Xiao Nian’s wife said that she would invite my mother and father-in-law to make Jiaozi to eat. After finishing the meal, my wife said that she and I should go to the supermarket.

On the second day of the first lunar month, it is a custom in many places in China to return to her parents’ home. A married daughter must bring gifts back to her parents’ home. There are many things to pay attention to when going back to your natal family. For example, you must bring an even number of gifts, not an odd number, usually four. Your natal family cannot accept all of them. When you return to your husband's house, you have to take some of them back. We only have lunch when we go back to our parents' house, and our daughter must rush back to her husband's house before dinner. When a daughter returns to her natal family, if there is a nephew in the family, the aunt must give the nephew a red envelope. Returning to one's parents' home is not only held on the second day of the Lunar New Year, but also in some places on the third day of the first lunar month. In some places such as Shaanxi and Henan in China, there is even a custom of returning to one's parents' home on the sixth day of June, which is related to the season of harvesting wheat and threshing. There is a folk saying: "When the wheat is harvested and the threshing is over, whose daughter does not visit her mother." "On the second day of the Lunar New Year in Jinan, Shandong Province, it is the day when married girls - what old Jinan calls "girls" - return to their natal homes to visit their parents. On weekdays, my aunt usually doesn't go back to her parents' home. My uncle rarely goes to his father-in-law's house when he has nothing to do, and it's rare to see his grandchildren. Now, taking advantage of the first lunar month of the New Year to celebrate the New Year, we can reunite our flesh and blood and happily talk about family happiness. It is a very solemn thing for my uncle to accompany his wife and children to his in-law's house, so he must prepare several gifts first. Wealthy families can go to Taikang to buy Jinhua ham, salted duck, longan, Xifeng wine, etc. Ordinary families usually have a few boxes of pastries and two fresh fruit baskets to take out. As soon as my aunt entered the second door, someone shouted: "My aunt is here to pay New Year's greetings!" The father-in-law and mother-in-law in the main room quickly opened the cotton curtain and welcomed them out with beaming smiles. Brothers, sisters-in-law, etc. also came out, and the courtyard was filled with laughter and greetings. My aunt came to the main hall first, kowtowed in front of the Eight Immortals table where the ancestors’ tablets were placed, and paid New Year greetings to my parents, followed by my uncle’s New Year greetings. The grandchildren even kowtowed and paid New Year greetings to their grandparents one by one. Of course, the packets of red paper lucky money and handfuls of candies made the children very happy. My brother-in-law is respected as a "distinguished guest", and my parents' family will prepare two or three sumptuous banquets for them. Each table is filled with chicken, fish, meat and knuckles, eight plates and four bowls. When entering the table, the father-in-law should sit on the first seat of the family, and be accompanied by his brothers-in-law and others. The father-in-law only comes to toast and does not accompany the table. Qingdao From the night of the 22nd day of the twelfth lunar month, a married girl in Qingdao can no longer enter her natal home. She has to wait until the third day of the first lunar month before she can return to her natal home with her son-in-law and children. We were relatively poor in the past, but we were very particular about it. When a daughter goes back to her parents' home, she must go home before noon and leave before the sun sets. She is also very particular about the gifts she brings. She must bring the chicken used as a memorial on New Year's Eve, but her parents' home does not Often they won't stay because chicken sounds the same as "hungry". If your father-in-law is still alive, you must bring wine. Regardless of whether you can drink or not, you must prepare it. The newly married son-in-law came to the door in the first year, and the gifts included six pounds of meat, six pounds of fish, six steamed buns, six boxes of snacks, etc., totaling six sixes, which made a good sixty six. The steamed buns have to be steamed, and the top-grade fish is yellow croaker, which is particularly auspicious because of its yellow color. The preparations made by the mother-in-law's family are also very interesting. The New Year's Eve dumplings, at least the "new year" dumplings on the second night of the Lunar New Year, are meant to be left for the daughter to eat back home, because the former daughter-in-law had a low status in the family and might not have enough to eat. , I always have to make up for it when I go back to my parents’ house. A son-in-law is usually required to eat six poached eggs. In the era of "eggs are a good thing", six poached eggs are the highest courtesy to a son-in-law. Zibo In Zibo, Shandong, the second day of the Lunar New Year is the day when daughters-in-law return to their natal families. On this day, the natal family does not receive other guests. Daughters-in-law only return to their parents' homes on the second day of the Lunar New Year before their daughters get married. If the daughter-in-law of a certain family has already married, they will use this day to entertain their daughter and son-in-law. As for returning to my parents' home, I have to change it to the third day of the Lunar New Year or other days. Zaozhuang A few days before the Spring Festival, the daughter who has left home (gets married) will go back to her parents' home with her husband to give away gifts. In the past, when economic conditions were poor, most people brought gifts such as candies, fruits (snacks), pork, and wine. The number of gifts must be an auspicious even number. When the daughter's family returned that day, her parents' family wanted gifts back. The first is vermicelli, which means pulling and kissing continuously. Next is the pink skin, which symbolizes reunion. There are also peanuts, which means having sons and daughters born on flowers. In addition, a small part of the gifts brought by the daughter should also be given. "On the 16th day of the first lunar month, every household calls her Nizi." On the morning of the 16th day of the first lunar month, every daughter who has left home will obediently wait at home for her brothers to invite her back to her parents' home, which is commonly known as "calling guests." The word "ke" here is pronounced "kei", with three tones. At this time, the son-in-law usually does not follow him to his parents' house. The daughter only took the child back to her parents' house to stay for a few days. Before the second day of the second lunar month, the husband will go to his parents' home to call him back.

