My boyfriend decided to come to my house and plug the door backwards. My family wants a bride price of 65438+ 10,000. Is it reasonable?

Reasonable, but only if you give the man a bride price of 6.5438+0 million first. My cousin is a son-in-law. How about being a door-to-door son-in-law? He answered me like this.

First, the on-site son-in-law has no right to speak. On New Year's Eve, it was originally agreed that the family would go back to the man's house to have a reunion dinner (note: the woman's house visited her second daughter from New Year's Eve to the third day, so the man's house waited until the third day. )。 On the afternoon of the third day, the woman's family did not come back. Cousin asked carefully, parents have been waiting for everyone for a long time, let's go to dinner now! But the woman's family is in no hurry until everything is ready. However, my uncles and aunts are all over 60 years old. Why are they preparing this year's meal? They waited until three o'clock in the afternoon from the morning of the third day! Cousin was anxious and lost his temper on the spot! Unfortunately, what was waiting for him was the collective siege of the woman's family, and everyone said that he would not send it. Does he understand or not?

Second, a door-to-door son-in-law who has no ability to make money lives worse than a dog. In the woman's family, if the wife really loves you, whether you earn money or not, your position will not be too bad. At least when the woman scolds you at home, the wife can stand on your side to protect you. But if your wife doesn't like you very much, I'm sorry, you'll be dead, and you don't even have the right to be a dog. When her family says you are not good, she will stand by her parents and help them criticize your "top ten sins". If you can't make money, you are not only waiting for scolding and abuse, but also washing dishes, cooking, washing clothes, mopping the floor, chopping wood and washing toilets. Maybe you didn't even hold a firewood when you were at your parents' house, but when you go to her house, you have to carry a few meters long tree with a thick bowl, and you have to turn over hundreds of pounds of big stones!

So, you can't be a door-to-door son-in-law, otherwise, you might as well die.

No one gives you accurate advice. My brother is a door-to-door son-in-law, and my sister-in-law's only daughter didn't ask for a penny. So the father had to buy a house for his brother with a mortgage. The house is in the county town, the city where my sister-in-law is located. In the second year after marriage, her sister-in-law and her younger brother discussed borrowing more than 90,000 yuan from her father. My brother agreed and said that there is no need to wait and see now. My sister-in-law texted my dad to explain the matter, so I went there and agreed that my dad and I would not pay the interest until three months later. As a result, the couple quarreled later because of this matter. They didn't pay back the money. I've had it for more than two months, and it's all gone. My brother guessed that my sister-in-law was paying back a credit card or something and slapped my sister-in-law in front of his mother-in-law. When his mother-in-law and my sister-in-law were at work, I didn't believe what XXXX said at first. My sister-in-law graduated from two schools anyway, and my sister-in-law called at night. Although swearing is wrong, as a sister-in-law, you can say that I am my father. You can't say they still swear. The second call was to my father. My dad hangs up when he gets angry. My dad didn't want them to pay back more than 90 thousand in the first place It's really rude to accept it. At this point, when I meet my sister-in-law, I either don't talk. If I swear, I will be my brother's face.

My brother approved. In the first year, his family bought my brother a 0 down payment Volkswagen, and my brother paid back the car loan, but my brother was honest. I told my girlfriend and my cousins about him, and this year I told the woman's family that I had to change cars. Your family promised before marriage, including my mother, that they could lend me 200 thousand (mainly because my mother couldn't get past the last sister-in-law swearing incident) Sister-in-law knows to speak ill of my mother behind her back. ) Now my brother is working for my father-in-law, and now he is just a little apprentice. What can I say? Don't push people too hard. Last time I got divorced, my sister-in-law took care of the children and wouldn't let my brother take them away. My mother knows that she dragged me to the woman's house and took me away by force, and I am ready for you to go to court. I said I had to call my dad and have someone call my brother. Although my brother beat his sister-in-law, he was scolded by my relatives at home for asking him to apologize. That's what my dad said.

