What if there is no direction in life?

What if there is no direction in life?

What if there is no direction in life? Occasionally I lose my sense of direction for various reasons. At this time, I feel that I am living aimlessly. I have arranged relevant information for you about how to do without direction in life. Let's have a look.

What if there is no direction in life? 1 When you find that your life has no goals and directions, you must not make any decisions easily. What you need to do at this time is to stop, let yourself have a good rest and relax, and then make an objective evaluation of your current situation and find out the reasons for this situation, so as to better suit the remedy to the case. Some people are only temporarily depressed, while others may have suffered great trauma.

Whether in life or work, everyone's situation is different. Regardless of whether you are confused or not, once you have no goals and directions, you must have a correct attitude to sort out your life. You can write out your strengths and weaknesses one by one, then what is your current situation, what is your goal and direction, and then through your own combing, make an objective analysis, and find your life goal and direction again.

If you are really tired and can't struggle, then you can take a vacation for yourself, go out and see other scenery, look at the problem again in a different mood, give yourself enough space and time, start from the heart and move on. Life is cruel to everyone, so everyone's situation is different, and it depends on how you overcome cruelty. Beating him is a brave man in life.

Some people's lives may encounter a sudden blow, illness or the sudden death of their loved ones. These are irreversible and fatal blows, as if the sky is falling, but these are their own subjective thoughts and understandings. Even if they are painful, life will eventually continue. You can temporarily cross the past and indulge your negativity, but eventually you will return to normal, and life will not sympathize with the weak.

When necessary, everyone should read more books to experience and understand their own life through the experiences and lessons of others in the books. Reading more books can not only improve a person's ability in all aspects, but also enrich a person, leaving him with no time to feel sorry for himself and no mood to complain about others. Hard work is the theme of life and the eternal way out. Only when the road is repaired can we get out of the strange circle of life confusion and improve ourselves better.

The goal and direction of life are particularly important to a person. Only when the goal is clear and the direction is correct can we make better progress, struggle better and make fewer detours in our life or work. Therefore, for a person, if he wants to live a better life, he must have his own goals and directions in life, even if it is only temporary, and he cannot be absent or lost.

What if there is no direction in life? I have always felt that it is the most difficult to have two nodes in the four-year undergraduate course. One is the third month of each semester, because we always find that all kinds of rhetoric set at the beginning of the semester have not been realized near the end of the semester. We spend less money, eat more vegetables, study for six hours every day, go to the gym three times a week, and the final score is 65,438+00% ... all these have become jokes at the end of the term. The other node is the third year after entering school. When you find that your classmates got internships, scholarships and opportunities to go abroad that you didn't get, you can't help asking yourself: "When we entered school, our grades and abilities were similar. Why is the gap so far after three years? " This question also makes you insomnia.

I don't know how many people, out of these anxieties, choose to study for a master's degree or a doctor's degree, and choose to buy themselves another two to five years to make up for their unfinished wishes and catch up with those students who surpass themselves.

But I am sure that when you are still in regret and anxiety, you are unlikely to listen to your own ideals, general education and social contributions. Because those are like the moon hanging high in the sky, and you are worried about whether you will miss the next bus after missing one bus. Even you have begun to think about whether you can settle in Beishangguang in the future, whether you want to find a girlfriend living in Beijing, and how much annual salary it takes to send your children to bilingual kindergartens.

However, please don't jump to conclusions. We are a group of short-sighted young people who are bound by utilitarianism. Because many colleagues I know have a strong sense of social responsibility. We are also eager to do something. We are also eager to make innovations beneficial to society in academia, business and government agencies. We are also eager to do something. However, few people guide us to balance the conflict between ideal and reality, and few people help us to reconcile the contradiction of cognition.

When we set out, we were all moving towards our ideals, but there were obstacles, temptations, anxieties and more differences along the way. We got separated as we walked. Obviously, I don't want to be an exquisite egoist, but I can't get out of the strange circle of realistic constraints by myself.

