How to face your predecessor after breaking up and how to treat your predecessor.

Every couple broke up for different reasons, and they handled it in different ways. Some people break up peacefully, and some people die of old age. Many people will feel embarrassed when they see their predecessors after breaking up.

How to face your predecessor after breaking up

First, you can break it if you can.

There was once a story that an old man bought a bottle of honey and put it in his car. He didn't expect the car to move, the honey bottle accidentally fell to the ground and broke, and the honey spilled all over the floor. As a result, the old man left without looking back Passers-by asked the old man curiously, your honey bottle is broken and you spilled honey. Why don't you care? The old man smiled and said, is it still useful for me to continue to struggle and regret for the broken bottle and the honey spilled all over the floor? Through the story, we can see that once something in life is lost, don't feel sorry for it, and you can't extricate yourself from it, because everything has become a fact and can't be changed, just like water under a bridge, in the emotional field. Once lovers break up, their feelings are doomed to be irreparable, so the best choice and practice is to make a clean break with the past. Even if you can't forget the past, forget your predecessor. Now that we know that fate is over, it is complete. Because the other person has nothing to do with you, and to a certain extent, there is not much difference and difference between passerby A and passerby B, it is time to forget it categorically. Don't let the past love, especially the previous love, affect each other's present or even future. The two should cut the gordian knot, divide them neatly, and don't delay each other. At this point, it is best not to contact the river. Everyone starts a new love life, just like painting. Don't cling to the discarded drawing paper that has been finished and thrown away, let the past pictures affect your new work. Instead, choose a clean, neat and brand-new drawing paper and start to re-create. Only in this way can you draw a beautiful picture that meets your wishes and makes you satisfied. The same is true of breaking up with your predecessor after breaking up.

Second, grasp the principle.

Although we advocate and advocate that lovers can break up with their predecessors, whether they are lovers or passers-by. Although this is simple and convenient, it is somewhat arbitrary and extreme, because there is no lack of this phenomenon in life, that is, men and women go their separate ways from acquaintance to love, until the back is inappropriate. After getting along and understanding before, we found that although they can't be lovers, they can be good friends, let alone lovers. At this time, if you can't make friends simply because of your previous emotional experience, it is not advisable to give up a friend for this reason. Even a little narrow-minded and "petty". Even as the saying goes, "business can't be righteous" doesn't make much sense, not to mention the fact that the two have been in love. What's wrong with making friends? However, there is a very real problem, that is, after becoming friends with the ex, it is difficult to grasp and master some standards and discretion when making friends because of emotional entanglements. First, it is easy to cause contact and contrast with the past. Things are different, which leads to a lot of embarrassment and embarrassment. In addition, it is easy to cause misunderstanding, especially after the incumbent. So when two people are together, we must grasp the principle and make the principle supreme. In the process of mutual communication, they should pay more attention to the discretion of words and deeds than ordinary friends, and control the scale and intimacy of communication, because it is friendship and love between men and women after all. In addition, you have had such a period, which makes you feel confused more easily. If you have an incumbent, it is easy for the other party to misunderstand, cause unnecessary pain and trouble, and even affect your feelings with the incumbent. Therefore, to be friends with your ex, you must seriously grasp the principles, don't say things you shouldn't say, don't do things you shouldn't do, and don't go to places and environments you shouldn't go to.

Third, don't struggle.

The so-called don't struggle, there are two aspects, one is not to "correct", the other is not to "struggle". In addition to being strangers and friends to their predecessors, there is also a situation where lovers know that they are completely inappropriate and impossible to be together after breaking up, but some people don't know what kind of psychology they are out of, and they are always reluctant to let go of their predecessors. Some of them, when they see or involve their predecessors, will be entangled in their hearts and have too many memories. Trapped in happiness, happiness, sadness, loss, regret, etc. With my ex, I worry and suffer, do something in vain and suffer unnecessary pain. Some people even "pester" their predecessors more or less when they break up. This is mostly for ulterior motives, and some are selfish. Either I can't get you, I won't make you feel better, I'll make trouble for you, in order to get back at each other. Some want to rely on the emotional foundation of the past and the feelings of the other party for themselves, hoping to keep the old feelings and break up. No incumbent can "ride a donkey to find a horse". With the incumbent, he can eat what is in the bowl, occupy what is in the pot, and even want to use his predecessor as a spare tire. This is not only immoral and shameful, but also harmful to his predecessor. At the same time, it is also disrespectful and harmful to the incumbent, and it is also a blasphemy against the current feelings. In the entanglement with the ex, all the people concerned are unhappy and uncomfortable.

How should I treat my predecessor?

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When you make a comparison, you will wonder why the present is not as good as the predecessor. These and those are not as good as their predecessors. After all, people are forgetful animals. When you recall selectively, you will only remember what you can recall. If we look at these on the bright side, it will be a great blow to the incumbents. He will think that you have not forgotten your predecessor, who is better than him. In this case, you will have a fierce argument with your current partner. Of course, maybe you won't openly compare your predecessor with your current one, but only secretly compare it with your friends in your heart. But doesn't it affect your relationship? Long-term psychological cues can change a person's decision. After such a long comparison, maybe one day you will really find that you have no feeling about your current position. And what is the result of love without feelings? It's just that the last two people broke up, or one of them noticed and proposed to break up.