Anyway, whether it is a door-to-door son-in-law or a bride price, it depends on the feelings of the family and two people. As for the treatment of this "door-to-door son-in-law" after marriage, it depends on how his wife is.

Unreasonable.

First of all, what do you mean by knocking down the door? Refers to the man settled in the woman's house and the man was adopted by his wife in the form of marriage. Generally, it means that the woman's family has no children and lacks labor, but the husband is supporting the elderly, or the man's family is too poor to get married and live in the woman's family.

In the old society, if the door was inserted backwards, even the family name should be changed to the woman's family name, and the woman's family name should be given after giving birth. Later, it was rated as a bad habit. Men are no longer required to go to a woman's house.

In our hometown, the wedding scene is usually when the man knocks on the door of the woman's house, which is not as grand as the normal meeting between the man and the woman. The man's family thinks it is disgraceful and his status is "lowered", while the woman's family has no children and is unwilling to exaggerate the fact that she has no son.

If your boyfriend voluntarily settled in your home, if you don't have any brothers or sisters, he will also come to your home as a responsibility to support the family, increase the labor force at home, support his parents, and bring family happiness to the elderly in the future. Naturally, he has settled in your home, so why insist on the bride price of 10W? Marriage requires a bride price, but 10W depends on your boyfriend's ability, and you can't hurt someone who loves you just to follow the fashion.

If your boyfriend hangs around your house, you should pay attention to this person's character. If he just wants to have fun, but doesn't want to be self-reliant and enjoy luxury, and he can't make money for your happy life when he comes to your house to live and eat today, then when you ask him for 10W, he will directly refuse you.

This is a very good question.

First of all, from the man's point of view, let me analyze it with you. Plug in the door and call it a son-in-law. But when you become a son-in-law, you are married to your family. At that time, everything depended on this man and everything in the family depended on him. Your parents are sick or something, and he takes care of them. To put it bluntly, he just went to your house all his life to be a cow and a horse.

Second, from your wife's point of view, if you get married and don't give you a bride price, will you give you a bride price of100000? If you were married in the past, you would just be husband and wife and do housework, although it would be very tiring. But it is not easy for a man to make money outside, and he has already come to work as a son-in-law. If only he didn't ask you to give his parents 100 thousand yuan.

Just don't ask your boyfriend for it. I think I'd better forget it.

Reasonable!

I chased my wife. She graduated from college and worked in a university. Her parents are both cadres, and the only requirement for me is to insert the door backwards. My parents came from the countryside at first, and they didn't agree. I analyzed it for them, and finally they agreed.

This is my analysis.

First, your future daughter-in-law culture has a bright future. Secondly, there is no pressure for me to have a secure life after her parents retire. There is still good care after having children. Under their influence, I have a bright future. I will be able to take care of you when you are old.

Later, my parents gave their full support, and my family gave more than my wife, and all the money was given to my wife. In order to prevent accidents, my name was not on the property certificate. There is no position at home, and I get paid every month. My wife's car is second-hand. But I can stand it. I'll do whatever she says. I know. Overruled. With the improvement of my income status, the departure of my husband and mother-in-law, the gradual loss of my wife's appearance, and the weakening of my wife's strong position, a room has been unable to trap me. But I don't want to resist, but I love it more. We are always away from each other because of work. Every time we are together, I always feel that I have a crush on her as a Tang priest. I can't bear to let a man who is about to run for five still work hard in my house. She always teases me about whether I'm having an affair and woos me. I have a simple and honest smile. Who likes me except you? At this time, she suddenly became arrogant and twisted my ear and said you didn't dare. I responded with a bad smile. It's just that I really don't like you as a leprechaun in my life. She is always happy. When she retires, we will go to live in your hometown. I want to marry you! Hearing this, I am as excited as a child who has never eaten an apple. Then you can give me another son with my surname. She gently squeezed my face and said warmly that she was ashamed!