When a daughter returns to her parents' home, she needs to kowtow to her parents and elders to pay New Year greetings. This custom of kowtow continues to this day. Dongying: On the seventeenth or eighteenth day of the twelfth lunar month of the first year, the new daughter-in-law returns to her parents' home. Her husband's family will send someone to invite her back and "serve" her well. She will not be allowed to return to her parents' home again before the end of the year. On the second day of the first lunar month, my daughter returns to her parents’ home just to pay New Year greetings. After the New Year greetings, she has to go home in a hurry. On the sixteenth day of the first lunar month, it is the most solemn day for the new daughter-in-law and son-in-law to return to their parents' home. Weifang In Weifang, Shandong Province, firecrackers are set off on the second day of the Lunar New Year, which is called "opening". It is no longer taboo for men and women to work and they start to bring gifts to visit relatives. In the old days when visiting relatives, "grandma goes to visit my mother-in-law on the second day of the lunar month, and on the fourth and fifth day of the lunar month, I visit my mother-in-law." See you again on the fourth and fifth day of the lunar month." In fact, most married women in Weifang City return to their parents' homes on the second day of the second lunar month. In the past, the custom of "entering the twelfth lunar month gate, not entering the natal family gate" refers to married women in rural areas. In the city, on the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month, the "Little Year" (Cizao) day, married girls generally do not go to their parents' homes, and many people still follow this tradition. Of course, there are also married daughters who enter their parents' families on the New Year's Eve, which is a different matter. Before leaving from her husband's house, especially for a new daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law must wrap a red envelope, which the daughter-in-law is not allowed to open and look at. If there are sweet things in the bag, such as desserts, it means that the mother-in-law is satisfied with the daughter-in-law. Daughters who return to their parents’ homes are required to bring candies and noodles with them. Candies represent wishes for a sweet life, and noodles represent wishes for health and longevity. When a new daughter-in-law returns to her parents' home, she must accompany her husband to visit her family for New Year greetings. All the elders of the family must bow, which is commonly known as "kowtow." Whether she actually kowtows is another matter. Those accompanying her must bring a red blanket. It was laid on the ground when I was going to kowtow to my uncle. The main reason was that my uncle’s knees should not be touched by the soil. It is unlucky for a new uncle to have dirt on his knees during the New Year. Shandong: On the day when my daughter returns to her parents’ home, she usually eats dumplings at noon and dumplings in the afternoon. A daughter-in-law in the second grade of junior high school brings her son-in-law (or as many children as she has) back to her parents' home. In fact, the son-in-law is the protagonist. This time, the name is "to pay respects to the father-in-law" and he will stay for one night before returning. As gifts, four dumplings and eight lotus seeds are usually wrapped in a bag and brought with you. These two kinds of pasta carry the meaning of "everything is stable", so they are particularly important and must be brought. In addition, you can bring some wine, peach cakes, etc. according to your own financial ability. On the sixteenth day of the first lunar month, the son-in-law has to send his daughter-in-law back to her parents' home. This time, he leaves her daughter-in-law at her mother-in-law's home and leaves on her own. This is called "living at mother's house". Today, it is sometimes the sixth day for a daughter to return to her parents’ home for the Chinese New Year. Why do they choose the sixth day? There is another saying: "Visit the aunt first, then the uncle, and the mother-in-law is the last." Although the mother-in-law is the last thing for the son-in-law, he still has to choose an auspicious day to accompany his daughter-in-law back to her parents' home, so So I chose the "Sixth Day" which is both late and auspicious. When you go back to your parents' home, you need to bring some gifts. These gifts are all placed in bamboo baskets made of thin bamboo slices. Families with average economic conditions bring six or eight large dumplings steamed by their daughters. The eight red dots with dye on the dumplings indicate that the family will get rich in the coming year; families with better conditions, It is also decorated with peach cakes from the store, usually two kilograms. Peach cakes are a food specially made to honor the elderly. They are packaged in paper and covered with a piece of red paper, which indicates that the family will be prosperous in the coming year. On this night of the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, the daughter and son-in-law are not allowed to stay at her parents' house. But this time, the