"I am just your ex-wife and have no obligation to live with you as husband and wife." How did the ex-husband answer?

Love is magnificent because of persistence, and marriage is long-lasting because of companionship. It's just that in the world of many adults, the deeper the understanding of love, the easier it is to become desolate inside. The more thoroughly you look at marriage, the more confused you feel about the future.

Because there are always some unsatisfactory moments in relationships, and there are always some sad accidents in marriage. After all, many people have selfish motives, and many accidents cannot be predicted in advance.

At the beginning of love, everyone's mood is similar. When they first fall in love, they just want to show their best self and they only want to be together forever. However, when it comes to marriage, some couples unknowingly find that their relationship has faded and they no longer have the original passion.

For many married families, it is not terrible if the relationship between husband and wife fades away. As long as there is persistence and companionship, they can still grow old together. I am afraid that someone in the marriage will have selfish motives, find another relationship outside the marriage, and forget their own responsibilities.

Many people's divorces appear to be due to emotional discord, but in fact they have experienced a period of unspeakable pain.

I will tell you about a woman’s marriage experience, which came from a message from a reader. Her experience is emotional, angry, and dramatic.

1. In order to get divorced, men resort to retreat to advance

Linlin is a 43-year-old woman who has been divorced for more than 2 years. She and her ex-husband Leile never left home.

The reason for the divorce was that Leilei had a second mistress outside. He fell in love with a divorced woman and did not want to live with Linlin. That woman kept forcing Leile to divorce, and Leile also wanted to live together.

Leilei slowly tested Linlin by making insinuations. He mentioned divorce to Linlin several times. Linlin thought he was joking and deliberately testing herself. Anyway, she acted and sat upright, so she didn't take it to heart.

Linlin didn’t know that Leilei had a woman outside, and she couldn’t believe that he had been deliberately planning to kick her out as soon as possible. Leilei laughs and laughs all day long, appearing harmless to humans and animals, but in fact he has changed his mind a long time ago.

In the heart of a changed man, the world in front of him is cold and cruel. The so-called relationship between husband and wife is like a joke. For Leilei, the 19-year marriage has long been boring, and Linlin is not one ten thousandth as gentle as that woman.

In order to get a smooth divorce, Leile thought of a way. One day he told Linlin: Buy another house. The location is very good and it will be developed in the future. Don’t tell others.

Under Leilei’s exaggerated description, Linlin believed it and agreed to buy the property. But they immediately encountered difficulties. They already had 2 apartments and 1 shop under their name. If you buy a house again, the down payment ratio will be high, and there will be no interest discount.

Leilei was very "distressed". During those days, he often sighed and beat his chest at home.

Leilei told Linlin: I still love you too much, otherwise I would fake divorce from you. But if you don't remarry me in the future, then I will suffer a big loss. If I don't buy it, I'm afraid I'll lose my wife and lose my troops.

Linlin was very touched that her husband cared about her so much. She took the initiative to propose a divorce. I will not leave you. I will remarry you when I buy a house.

Leilei disagreed and refused to leave regardless of anything. He kept asking Linlin if she had second thoughts and pretended to be worried. He made Linlin swear again and again to prove that Linlin meant what she said and would remarry on time.

Leilei gradually gained Linlin's trust by using the method of "taking retreat to advance". Poor Linlin is too innocent and she is still being teased even though she is in her 40s. You can't call her stupid, because she never thought that Leile would be willing to leave her.

2. The greatest sorrow of marriage is being ripped off by the person you love the most

Before the divorce, in order to pretend to be a little more presentable, Leilei paid a deposit of 10,000 yuan for a house in Linlin’s name. He told Linlin that if the new house is written in your name, it will also be your pre-marital property if you remarry in the future.

But after the divorce, Leilei didn’t buy it. He kept putting it off, saying that he couldn’t make money. Because the deposit was small, it expired in 3 weeks, and I couldn’t buy it even if I wanted to.

Linlin was very angry because 10,000 yuan was wasted. She asked to remarry, but Leilei said that she had lost 10,000 yuan and was under too much pressure, so she should live like this for now.

