Why do brothers and sisters become enemies?

As the saying goes: "One monk carries water to drink, two monks carry water to drink, and three monks have no water to drink."

When parents are too old to walk, they need children. When alimony is apportioned and full-time care is taken, the conflict between siblings becomes more and more obvious. No one is willing to bear the main responsibility for support. There are relatively few people who can "take the lead" alone.

After their parents passed away, the conflict reached a fever pitch and the brotherhood was gone.

Watching your blood relatives gradually drifting apart, you will inevitably feel heartbroken and have failed your parents in their upbringing.

How to resolve grudges? The following methods are recommended.

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First, don’t be discouraged and actively look for opportunities for reconciliation.

There is no overnight feud between husband and wife, because love and responsibility are always there.

Brothers and sisters can become enemies for a long time because their parents will no longer care and their bloodlines have been "separated".

If you can think of old feelings and shoulder responsibilities just like you treat your lover, then the family relationship will exist for a long time and there will be no conflicts that cannot be resolved.

The ancients said: "The eldest brother is the father."

In a good big family, the eldest brother will come forward to mediate the relationship between brothers and sisters, and take on the responsibility of gathering together during holidays. Responsibilities of the "Protagonist". If the eldest brother does not want to play the leading role, then in the family, a person with good moral character can be recommended as the "backbone".

In fact, many brothers and sisters do not usually interact with each other, but they still get together at birthday banquets of the elders, wedding banquets of the younger generation, and college entrance banquets. At this time, if everyone sits together and chats about daily life, the conflicts will gradually ease.

If you can speak shamelessly, although you are "inferior", you will appear noble, which is also the proper meaning of being a human being.

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Second, don’t settle old scores and learn to look forward.

My third uncle has always had a bad relationship with his brothers and sisters.

After he retired, he went back to worship his ancestors and saw his second uncle lying on the bed. The family was so poor that they couldn't even afford a wheelchair. At that moment, the second uncle cried. He really didn't expect that the brother he had quarreled with would end up in such a miserable way.

After that, the third uncle visited the second uncle every month and brought gifts and a wheelchair.

People, the older you get, the fewer relatives you have around you. Living relatives are extremely precious. What are past grudges compared to blood ties?

After the brothers and sisters become enemies, think about it, what will everyone be like in ten years? Should we all return to our roots and help each other walk?

Hate is temporary resentment and care about money. If you let go of these two things, everything will get better. Normally, the more serious the falling out, the harder it will be to let go of one's dignity in the future. If you think long-term, there will be less hatred.

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Third, with the help of external forces, ask elders to mediate.

On the day my third grandfather passed away, the children made a fuss and even overturned the table.

The eldest son of the third grandfather secretly took over the family house as his own. This matter is the focus of the conflict.

In order to deal with the aftermath, the third grandfather’s father-in-law came to the scene.

He said meaningfully: "The old man's body is not yet cold, and the brothers are arguing endlessly. What kind of truth is this? It will make outsiders laugh. Besides, houses in the countryside are not worth much money. Boss I have been a farmer all my life and it is understandable that I want a house. Others have settled in the city, and some have even set up factories, just because they are greedy for something in the countryside. I’m afraid you won’t be willing to live in the countryside. What the boss did is inappropriate. Just apologize and everyone just nods..."

A few words of truth, let me brother. The hatred between them was instantly resolved.