My husband always likes to make fun of me, which makes me very disgusted. How can I communicate with him effectively?

Joking, laughing and hitting are two different things. Some couples are serious, don't joke, talk about things and seldom gossip. Some couples often tease each other or even play poor, and it is common to make fun.

However, what I want to say is that the measure of speaking is the measure of being a man, even to the closest people. No one likes being teased, and no one doesn't like being complimented. So your husband likes his mouth addiction, whether you like it or not, which at least shows that he is a person with low emotional intelligence. So under his constant ridicule and attack, either you will become silent, lose the desire to communicate, and the topic will end in discord; Or you will be tit for tat and find his shortcomings to fight back. Both of these results are not conducive to the healthy development of marriage. Even if he doesn't have any purpose, he is just joking, which will make people feel uncomfortable and even disgusted again and again.

At present, it seems that you are in a stage of disgust. Therefore, it is necessary for you to do this: First, tell him clearly that I hate it when you talk like this, and I hope I won't hear such words again. Second, even if I didn't do well or failed before, it was just the past, which doesn't mean I am now. I hope you can understand. Third, those pains, I need time to heal, you have to uncover these pains, I can understand that you care, if so, I hope you will consider our marriage well. Fourthly, I can tell you that what I need is care and encouragement. If you can't say it, please don't mention these things again, because I care.

If you find language communication difficult, communicate with him in writing and leave a message telling him your attitude. Generally speaking, he will reflect on it after receiving it and should apologize to you. If not, he doesn't mind, and continue to act like nothing happened, then you have to consider your emotional problems and whether you still have weight in his heart.

Proper jokes can make life more interesting, but if you joke too much, it is not a joke. Jokes that make others obviously embarrassed or even disgusted are harmful to self-esteem, so you must make it clear.