Why not let children know the complexity of human nature and the dark side of society from an early age?

Adults always don't want children to see the ugliness of human nature and consciously beautify it. Why? Why can't children be told the nature of human nature and many dark sides of society in advance to prevent them from stepping on thunder?

I will see this question from time to time, and sometimes I will be asked by my children. Before answering this question, I want to tell a short story.

There was a little boy who was called Brother Long by generations, although he was only 10 years old. Just like his name, although he is young, he is full of Jianghu atmosphere, which he learned from his parents and Hong Kong films.

Brother Long started smoking at the age of three. It was not others but his mother who taught him to smoke. My mother does nothing every day. Mahjong hall is where she works. Even if you don't eat, you can't lack three things. She is also a woman who turned her hobby into a career. Brother Long has been with his mother in the mahjong room since he can remember.

He is used to seeing all kinds of people, gamblers fight for several chips, and the police uncle takes away his mother and her card friends, but he has never felt ashamed. In his cognition, everything is normal.

Brother Long's happiest thing is that his mother won the money. At this time, Brother Long can have a "huge sum". If his mother wins a lot, he may throw him twenty dollars, so that his lunch or dinner can be upgraded from baked wheat cake to a big bowl of egg noodles. The rest of the money can also go to the game hall in the city center to play games for two or three hours.

Brother Long is a frequent visitor to the game hall. Those players like Brother Long, regardless of age, because he is a little errand boy in the whole game hall. Every player can call Brother Long to help him buy cigarettes, snacks and drinks. Of course they won't let Brother Long run errands for nothing. Brother Long can get some change almost every time. The game hall is Longge's favorite place, where he can feel the happiness he didn't have at school.

School is a challenging place for Brother Long. Unlike the game hall, Brother Long has a supreme sense of superiority at school. This sense of superiority obviously does not come from academic performance. Since the second grade, Brother Long has failed frequently. By the fourth grade, the teacher was used to it, but every time he took the exam, the teacher was not used to it. Brother Long is not interested in learning. He likes playing pranks in class best. He will take a pair of scissors to cut the pigtails of girls in the front row when the teacher is writing on the blackboard, or take out a stone hidden in his pocket and throw it at the head of a boy he doesn't like after class. He likes to listen to the laughter and commotion caused by his practical jokes in the quiet class. Only then will the teacher's eyes look at him. Although full of blame, at least you can see him.

Brother Long's favorite time is after school. At this time of day, the school is his kingdom. Because of the gangsters he met in the game hall, Brother Long had his own little power. He took advantage of the trend and began to dominate the campus. Needless to say, children in lower grades, extend his power to senior grades, and even other middle schools, and Brother Long will become famous. A fourth-grade child has become the big brother that everyone fears. He dared to fight with the teacher in class and jumped up after class to kiss the senior girls.

Brother Long's reputation is abroad, and his mother doesn't know it, but her mother is busy playing mahjong and she doesn't care about him. Brother Long came to see her when she was hungry, as long as it didn't affect her playing mahjong. Once I lost several times, my eyes were red and I was very angry. Brother Long came at a bad time and was scolded by her mother, but Brother Long was really hungry and his classmates paid protection money. Brother Long learned to play cards from his mother since he was a child. He felt the opportunity came and asked her loudly for money. His mother's cards were tight, and he didn't care about him. He waved his hand and was scolded again. Not only did he not give her a penny, but he also said that Brother Long rushed her to get lucky. He used his killer weapon and shouted, "Uncle and aunt, pay attention, my mother will get 50 thousand cards at one stop, so don't play!"

My mother was so angry that she was going to hit him when she came up. He ran and shouted, I'm not afraid of you hitting me. Anyway, I grew up. I am really hungry. If you don't give me money to eat, I will stand next to you and give you water to drink. None of us can be comfortable!

Mother had to compromise and gave him ten dollars. Although Brother Long succeeded, he wandered around the street alone with money and suddenly became hungry. He was very sad when he saw his classmate's parents leading his classmate's family of three to buy fruit. My mother's friend saw him wandering around the barbecue shop, called him into the restaurant, gave him a meal and gave him three bottles of beer. Brother Long, who is only in the fourth grade, is in a bad mood. After drinking three bottles of wine, he was a little drunk and hot all over. He came out of the restaurant as if on fire, and wandered around the street with a red face. At this time, he was afraid to meet his classmates. They are all good children. No matter whether they study well or not, at least no one will hide, but he is different. The students all hid when they saw him. He heard those adults with him more than once.

