even with a poor attitude and indifference. Be steady at all times and under all circumstances, don't lose your temper and avoid confrontation, unless you think it's okay to lose her and you won't regret it. Politeness and etiquette need to be maintained at all times.

Generally, a real breakup will not be easily recovered, so you should be patient and determined. Now that we have started, we should go through with it. If you don't have this perseverance, don't save it. But if you persist, the gains will be enormous. You will find that you not only saved your love, but also made yourself better, because you corrected your mistakes in the process. On the contrary, if you choose to escape, the next relationship is likely to fall in the same place. Unless you lower your standards and find someone who is not as good as her, value will still determine many things.

4. It often takes a long time to recover from what I said above (only referring to the real breakup), so if you hold her for a month and a half, it is not absolute, but there is basically no hope, unless it is a fake breakup. On the other hand, there is really no need to pay for a fake breakup. After reading this article, you can just coax it.

No one can guarantee that your recovery will be absolutely successful. Your time is as important as your money. The key is that you need to consider whether she is worth it or not, and don't ask if you want to save it. Many people ask this question because they are afraid that their efforts will not be rewarded. Weigh the idea of this kind of thing and suggest putting it into business. If even feelings need too much care about gains and losses, it is really meaningless. Decide for yourself, just have no regrets.

What you need to prepare is: good personality, sense of humor, independence, generous and neat clothes, patience and smile.