time at the mother-in-law's house is also very particular. It can't be too early. If it's too early, it will appear that the reception from the mother's family is not attentive; and it can't be too late. The mother's family will definitely urge the daughter and son-in-law to go home before the sun goes down. When the sun goes home, you will definitely have a good life! Jining: In the first year of marriage, the young couple must go back to their parents' home from the second to the fourth day of the lunar month. This is called the "Double Worship Festival". During the meal, the new son-in-law must sit as the guest of honor, and the person accompanying him must be a peer or junior. Elders are generally not allowed to be present. When eating, don't serve dumplings, which means pinching your mouth to prevent you from talking. In addition, every year on the 16th day of the first lunar month, someone from the natal family (usually a nephew, if you don’t have a nephew, go alone) will come and ask you to go back to your natal family together. Linyi In Linyi, if we follow the formal customs, then the sixteenth day of the first lunar month is a good day for a married girl to return to her parents’ home. You can go back before then, but no matter how many times you go back, you must go back on the sixteenth day of the first lunar month. Tai'an At noon on the second day of the Lunar New Year, the banquet for the new son-in-law is very particular. No matter how old or senior the person is, they must sit at the bottom, and the new son-in-law must sit in the front seat.

There are also certain procedures for serving food during the banquet. Generally, six kinds of snacks such as snacks and candies are served first (there are also eight kinds, divided into four dried and four fresh). After a simple snack, the dishes are officially served and the banquet begins. The whole fish dish can only be served when the banquet is halfway through, but as soon as the fish is on the table, a man with an empty plate will come to the new uncle to ask for a red envelope for the cook. After giving the red envelope, it is the turn of the younger brother-in-law or nephew to "offer" wine. At this time, the new uncle can decide whether he needs to pay for the red envelope at any time based on the person who is offering the wine. Generally, it is only given to children who are close to the wife by blood. That's it. Laiwu Here in Laiwu, I return to my parents’ home on the third day of the first lunar month, because the wedding ceremony has not yet been completed on the second day of the lunar month, and as a married daughter, I cannot see the family table. Early in the morning on the third day of the Lunar New Year, the young couple took the six gifts they had prepared and set out on the road. The six gifts include: a knife of meat, two fish, two bottles of wine, two cigarettes, two packs of tea, and two packs of snacks, all of which are indispensable. All gifts are given in duplicate. After returning to your natal family, if your natal family wants to keep or bring back double, they must keep or bring back double. You cannot split the gifts. When he arrives at his parents' house, according to the previous rules, the new son-in-law must kowtow to his parents-in-law, who will give him kowtow money. After arriving home and sitting for a while, the mother-in-law will quickly serve two bowls of dumplings for the new son-in-law to eat, which are called "dim sum". After eating the "snacks", we began to sit at the banquet. The new son-in-law should sit at the head of the family, and the parents' family should find a few respected elders and people who can drink to accompany the new son-in-law to show respect for the in-laws. The new son-in-law must take the first bite of the food at the dinner table before others can eat it. The new son-in-law must drink enough wine. If the new son-in-law is a heavy drinker, it is best to find a "drinking guest" who can drink before returning to his parents' home. This way there won't be any jokes at the mother-in-law's house. After drinking and eating, the sun has already hung on the corner of the western mountain. At this time, the new son-in-law will solemnly say goodbye to his parents-in-law, relatives and friends, ask them to leave their daughter to him without worry, and then lead his daughter-in-law home. Texas In Texas, it is the fourth day of the Lunar New Year for a daughter to return to her parents’ home with her son-in-law to pay New Year greetings to her mother-in-law. The mother's family solemnly calls her "waiting for her son-in-law" (or "waiting for the new bride"). After arriving at their parents' home to meet their parents, the daughter and children first kowtow to their parents and grandparents to pay New Year greetings; while the son-in-law has to be accompanied by his father-in-law or someone from the older generation to drink and eat with him. After eating and drinking, the son-in-law got up and kowtowed to his father-in-law and mother-in-law (his uncle and sister-in-law also had to kowtow) to pay New Year greetings. Although at this time, the father-in-law, mother-in-law and other elderly people also humbly said "Forget it, forget it", they were still quite happy