After five years of divorce, I wanted to remarry, but my daughter said, don't drag me down when you are old. What should I do?

When Xiao Zhang and I divorced, I wanted nothing but my daughter. Then, I took my daughter and moved to a rental house.

The day after the divorce, I told my eight-year-old daughter about it.

My daughter has witnessed all kinds of quarrels between me and Lao Zhang since she was five years old, and once witnessed Xiao Zhang hitting me. After that, her attitude towards Xiao Zhang was not very good, and she was not very close to Xiao Zhang.

I thought my daughter would be very happy to know about the divorce, but I didn't expect her to say, "Mom, you don't want money or a house, so what should you do when you are old?"

I said, "mom has a job, and besides, mom has you!" " "

The daughter nodded and said nothing.

I thought she couldn't accept my divorce from Xiao Zhang. I was about to comfort her, but my daughter said, "OK, Mom, I will treat you well when you are old."

My eyes are red, I hold my daughter, and I think I must give myself and my daughter a better life.

Later, I met my new boyfriend, Mr. Chen, at work.

Mr. Chen is ten years older than me. He divorced and had a son. The house was given to his ex-wife. He and his son also rented a house.

My daughter didn't show an obvious liking attitude towards Mr. Chen, but she didn't reject him either. So, after five years of divorce, I accepted Mr. Chen's proposal.

One day, I told my daughter that I was going to remarry.

At this moment, 13-year-old daughter said, "Mom, why don't you ask him for a house?" You are so stupid, you will slow me down. I will get married when I grow up. My husband may not like you living with me. I don't want you to get old and drag me down. "

I was surprised and asked my daughter why she said such a thing.

The daughter seems to be answering: "Grandma often says that you are stupid and always drags her down."

Suddenly, I was speechless.

Where did I drag her?

My mother has always been mean. Growing up, I always said I was a silly child on various occasions. Fortunately, my father has always encouraged me, so I was admitted to the university under the various blows of my mother, but my feelings with my mother have always been very general.

After I graduated from college, my father suffered from liver cancer. My mother didn't want to take care of me and advised me to go back to my hometown for various reasons. Although I don't want to face my mother's vitriol, for my father's sake, as an only child, I have to go back to my hometown and work.

My father died the year after I returned to the town.

About a year later, my mother remarried and my stepfather moved in.

Stepfather doesn't like to talk, which is ok for me, but I moved out anyway.

Then I fell in love, got married, gave birth to a daughter, and met my mother from time to time. I am neither intimate nor strange. After I divorced Xiao Zhang, I was busy at work. My mother saw it and took the initiative to come over from time to time to help me take care of my daughter, cook and clean up the housework.

I admit, after my mother took the initiative to help me out of some difficulties in life, my resentment towards her eased a lot, but I didn't expect her to say such a thing to my daughter!

After graduating from college, I found a job myself. After work, according to her strong demand, I pay her one-third of her salary every month. When I got married, she only gave me a red box, which was empty, but she no longer asked me to give her a third of her salary. I didn't ask her for a house to live in when I divorced. Help me take care of my daughter. I give her more than 1000 every month if she wants it. ...

Let me see, where did I drag her down?

My heart is: no!

I only have full grievances and anger!

3 "I'm just waiting to see you die."

So, when my mother appeared in front of me, I had a big fight with her. My mother confidently insisted that I was a drag on her and made her uneasy in her later years.

If my daughter hadn't cried and told us not to fight, if our neighbors hadn't come to stop the fight, my mother and I would have really fought.

Before leaving, my mother cried in tears, "You silly girl! Silly girl! The whole world has never seen you so stupid! Divorce does not ask a man for a house, and remarriage does not ask a man for a house. What is the most important thing in emotional love? ! I am waiting to see you die! "

I was so angry that I shed tears and slammed the door at my mother's back, vowing never to see her again.

She doesn't think I did.

It is said that daughters are parents' little cotton-padded jackets.

However, there is nothing absolute in the world, and people's hearts are different.

I admit, whether it is childhood, adolescence, adulthood or being a mother, I can't be close to my mother, and I can't be her little cotton-padded jacket.

However, I don't want to be this type of mother, and I don't want to copy her vitriol to my daughter. Instead, I hope my daughter can feel the tenderness and affection from the heart, and let her experience the maternal love I have never experienced before. So in order to get custody of my daughter, I am willing to give up other rights and interests that I deserve, such as a house, such as husband and wife savings.

When I remarried, why did I accept the proposal without asking Mr. Chen for a house? Because I know that with Mr. Chen's current ability, I can't give me a house, and I don't want to force him to leave.

Am I really as stupid as my mother said? She doesn't think I did.

I have mixed feelings when I think about these things.

Now, I have been remarried for four years and my daughter has gone to college.

My daughter and I talk on the phone every day and say I love her every day.

Once, my daughter asked me, "Mom, you say you love me every day because you are afraid that I will really ignore you when you are old?"

I said I'm not afraid that you will ignore me when I'm old, because I discussed my old age with old Chen Dou, and we are prepared and won't hold you back. What I'm afraid of is that in case I accidentally leave one day, you still don't know that I really love you.

The daughter said, "Mom, you are really a little stupid, just like grandma said."

Suddenly, I have some regrets.

I really haven't seen my mother since we fell out that day. But I know that my mother is still in contact with my daughter, and my mother's health is acceptable.

I know I can't really cut off the connection between my mother and my daughter. I don't know what kind of mother my daughter will be when she becomes a mother. I have mixed feelings when I think about this.

Affection, perhaps like to make us pay a lot of pain, to understand its preciousness, to understand the mother's deep affection in different periods!

The best doctor is yourself. This sentence made me burst into tears.