Boy: "Grandma's house is so small." Dad's high emotional intelligence answer won praise from others.

As the saying goes, "it is immoral for children to speak", because children are still very young and have learned to speak, so they often say something inappropriate.

Because the child has low intelligence, he seldom understands whether what he said will cause embarrassment and unhappiness to others.

So many times, mom and dad will be embarrassed to "wipe their ass" because they say "children's words" for their children.

The boy said "grandma's house is so small", and his father's high emotional intelligence was admirable.

I remember this year's Spring Festival, my family and my cousin went to my grandmother's house for the Spring Festival. The two families came in happily with gifts, but because my cousin's son came in, "Grandma's house is really small." ! Everyone is embarrassed.

But my cousin is a clever man. Cousin said to his son, "but grandma cleaned the little room very clean, didn't she?" Think about grandma, too Do you know the good habit of cleaning? "

When I heard that my cousin helped my son "wipe his ass", everyone had to admire my cousin's high emotional intelligence, and this embarrassment was solved.

But after this incident, my cousin was also a little worried. Obviously, he is a person with low emotional intelligence, but does his son always say something inappropriate?

Although he said "colleague commitment", his cousin personally met many children of his son's age, but when he spoke, he could show that children have the ability to recognize words and colors and have high emotional intelligence.

How do parents cultivate children with high emotional intelligence?

1. Parents have a strong sense of humor, and so do their children.

In our life, there are many people who are humorous. They are like natural "actors", who will always make you laugh in a few words and unconsciously bring you closer to others.

Similarly, if one of the couples has a sense of humor, children will learn a sense of humor from their parents "subconsciously".

Such children are "high emotional intelligence" children. When he comes into contact with a strange child, a simple joke will bring him closer.

Similarly, when dealing with teachers, teachers must appreciate the age of children with good social skills like a "little adult".

Therefore, parents must cultivate their children's sense of humor if they want their children to have high emotional intelligence. As the saying goes, "cats give birth to cats, dogs give birth to dogs, and mice's sons can drill holes."

2. Parents are both hard and soft, and children know how to treat people.

In the process of educating their children, parents know both hard and soft. When the child does something wrong, the mother knows how to tell the child, "If you do this, you will get into trouble with others." Then guide the children to encounter such things in the future. What is the correct method?

Secondly, when the child cries in the street, the mother knows how to "cold treat" to calm the child down, and then after the child cries enough, the mother will find a quiet place and persuade the child patiently.

With such a smart and wise mother, children will learn this advantage from their mothers, so children will gradually learn the way their mothers do things, whether soft or hard, and what children say will be more convincing among children of the same age.

At the same time, if they learn to use both soft and hard languages, naturally, children will learn to observe their languages and colors, even look at people's dishes and tell people they meet that they rarely say outdated words.

Therefore, I think that to educate children who can't speak, parents should first learn to educate their children with their own wisdom, and then children can follow their parents' wisdom.

I think that a child with this "high emotional intelligence" can easily become a school cadre by learning to speak. At the same time, even if he goes to work in the future, the child's high emotional intelligence will become his weapon.

3. Parents are modest and children should be considerate.

I have a father and son in my head. My father is a very polite and polite person. When he is standing and chatting with him, he will inevitably feel uncomfortable.

At the same time, this father is also a very qualified person. No matter which public place you are in, your father will consciously respect public order. He has never seen him spit.

Similarly, we look at his children, whether on the bus or subway, or playing with the children downstairs in the community, they seem to be very educated.

At the same time, the child is very smart and makes his parents proud, especially in understanding his parents. The child seldom spoiled in the street.

I remember once, the boy saw his favorite toy and wanted his father to buy it for him, but his father refused.

On the way home, the father asked his son, "I won't buy you your favorite toy." Why don't you cry? " Then the child replied, "Even if I cry, you won't buy it for me." Why not buy it for me? Talking about how to buy it for me. "

Therefore, if parents treat others with courtesy, most children will not run amok in the street and embarrass their parents.

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