Dumped before marriage and reunited a month later. At best, it's the Virgin Mary, at worst, it's an idiot.

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After writing so many emotional stories, I found one thing that made me particularly puzzled.

Many girls with excellent conditions around them always put themselves in a very low position when they fall in love and cater to each other everywhere. Even if the other party made a mistake emotionally, the girl chose to forgive, although her heart ached.

At first, I thought that these people themselves had a tendency to be abused, but after careful understanding, I found that they were actually inferior.

Girls with inner inferiority don't believe that there is happiness in their feelings, and always take the responsibility of boys to themselves, thinking that his failure is mainly my responsibility. If I can behave better, he won't like others, and so on.

To be honest, every time I face such a girl, I really want to wake her up with a stick.

0 1.

One of my readers is a girl who has no self in love.

The reader talked about a boyfriend in college and has been together for five years now. In these five years, although they had quarrels and some big contradictions, she finally overcame many difficulties and resolutely stayed with each other.

Readers who work in IT are usually very busy. They go out early in the morning, come back late at night, and basically work overtime on weekends. Her boyfriend, on the other hand, works relatively easily, rarely works overtime at ordinary times, and is normal on weekends.

It is precisely because the rest time of the two people is inconsistent that they have no time to communicate and date, so her boyfriend betrayed her many times during his interaction with her.

For the first time, readers find that boyfriends and other girls are abnormal. At that time, he was just having an affair, not involved in it. The reader is very sad. She ignored her boyfriend for about three days. Finally, her boyfriend knelt down with her and promised that this would be the last time and she would never betray her again. Only then did she choose to forgive.

However, a man's mouth and a deceitful ghost, especially this kind of thing, have a first time and a second time.

Although the boyfriend's guarantee is only spiritual freedom, there is no real contact, but for readers who are addicted to love cleanliness, it still feels a great blow.

The reader was just 23 years old when he was with his boyfriend. Now he is 28 years old and will be 30 in two years. In their hometown, girls of this age will be laughed at for marrying late, so even if they are sympathetic, readers finally choose to forgive. The reason is that after talking for five years, she gave him all her youth, not to mention finding someone to start over, and the ending may not be perfect.

02.

People have been looking for themselves all their lives. Fortunately, some people finally get lost, but others go further and further.

On the eve of National Day, my boyfriend's parents came to Shanghai and offered to meet readers.

The reader dressed up and went to visit the boy's parents with fruit. Boyfriend's parents are very satisfied with her, urging her son to get the certificate quickly, and saying that he is waiting to have a grandson.

Readers' parents met their boyfriends two years ago and were very satisfied with them. Seeing that my daughters are getting older, I have long planned to let them get married. In order to let women get married smoothly, they also said that it is ok not to pay a bride price.

However, after her boyfriend cheated several times, readers were alert to this feeling. She felt that the bride price was a guarantee for herself, so in the end, she asked for a bride price of 6.5438+0.8 million, and the boy's parents didn't say anything. She thought about it and agreed.

The first time the reader's parents went out of town, they went to the boy's house, took the high-speed train from their hometown and then transferred to the bus. It took five hours to get to the boy's home. According to local customs, they must get engaged before they get married.

All the people who came to the engagement party were relatives of boys' families, and the girls' families were far away, so all the parents came. After the engagement party, the reader took his parents to the hotel, but on the way back, there was a contradiction between the boy and the bride price.

It turns out that the boy lost a little money in stock investment a while ago, and he hopes to reduce the bride price by 20,000 on the basis of 1.8 million, which can just be used to fill his deficit. The reader disagreed, and the last two were very unhappy because the bride price was not settled and they broke up directly.

Not long after the breakup, the boy quickly found a new girlfriend, but a month later, the boy found a reader again, hoping to get back together with her. I asked the reader, what do you think? You don't want to get back together, do you?

She hesitated for a few seconds and said helplessly, "What else can I do?" ? It's not easy for a girl like me to find someone who will marry me. Moreover, after all, I have had feelings with him for so many years, not that we can break up after breaking up. "

03.

I don't know what the reader has experienced, so I feel: I am like this, how can I deserve the love of others. And also take the other person's desire to marry her as gratitude, thinking that no one may want himself except him.

I think it's horrible for a girl to have such an idea in a relationship.

I've seen many wronged and perfect marriages. Although the result is my choice, the process is full of helplessness and misfortune.

In fact, men don't feel that they owe a woman anything and want to make up for it. On the contrary, it will hurt each other more unscrupulously in a woman's low profile.

I am most afraid of women saying, "I know he is actually very nice." If he gets married in the future, he should be a good father. " Excuse me, how can a really good man break his word and have an affair with other girls when he has a girlfriend?

? I found that there really is a girl talking to herself in this world, who will automatically rationalize every time a boy hurts her, and will also blame herself for all her faults. At best, she is a "virgin", at worst, she is a "fool".

There are really too many silly girls in love, girls, always remember: never try to find a boyfriend in the garbage, because even if you find it, it is a pile of garbage and you can't be a good man.

He is a "younger brother" who knows nothing and needs the care of girls everywhere.

Just like the readers mentioned at the beginning of this article, it's not that you are wrong, but that the people you meet are wrong. There is a law of attraction between men and women, but it just happens that the questions you throw are not very attractive to each other.

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