"You are 40 years old, you really can't get married anymore" and "You would rather die alone than settle for nothing", what do you think?

Tu Lei said: The greatest sorrow of a woman is that she wastes her youth when she is young, but is defeated by reality when she is old. There are two reasons why a person waits for more than 40 years not to get married. One reason is that he doesn't want to get married in this life and just wants to live alone. Another way is to wait for the person who has lived in his heart for a long time, expecting him to appear, and never give in if he doesn't appear.

For Fang Shuang, her mother's last words before her death are something she will never forget in her life. Her mother took her hand and said to her: "You are 40 years old, and then you can't get married. Mom can't see you. I can't get married and have children, but I hope you really don't want to be alone in this life. Please."

It’s not that Fang Shuang has never been in love, nor has he ever thought about getting married. But over the years, she has never met the most suitable person. She's been waiting for the right person to come along.

She once thought that the man she was looking for was a man who didn’t drink or smoke, wasn’t motivated, didn’t make money, and didn’t love her. At the beginning of the relationship, the boyfriend, who also has these qualities. But as the two got along, she gradually discovered that they often quarreled, and sometimes they could quarrel for three days just because of one sentence.

At that time, she was thinking why she was still unhappy even though she knew everything about her met her requirements. When they broke up, she suddenly realized that there was no limit to finding a boyfriend. Her initial request was just her initial fantasy of becoming the most manly man. What she wants is a man who understands her.

Later she met a man who understood her very well, but new problems arose. The two had been dating for two years, and when it came time to talk about marriage, the other person's parents did not agree. They didn't like Fang Shuang, who came from the countryside, had an average job and was too old. Her boyfriend understands her, but she cannot beat her parents to death. Her boyfriend can only abandon her and choose to listen to her parents.

After falling in love twice, Fang Shuang reflected on himself. The man she had been waiting for didn't show up. If she wasn't in her life, she wanted to stay single. If you are not the most suitable person, you will not be happy if you force yourself to get married.

Actually, I appreciate the idea of ??having a nice room. She could compete with her boyfriend's parents from the perspective of her second boyfriend. Love can conquer all. She had no doubts. She doesn't like that she is from the countryside. She can buy a house based on her own ability and become a city person; if she doesn't like her job, she can study hard, improve herself, and get a higher salary; abandon her age. In fact, she often cannot see her actual age from her appearance. , she also firmly believes that this is just the rejection of the other party's parents.

But she is unwilling to force, unwilling to force others, and even less willing to force herself. If you come unwillingly, you will never be happy.

I totally agree that the room is cool. I have met many girls who sacrificed their original life goals in order to have a better future with the person they love, and changed themselves in order to meet the requirements of the man and his family. The final result, even if it is fused, has a high chance of returning to its original form, because many times, the first impression is deeply ingrained and cannot be erased by your efforts.

Of course, even if most people change themselves, they cannot get what they want and have no bright future. Because in this world, the reward is not hard work. Sometimes it depends on luck and other factors.

Instead of giving everything in vain, it is better to let yourself be independent, beautiful and enjoy yourself. You can't get your final long-term happiness by relying on the feelings you will get.

What I despise the most is those people who originally thought they would never give up in this life, but then regretted it on the road, and finally gave up because of loneliness or unwillingness to watch themselves grow old, or because of the urging of their family members. I lost my original idea and decided to make do with it for the rest of my life.

The consequence of doing so can only be to achieve the wrong love or marriage relationship. Because what you will get is not the one that is really suitable for you.

An inappropriate man will waste a woman’s time, turn the woman into a resentful woman in life, complain to God about why her emotional journey is so bumpy, complain about why the world is so unfair, and finally Entering marriage, facing emotional conflicts and breakdowns.

The wrong person will make a woman’s life very difficult. Because it is inappropriate, I don’t know how to make people who don’t understand you understand the difficulties in your life or work, how to make people who don’t understand you think from your perspective, and give you the strongest support when you are weak.

Inappropriate people will make a woman mean, and with the birth of a new life, she will become a yellow-faced woman. A happy woman can remain young forever in spirit, while an unhappy woman can only fade away in body and soul day by day.

If a woman can spend 40 years waiting for a truly worthy man, I think it is worth it. If you can't wait your whole life, it's a pity, at least you tried hard. But if you give up halfway, reluctantly accept a marriage that you are not satisfied with, and marry someone you do not love deeply, then the first 40 years of waiting will lose all meaning.

Our life is not only about love, but also about marriage. These are just important and not-so-important experiences in life. If so, congratulations on feeling the beauty of a certain part of the world. No, this is not regret or regret.

In today's society, both men and women can live a good life relying on their own economic independence and spiritual prosperity.

Although Wang Haoer has many suitors, she is still unmarried, but she still has a place in the film industry; Louis Koo has never heard of marriage, but his works and character have always been talked about; as Fei Yuqing, an "evergreen tree" in the music scene, is still unmarried 60 years later, but his singing has not slowed down and has penetrated the memories of generations.

Marriage is no longer a necessity in today’s life, but the prerequisite is that you need to think clearly about the consequences and impact of not getting married. If you have no plans not to get married in this life, you need to learn to be with the right person. No two people are meant for each other. The so-called happy marriage means that we have been together for a long time and have been in business for a long time.

But no matter what, when you find that this relationship or marriage is really not suitable for you, don’t give in, and don’t underestimate the one-way street. As long as you follow this path, single people can live happily.

May all women, and of course all men, seize happiness when love comes. I hope that when you feel unhappy, you can understand, "I would rather be proud of being single than humble." ".