to accept this kowtow ceremony. Then, the son-in-law will be led by his father-in-law or brother-in-law to the nearby head of the family or a relatively close family to pay New Year greetings to the elders. The daughter went to the neighbors' homes with whom she usually had good relations to pay New Year's greetings. Children of the younger generation who have their own wives, no matter whether they kowtow to you or not, you, the son-in-law, also have to give money (it is only called "New Year's money" in recent years); but sometimes the money is paid by the daughter-in-law. The daughter came to pay New Year greetings to her parents and was not allowed to stay. It is said that she was afraid of impoverishing her parents' family. When you come back, the gift from your parents’ family must be jujube cakes, and the bigger the better, which symbolizes the parents’ blessing for their daughter to climb higher! Liaocheng Early in the morning on the third day of the Lunar New Year, newly married couples or couples who already have children begin to make careful preparations for leaving their parents' home. The woman is neatly dressed, the man is neatly dressed, and the children are also dressed up. Then the daughter-in-law often tells her husband and children over and over again some etiquette that they should pay attention to in speaking, behavior, etc., and then she happily brings gifts after everything is done. Go straight to your destination. The natal family will often stand at the door to greet the daughter-in-law, son-in-law, and their family with smiles. While accepting gifts, those with children will also give some New Year's money. Binzhou In Binzhou, most people return to their natal family on the second day of the first lunar month. It is considered a good time for a daughter-in-law to go back to her natal family if her husband accompanies her. Decent. The most solemn visit to your parents' home is the first time after marriage. This time a new uncle comes to visit, which is no less important than a new daughter-in-law getting married. As soon as the new uncle arrived home, his father-in-law and mother-in-law had already welcomed him out before he could enter the house. Once he entered the house, the uncle would kneel down and kowtow to the old man. However, this was usually not allowed for the first time, and the father-in-law had already taken him to the house. Helped him up. Then my uncle gave me four gifts, nothing more than chicken, duck, and fish, each with double portions, which means good things come in pairs. After that, we sat down to eat. The food had been prepared a long time ago. My uncle took the seat and invited the elders of the family to accompany him. He persuaded my uncle to drink. He must drink the first glass in one go. Heze In Heze, returning to one's parents' home during the Spring Festival is always done on the second day of the lunar new year. The first time I went back to my parents’ home during the Spring Festival, I brought even numbers of gifts: either four or six. In addition, there are some small gifts that need to be placed in a special gift box. This box is divided into layers, and each layer cannot be empty. There are pastries, steamed buns, noodles, etc., and some also have money.

However, the natal family generally does not accept the contents of the gift box. The old rule here is "take a look and add half." If you open the box and accept the gifts, not only will each gift be doubled, but others will also I'm kidding you for being greedy. This time when I return to my parents’ home, my son-in-law has a much higher status than my daughter. He is the guest of honor and will sit on a red chair specially prepared for him. Every time a dish is served, the new son-in-law must take the first bite with chopsticks. If he doesn't move his chopsticks, no one can touch the dish. It’s not enough to just eat food, but also drink wine. Since the son-in-law is the protagonist, drinking is naturally indispensable. In order not to embarrass himself when he is drunk, the son-in-law will bring two people to drink on his behalf, which we call "barriers" here. This person is a good talker and has a good drinking capacity. At the wine shop, most of the wine presented to the new son-in-law was drunk by them. After all the dishes are served, the pastries are served at the end. These pastries are all brought by the guests and are specially made pastries. The pastries that are served also need to be eaten first by the new son-in-law. The pastries brought by each guest must be served again, and the pastries must be served as many times as there are guests. Every time a pastry is served, a dedicated person will introduce which relative brought it and what relationship it has with the son-in-law. If the new son-in-law tasted all kinds of pastries, his stomach would probably be full, so he just moved his chopsticks, picked one and put it on his plate, and it was considered a taste. This time when I go back to my parents’ home, I can’t go back too early. After dinner, he should chat with the old man, listen to the teachings of his parents-in-law, and take the initiative to invite the two old men and brothers and sisters to his home, and then say goodbye and go home.