Boyfriend and ex and I, forgive or break up?

In the emotional world, all men and women have a common enemy-ex. Because there is no room for a third person in love, there is an iron law in any stable relationship, that is, don't take office ahead of time.

I have seen a movie before, called "Previous Raiders". In the film, men and women fell in love at first sight at their predecessors' wedding, and then there was an old-fashioned golden couple plot, and the love affair developed rapidly. The man and the woman are a well-matched couple, and their personality and values fit in all aspects, but they just can't resist their lingering predecessors.

I still remember a classic line in the movie: "Women are afraid of the number of men's predecessors, and men are afraid of the quality of women's predecessors." It happened that this sentence was perfectly reflected in the hero and heroine.

There are countless ex-husbands of men, which affect their lives every once in a while; This woman's predecessor was a rich second generation Korean, handsome, rich, playful and obsessed with her. All kinds of predecessors are intertwined, which is equivalent to shooting at the door closely related to AK47, even the stainless steel security door is useless.

There are two kinds of predecessors in the world that are the most destructive. One is someone who can't bear to part with your current predecessor. They always try to rekindle old love and take its place. The other is an ex who is better at everything than you.

Personality disharmony in feelings can be easily solved in different places, as long as one of the two sides changes. But this kind of thing, ex is completely uncontrollable. You never know when he/she will run out and lose her mind.

For example, one of my girlfriends met a boy on a blind date. After four months together, his predecessor suddenly came back. The man is the kind of indecisive person. The ex-girlfriend of this boy also specially added my girlfriend WeChat to chat, which was full of gunpowder. She kept talking about how her boyfriend used to be, and asked my girlfriend to push him to take the exam, making it look like her ex was the real girlfriend, and her girlfriends were about to explode.

Then I asked her to call each other "Sister" and call her "Sister" more often. And let her never lose her temper, so that she won't lose her temper, and at the same time declare sovereignty, just one sister can explode her predecessor, okay?

Guess who won? Not my best friend or this man's predecessor. This man is with another girl again. Therefore, the problem of the predecessor is, in the final analysis, the problem of the man.

The problem of the predecessor is unavoidable. The key is how to deal with the ex. What do you want to know if you happen to have a wavering incumbent and a lingering predecessor? Look down.

The first point: when the ex comes back, she can't tear each other up like a bitch in front of her boyfriend. You are weaker, gentler, more pitiful, more innocent than the other person, and you look wronged. The Luns clearly didn't do anything. Why do you bully me?

Just keep that expression. Men tend to protect the weak. You see many videos of big rooms playing mistresses on the Internet. Why do men protect mistresses? Because mistress can pretend to be Bai Lianhua! As soon as I turned around, it was a room as big as three dozen. It's probably a man protecting the big room.

Second, making you gentle is not really gentle. You can't swallow it when people bully you. If the incumbent is firmly on your side, let the incumbent directly repel each other and humiliate something; If the incumbent wavers and the current predecessor pesters you or even provokes you, you can say something to stimulate the other party at this time.

For example, pretending to be the host and calling her sister, and then drying gifts and diamond rings will make the other person emotionally unstable. Once a person is emotionally unstable and his IQ is infinitely close to zero, it is impossible to know what to do.

The third point: blow the pillow breeze well and say something to the current one to make her impression worse, but it depends on the situation of her predecessor and take different measures.

If the current ex has a boyfriend and teases you, you can say, "She has a boyfriend and teases men everywhere to cuckold her boyfriend." Fortunately, you are not her boyfriend now, otherwise you would be wearing a green hat now. "

If your ex dumped your boyfriend and now comes back, you can say, "Is she your spare tire? Come if you want, and leave if you want. "

If your boyfriend dumped her and she came back to haunt her, it depends on whether your boyfriend is ashamed of her; If so, it will be more difficult to deal with. You can't just lose your temper. You should show generosity and try to drive the other person crazy.

Fourth, don't believe anything your predecessor said to stimulate you. If you have anything, just ask you now. Don't shoot your boyfriend. If anything happens, the couple will close the door and talk it over. Don't let outsiders see jokes, keep the gun open.

Fifth, the predecessor is a matter of principle. You should clearly let him know your bottom line. As long as you are in a higher position in the relationship, even if the other person is really hesitant and unwilling to draw a line with his predecessor, you can make him make up his mind in a more intense way. Please have a good quarrel. We don't quarrel about such things. When shall we quarrel? Really.

But if your position in the relationship is very low and you are reluctant to leave, please follow this one, two, three and four points. Anyway, you should remember that you are with him now, and he chose you, so you have nothing to be afraid of.