This shows one thing: ideals are very important; But only by looking forward to the ideal, it will not come to an end. We also need torches to follow the road, sunglasses to keep out the wind, hats to keep out the rain, and donkeys to ride. We need to find some partners to accompany us outside the ideal, so that we can find the direction when there is no direction and stick to it when the ideal has not yet landed. (

My first companion is courage. We often regard courage as a modifier of "dare to question" and "dare to take responsibility", but in fact, courage is more difficult to cultivate than questioning and taking responsibility. When my view is different from that of most people, when the career goal I choose is an unpopular and dangerous road, and when the opportunity to realize my ideal is not perfect but fleeting, we all have to rely on some courage and something beyond rationality to dare to express our views, dare to do what we think is right but others don't recognize, and dare to do things in an uncertain environment. Sometimes people deceive themselves with the phrase "I am brave, but I just don't want to show it". But courage is like a muscle, it will shrink when not in use, and it needs to be practiced repeatedly in every occasion where courage is needed to become stronger.

The second partner is hobby. Some days I spent it like this: click on Renren to watch today's news, then open the WeChat circle of friends to brush from top to bottom until I have browsed all the content worthy of comment and praise, and then go back to Renren to see if there is any new content during the brushing of WeChat ... This is not a joke, it reflects a phenomenon-we are used to relying on the thin pleasure pushed by social networks to quench our thirst.

But the more you drink, the more tired you get, and the more thirsty you drink, and you rarely get completely satisfied. This kind of life can last for two days, but it will be annoying in less than a week. We need to cultivate a hobby outside social networks in order to get enough satisfaction. It can be any form of playing ball, swimming, singing and cooking, or being with boyfriends and girlfriends, as long as it allows you to enjoy it without indulging in it. Finding a reward mechanism that suits you is not easier than finding an ideal, but once found, it will become your weapon to resist the boredom and emptiness of life.

The third partner is habit. 12 Ma Donghan of Tsinghua Fine Arts Department showed a copy of her curriculum when she defended the undergraduate special scholarship. From 6 am to evening 1, every hour is very tight. Some people worry that if you plan your life too much, you will lose your freedom, but in fact, life without planning is even less free-because you always have to spend time thinking about what to do in the next hour, whether to read papers or visit Taobao to brush everyone. You have to knock off your lazy thoughts in your mind before you can make up your mind to do those 1 important things. This process of resistance consumes willpower very much, and willpower is a scarce resource for anyone. Doing fixed things at a fixed time and developing some good habits will help to save willpower and use it on more difficult tasks.

A generation ago, China produced a fantastic, action, humorous and special effects film and television blockbuster. Its name is The Journey to the West. This is the only TV play that I have watched more than three times. However, at this moment, I find that my yearning for adventure as a child is so similar to my understanding of life when I grow up. To get the best journey, you must be as determined as Tang Yan, as fearless as Wukong, rely on Bajie to bring laughter along the way, and do your job day after day like Friar Sand.

I like a question and answer in Zhihu very much.

The questioner said, "How did you get out of the trough of your life?" The answer with the most votes is "walk a few more steps".

I think that cultivating courage, hobbies and habits are just some steps we can take when our life is at a low ebb and our sense of direction is not so strong.

Postscript: after receiving the invitation of the opening ceremony of the college, the sentence that has been echoing in my mind-"After listening to a lot of preaching, I still can't live this life." We are used to saying inspiring words at the beginning of school, with a beautiful but unattainable vision, but in fact, many times, we are all accompanied by some small joys and sorrows. Of course, this is probably because my vision is not broad enough, but I do feel the trivial anxiety everywhere in my life like many people. But on the other hand, I also realized that changing anything I am not satisfied with in my life will actually make my life happy. Just like suddenly receiving an unimportant task after doing nothing for a while, you can also get a better sense of yourself from the process of completing the task. This speech wants to talk about how to fight against several common negative emotions in life: the regret of missing opportunities because of timidity and hesitation, the emptiness caused by excessive dependence on one-dimensional happiness, and frequent troubles because of lack of plans in life. I don't expect to say anything profound for five minutes, but I hope that people who have had similar feelings can find some suggestions to improve their lives.