Brother Long suddenly has nowhere to go. He doesn't want to go back to that small and desolate home. Aimless, he suddenly felt that life was so boring. Other students are picked up by their parents every day, and only he comes back alone. He was suddenly tired of this life because he had to be scolded and exchange his head for ten dollars. Brother Long felt like a fire in his stomach. He went to his favorite shop on weekdays, where an aunt was very kind to him. He likes that aunt.

On entering the door, he saw his aunt's warm smiling face. Brother Long instantly felt unspeakable injustice in his heart. At this time, the alcohol also came up, and my legs were soft. He was lying on the ground.

Aunt hurried over to pull him: What's the matter with you, son? Why do you smell like alcohol? Who gave you a drink?

Brother Long had a wry smile at his mouth: A friend of my mother invited me to dinner and gave me three bottles of beer. Aunt, I seem to be drunk. Do not pull me. I'm very hot and want to lie on the ground for a while.

Aunt: There is a small bed in it. You can lie in the cot. The ground is cold and dirty. Who is your mother's friend? How can she give such a young child a drink? Really out of tune!

This may have poked a sore spot in Brother Long's heart. Alcohol catalyzed the pain in his young mind. Although Brother Long tried his best to restrain himself, he still couldn't control his tears. He had to stop them with his hands, but by this time his mood had collapsed: Aunt, my life is very difficult! You know I'm hungry after school. I went to ask my mother for money. She is losing money and scolds me. She didn't give me a penny, but my aunt was hungry. I almost let her beat me up for ten dollars!

Aunt has some tears in her eyes. At that time, she didn't know how to comfort the child. She just bent down to help Brother Long and help him pat the dust off his clothes.

Brother Long suddenly felt a little rude. He quickly wiped away his tears and said, Aunt, don't laugh at me. I suddenly felt very sad. I have nothing to say. Why do you think I have such a mother? She spends every day in the mahjong room, regardless of my study. When I got home, I was alone. I can only run to the game hall and mix with those adults. In fact, I know they are all bad people, but there is no way. Nobody dares to bully them.

Brother Long's reputation has been getting worse and worse since the third grade. He often bullies his classmates. After school, he won't let them ask for money. If he doesn't, he will call. His parents found a school, but the nine-year compulsory education law made it impossible for the school to expel him. The headmaster and teachers both had a headache when they saw him. Brother Long was even more presumptuous when he knew that the school could do nothing about him. Finally, one day, he had a good time, led several younger brothers and set fire to the weeds outside the school wall. As a result, the fire was too big and burned to the campus. The headmaster told the Education Bureau that he didn't want Brother Long. Brother Long was expelled from school in the fifth grade last semester, and no school dared to accept him. He dropped out of school.

Brother Long, who has nothing to learn, can only soak in the game hall every day. He is neither tall nor thin, and looks almost like the third grade. I'm really sleepy after playing late at night, and I want to go home, but I can't afford to take a taxi, so I have to let my thin legs carry my tired body and carry a street lamp as lonely as him at midnight.

The street lamp made his shadow long and thin. He stood in his own shadow, looking at the trees shivering with the winter wind. He walked with one foot deep and one foot shallow, thinking that if he had money in his pocket, it would be nice to take a taxi.

Just thinking like this, a car horn sounded in his ear and a police car stopped at his side. The policeman's uncle's smile spread out before his eyes: Little friend, why don't you go home so late? Can't find a home?

Brother Long suddenly felt a taxi coming, so he pretended to be an innocent pupil and replied, I seem to have lost my way, and I couldn't find my home after several turns.

He got on the police uncle's patrol car and went home, but after three or four times, the police recognized him and ignored him.

That's how Brother Long grew up. He hangs out in game halls and nightclubs and earns some living by helping others fight. His mother went in because of XD, and he stayed there for two years for hurting others.

Today, Brother Long is 265,438+0 years old. In addition to his clean face, as long as he has a free place, he is covered with all kinds of patterns that he can't say. He thinks it will help him to walk the rivers and lakes.

His parents didn't tell him personally the complexity of human nature, nor did they tell him the dark side of society, and even ignored his education. He lived in the dark side of society since he was a child, and he was in contact with people on the edge of society. He was forced to get in touch with people and things that should not be his age in advance, and was forced to be polluted when he was unable to distinguish between right and wrong. Brother Long only thinks about the right or wrong of his behavior occasionally, more often.

If we, as parents, take the initiative to tell our children the complexity of human nature and the dark side of society when they are very young, it will destroy his original yearning for the world, which means a kind of destruction to him and is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Just like a small tree, it can't stand the wind and waves when it is young, so when it needs protection, it should not be subjected to the wind and waves in advance. It does not have the ability to face the wind and waves. If you are exposed to the wind and rain too early, you will only die or be disabled.

Today's story is a bit long, but it is a true story, and this story also completely answers the questions at the beginning of the article.