Desperately opposed to marrying Phoenix man, not long after marriage, rural relatives knocked at the door to stay. what do you think?

Phoenix men refer to those men who were born in poverty, went to college through hard work and stayed in the city after graduation. The cruelty and hardship of life left a deep imprint on their hearts, which made them generally have a good family, a fighting spirit that they did not have, and a vicious fighting spirit. When choosing urban women around them to join hands in the marriage hall, some couples sometimes have different ideas and family conflicts are constant.

Everything is unprincipled and biased towards my parents. I have been married to Phoenix man for more than ten years. My husband is from a bad family and has a heavy burden. Forget it. We support it, we nurture it, but the pride, character and concept of my in-laws are very acceptable and understandable. In the early years, my husband was still very confused, and everything was unprincipled to his parents. He also said to me, "No matter me.

Besides, he said, "Don't ask me such a stupid question as who should I save first when you fall into the water with my mother. I will definitely save my mother first. There is only one mother. " I have survived these years and I am really drunk. In the past two years, I began to be provoked, resisted and struggled. My husband suddenly woke up and said that there would be no him today without me. He began to protect me. My in-laws will never bully me again.

His parents are always above our small family. I married a Phoenix man, and the three views are completely different. He always thought that it was not easy for his in-laws to provide for his college education, so he was bent on repaying the kindness. For example, when we first got married and bought a house, he offered to bring his in-laws to live together and let them live in the master bedroom. Because the master bedroom has a convenient bathroom, he must go back to their home for the New Year. Because he is a son, for the sake of his in-laws, he can leave me and my children and go back at once.

I have something to say: in essence, the class is wrong and the portal is wrong, so the perspective of looking at things is essentially different. Even in the same city, with different birth classes, the three views are quite different. Phoenix men may have problems, but they have excellent qualities that ordinary people don't have, such as hardship, hard work, kindness, honesty, filial piety, affection, affection and nostalgia. They are more important than those horse-haired men.

It's not that Phoenix can't marry, but that you never thought about it from the beginning. Why can this man have today's achievements? From a humble family, break the social class and break their own conditions, thus changing from a poor family to a rich family. Poor families really don't have noble children, and the class is there. The change of family background cannot be solved in one generation, but it takes two, three or even four generations to change.

Marry the so-called Phoenix Man and start a family. As long as both sides are diligent, respect and care for each other, and regard each other's relatives as their own, life will be happy. No matter rich or poor, family education must be particular. I don't think Phoenix Man has anything. It doesn't matter at all. What he is afraid of is that the family he came from behind is an empty filial piety full of dissatisfaction and ignorance. Ironically, his parents think you got a bargain.

A person with a sense of responsibility, conscience and gratitude is the embodiment of Tao. Such a man can consider the problem from the overall situation, not short-sighted "to his family" or "to his parents". People who look at problems from the perspective of "self" often see the true colors of things and people.