Linlin is also a person with a temper. She got angry on the spot. If she doesn't remarry, she won't remarry. Who will ask you? It's all your fault for losing that 10,000 yuan. You dare to pay the deposit without asking for payment! One day you will ask me to remarry, let me see how long you last.

When Linlin thought about it, since they were still living together, it really didn't matter whether they remarried or not. Leilei is a very good person, maybe he is still regretting it. Although 10,000 yuan is nothing, it still makes people feel a little distressed.

As for the remarriage, Linlin didn't care at all and continued to go to and from get off work. It wasn't until a week later that she discovered Leilei's secret and saw his car parked in front of a large supermarket.

Linlin was very surprised. She saw Leilei at the door. He was talking to a woman selling jewelry. The woman even touched Leilei's hand and looked at his cell phone, as if she had known her for a long time.

Linlin had a bad feeling in her heart, and she watched from a distance. She intuitively felt that her husband had second thoughts. She was very sad, but she did not dare to go in and disturb him. If he really guesses correctly, he will not have an advantage and will really be kicked out.

Linlin originally planned to endure it first, test whether he had really changed his mind, slowly get her own interests back, then have a good fight with him and teach him a lesson. But she couldn't hold back the sadness and anger in her heart and had a quarrel in advance.

Linlin said: I asked him who the woman was, and he said she was a friend. I asked him if he had slept, and he said he had slept a few times. I asked him why he did this to me, and he said that divorced people have the freedom to fall in love.

The sadness in Linlin's heart that day was as dark as the sky and the earth, and she felt like she was being drained from the bottom of the cauldron. She is not afraid even if she leaves the house, but she just cannot accept her husband's emotional betrayal.

3. It is difficult to live without leaving home after divorce

Now that the couple has spoken out, Leilei no longer hides it. He asked Linlin to move out and wanted to bring the woman in. Linlin just disagreed and never left.

Leilei burst into tears and told Linlin: You should move out, we will give you another house. I'm sorry for you, I can only repay you in the next life. If I hadn't fallen in love with her, I wouldn't want to do this. Her ex-husband was not good to her, and I was her savior. I really couldn't let her go, so I used some tricks to trick you into getting a divorce. Please believe that this is a last resort, let us help you. I hope you can find a good man and be happy soon.

Linlin also cried very sadly. She hated Leilei and even more hated the scheming woman. In order to save her marriage, Linlin never moved out. But within a few days, the woman followed Leilei to the house, apparently wanting to stay here.

The more Linlin thought about it, the angrier she became. She threw her suitcase downstairs and beat her so hard that a lot of her hair was pulled off.

The woman left in tears and never came again, and Leilei also completely changed his attitude towards Linlin. He would drive Linlin away every day, wanting to free up his home for that woman to live in.

Although Linlin wanted to leave at that time, she was not convinced and did not want to give up her home to others. Those days were very aggrieved for Linlin. Leilei threw Linlin's things into the corridor several times. Linlin also sat in the corridor crying after getting off work several times, unable to enter the house.

Because the quarrel was so serious, friends of both parties only found out that they were divorced. Someone advised Leile, you are over 40 years old, how come you are still acting like a child? I've seen that woman selling necklaces. She's not a good person. Please wake up.

Leilei didn’t believe it and said that she was a good woman and must drive Linlin away. Later, Linlin's brother came and beat Leilei, and then Leilei calmed down.

Linlin once said: He is a weak man, so I always trust him. He has a good heart, but is a bit stupid. The fake divorce was the woman's idea. I am willing to forgive him, but he still won't remarry me. He cried and begged me all day, saying that he no longer loved me and only loved that woman.

Since then, Linlin and Leilei have become divorced and never left home. Leilei occasionally went to see that woman and was unwilling to touch Linlin. Those days were very difficult for Linlin.

4. A topsy-turvy person has no dignity

Many times Linlin wanted to give up, and sometimes she just thought about leaving. But think about it again, even if you leave, you have to break them up first, and you can't make it easier for the woman who ruined your marriage.

In Linlin’s account, Leilei sometimes cried when she got home and threw plates and bowls. He even knelt down to Linlin and begged her to go out and find a partner instead of staying at home. Leilei acted like crazy and often slapped himself in the face.