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You remember the advantages and disadvantages of your predecessor so clearly, and you always remember it. How can I get out of my last relationship and devote myself to my present relationship? This is not only disappointing the other person's mind, but also may make you miss it constantly. So how should we treat our predecessors? In fact, after breaking up, we can remember the person who brought us many smiles and many sweet memories, but don't pull him out of the memories and into your current relationship. What's the point? The best way is to keep his image in your memory. You can sigh when you think of it, but you don't have to miss it. Because what you have to do is to cherish the present, not to be immersed in nostalgia for the past. Only by forgetting the past can we have new goals and new directions and keep moving forward. Moreover, we don't have to deliberately avoid our predecessors in front of the present. Why should we avoid it? Facing it frankly is the best proof that you let go of your predecessor. There is nothing to hide. When you meet your ex, say hello, say hello, introduce your current job, and finally show him a relieved smile. You can be lovers or friends, but don't be strangers. After understanding that we are not suitable, I also found my happiness. Because I have feelings for you, I hope you can be happy, too. If this is the attitude, the incumbent will not have too many ideas. Your generous attitude will undoubtedly make your present position full of confidence in this relationship. Isn't this the best solution? Treating your predecessor is actually facing a friend you once knew. I used to know each other, but now the relationship is not as good as before, but it is not awkward to meet. Just like trying on shoes. I tried it and found it didn't fit, so I went to find a pair of shoes that fit. I'll put them back on the shoe rack. You are excellent, beautiful and unique in style, but we are not suitable. I will find my true love and wish you happiness.

What would you do if you met your ex after breaking up?

When you meet your predecessor, you smile. It's okay. No big deal. Don't blame anyone for giving up. Admit that you loved your ex and have nostalgia after breaking up. But if you think about the reasons for breaking up, you may not miss it again. Live your life after breaking up. Don't hate each other because you loved them before. It's not necessary. Learn to relax. No matter what the reason for your separation is, since you were separated at that time, it is natural to understand. Maybe your ex will have a new life, so let's settle down and live our own lives without disturbing each other's lives. We used to love each other very much, but they have already broken up and their predecessors have started a new life, so bless each other silently. However, it is also possible to meet again at a certain intersection or somewhere. Say hello to each other when you see it. Being able to say hello indifferently shows that we have put the past behind us. I think what will cause sadness is meeting my ex in the places we played together, restaurants, cafes and supermarkets, so that I can't help but remember the bits and pieces together in my mind, maybe I feel particularly painful in an instant, and then say hello to each other. Say hello, actually it's goodbye. Goodbye, once love and myself. If your predecessor did something wrong to you, we are two tracks that we never want to hand over. In short, I hope we are both well. If you have done something wrong to the other person, please tell the other person with a sincere heart, because you have been hurt once. Don't add salt to the wound. You can open your heart and tell him that you are sorry for what you did, but true love is over. My predecessor was neither a tiger nor a hot potato.

Four realms after breaking up

The first floor: life and death.

It's good to be in love, but once you break up, it won't make you feel better. It is understandable to be sweet when you are in love, and you can't wait to die when you are separated. After all, everyone has a different opinion. There are many examples of people who are bored in love and become enemies when they break up. After their separation, they fought fiercely for their best interests. Without making people feel sad from the heart, it is obvious how much love they once had, and such a thing can't escape these. Moreover, after breaking up, he didn't let his predecessor feel better and began to tear his predecessor. I wish the whole world knew how miserable his predecessor was. However, no matter how good it is for you to tear up your ex, it won't make you feel better. In the end, both of you will get hurt. This is the lowest level after breaking up and the most annoying. And this situation may bring these annoyances to the next relationship, which is not good.

Second floor: I won't tear you and I won't forgive you.

I think Adi is the couple who impressed us the most in celebrity breakups. The two have been insisting, but the man has no intention of getting married and has been dragging the woman. Although they were very polite in Weibo, the woman's circle of friends also sent words to express her disgust. Think about it, too. Who won't have any thoughts about breaking up? After all these years together, it's just that you loved the sea, and it's ridiculous to think about it yourself. In fact, to be honest, whatever your predecessor did was your choice. Nobody forced you. Now destroy him. Isn't that to say that there is something wrong with your eyes? Isn't that more embarrassing? Breaking up can only say that you two are still inappropriate, not that you must distinguish who is responsible. For the love that has passed, the best way is not to talk, let it pass slowly, and leave some beauty for yourself and others.

Third floor: Let's get together and leave.

Peaceful separation is the highest realm. Two people should be grateful for the road they have traveled together and the company before. They live their own lives, and they are even. Entangled, vilified, disturbed and resented, you can live a relaxed life alone, which is the best behavior for your predecessor. Goodbye to this point, smile and nod when you meet and you can leave. This is the best. Otherwise, the embarrassment of meeting in the future will be hard to accept.

The fourth layer: pay silently.

After separation, they are like friends. They can really bless each other when they find happiness again, be grateful when they walk together, and protect him silently behind their backs. Love is something that people can't say for sure. There is no way to know, only step by step to live up to what you have done. I believe that everyone doesn't want to break up or tear others apart, so be the right person and love will come. Anyway, I wish you can find the right one, and they will go on together and have a wonderful life.