It wasn’t until half a year later that Leilei finally couldn’t bear it anymore and took action against Linlin. That was the first time he had touched Linlin since getting married, breaking Linlin's mouth.

As expected, Linlin’s brother came again, breaking Leilei’s nose and swollen her face.

Leilei stayed quiet for a while, but he couldn't remember the lesson and started to attack Linlin again. Linlin's brother came again. It went back and forth several times, and more than half a year passed. If Linlin hadn't persisted, she would have left long ago.

One year after the divorce, Linlin didn’t know how she survived. She slowly wavered in her persistence. Maybe this man was really not worth waiting for, and it was time to consider her future. Linlin gradually became familiar with a divorced classmate, and she knew that classmate wanted to pursue her.

Linlin figured it out and decided to stick with it for a few more months. If Leilei was still like this, she would give up on him and start a new relationship with her classmates. After all, a widowed marriage was too difficult.

But one day, Leilei knelt down when he returned home. He apologized to Linlin, saying that he was confused. Linlin was very moved, but also angry in her heart.

Linlin said: Seeing that he is very sincere, I forgive him. He said the woman dumped him and found a new boyfriend. I felt like he was a fool, but I was very happy that I finally got over it. That day I felt a bit disappointed and resumed our married life with him. After more than a year of anticipation, I felt very sad and couldn't stop the tears from flowing down.

That day Linlin proposed remarriage, but Leilei was still entangled, saying that if she waited, she still couldn't forget that woman.

Leilei was normal for about 3 months, but then he changed his attitude and wanted to drive Linlin away again. He also put down harsh words, even if you don't leave, I will register with her. You are not qualified to live here, don't force me.

Linlin finally understood that such a topsy-turvy man had no dignity. And he seemed to have no dignity.

5. The regret of emotional betrayal always seems redundant

Linlin slowly gave up and met her classmates. That time we lived at a classmate's house for more than a month, just like a couple.

Linlin said: I think it’s worth it even if a woman is a little silly to keep the house, and it’s worth the hardship. After all, Leilei is my first love. But when I was with my classmates, I realized that my more than 40 years of life had been in vain because I had married the wrong person from the beginning! Why didn't I figure it out sooner? Just leave, who is afraid of whom?

Linlin was happy during that time, but what she didn't expect was that Leilei panicked and looked for her everywhere.

After Linlin returned home, Leile knelt down again and begged Linlin for forgiveness. It turned out that he was lovelorn again, and that woman was just playing tricks on him.

Linlin refused to forgive on the spot and had already contacted a car to help her pull her things. She told Leilei that we were divorced. From now on, you will look for your happiness and I will look for my life.

Leilei is unwilling to let go, and even said that we should remarry. It has been 2 years, and I have wronged you and made enough trouble.

As if she had heard a big joke, Linlin rejected him again, it was too late.

Linlin said: I really can’t imagine how a man can be so disrespectful. He actually asked for a married life and said he would only accompany me in the future. I told him, we have been divorced for 2 years, what qualifications do you have to live as a couple? I am just your ex-wife, we are no longer husband and wife!

Leilei cried a lot that day. He told Linlin: I gave you a married life because I was afraid that you would go out on dates by yourself. Please forgive me, I have changed. We are still husband and wife, and we will remarry in a few days.

Linlin answered him: In just a few days, I have already dated. By the way, I also have the freedom to fall in love. I want to get married, so you should quickly find a good woman to get married.

Finally, Linlin said: Thinking about those two years, it was not only ridiculous, but also seemed like a joke. Sure enough, the kind of person you marry will determine the kind of personality you have. He is such a fool and he makes me stupid too. When I am with my classmates, I realize how wonderful life is. My classmates and I will take wedding photos in a few days, we are getting married soon.

6. In a dramatic life, there are always tragic people

To be honest, Linlin’s experience is indeed absurd, just like a drama. Men have no dignity, their hearts are as high as the sky, and their lives are as thin as paper. Women have no courage, they just want to compromise and are eventually forced to a dead end. Both of them have low IQ and even lower emotional intelligence.

There is always a tragedy, big or small, behind the dramatic life. Fortunately, Linlin figured it out in the end. It turned out that she had married the wrong person.