How time flies! People who love each other should have no spiritual barriers. Your wholehearted love must be rewarded. Patience is the best way when things go wrong. Maybe people are different, but I'm glad I met a good man and the love of my life.

People in society don't fight, but people who are beaten down. I want to be a sweet, loving and happy couple. Now that people have surrendered, they have decided to be your son-in-law. At this time, it is unreasonable for you to continue to ask for the bride price. 65,438+10,000 yuan is not a small sum, and it will be difficult for ordinary families in rural areas to pay it out. Moreover, I would rather not marry my wife at home, but marry my son-in-law, which is also a concession of love, so you can accept this son-in-law calmly and don't want any more bride price. If you want a bride price of 654.38+ 10,000 yuan, will the boy's parents regret it, because people think that sending their son to your home is already a loss and a waste of money? Do you think their family will agree? So I said, don't be stubborn and ask for a bride price. The sooner the better. You have your own son at home, and you have a strong future life. Are you still afraid of the future wallet?

In the early 1990s, my uncle had only three children. A young man with a clear-cut flag, so my uncle treats the children's marriage. I was really worried about getting angry, but my neighbors took a fancy to my uncle's good tradition and good tutor. I told my uncle that I wanted my second brother to be my son-in-law. Hearing this, my uncle felt that all the neighbors knew. Besides, it is also a pleasure for my son to go. He saved a lot of money for his wedding and readily agreed. By the time my second brother got married, my grandfather still gave his second son 654.38+0 million. My uncle said that although he is a son-in-law, as a man, he can't spend a penny, so he still does a good job. Up to now, the second brother has always been very filial to his parents-in-law, and his uncle rarely lets him participate in things at home. Therefore, the door-to-door son-in-law is also a kind of mutual understanding, and there will be a good life.

As a woman, recruiting a husband to be a son-in-law has already shown the strength of a woman. Therefore, there should be no other high requirements for a good marriage of true love, which will not affect the harmony between husband and wife. So I said I wanted a bride price of 6.5438 million, so I simply didn't mention it.

We all know the fact that only when the man's family economic conditions are really bad and there are too many brothers in the man's family, it is particularly difficult to marry a daughter-in-law, so we have to think of being a door-to-door son-in-law, otherwise no one wants to do this, right? Because in the traditional concept of ordinary people in China, there is always only the truth of marrying a daughter-in-law and not "marrying" a son. Otherwise, I feel very unfilial and even feel sorry for my ancestors. This is a more popular idea. Therefore, to a large extent, men will not easily decide to go to the woman's house to be a door-to-door son-in-law. There are even quite a few men who would rather be single for life than leave their parents to be the door-to-door son-in-law of the woman's family.

As I said before, most of them become door-to-door sons-in-law because their families are too poor to support their daughters-in-law. Then why can he take out 654.38+ 10,000 yuan to go to your house as a door-to-door son-in-law? Has your family thought about this problem? Although the bride price is generally high, it is not so high in some areas. Maybe you can find a wife somewhere else. Although the man needs to go through a procedure when he comes to your house. But knowing that he is in financial difficulties, I advise your family not to think too much. Otherwise, I'm afraid the cooked duck will fly. I suggest you think about it.

My husband is a door-to-door son-in-law Tell me about me. Because my husband loves me, he abandoned his parents' upbringing, childhood friends and neighbors. He came to my home to be filial to my parents, but also to endure grievances in my home and get to know friends again. But some people don't understand my husband and think this is a soft meal. Why did your husband come to my house? Do you want to love him more? Have you made any preparations for your husband to practice a suit of armor? Do you want a dowry? Did your parents ask for it, or were you greedy? If I am right, please have mercy and let go. Don't hurt others.

I mainly answer questions about the workplace. I didn't want to answer them at first, but I couldn't. I can't contain my anger.

It's like driving your own tractor to help others plow the land, and then others ask me for money.

So I thought of a sentence: people also need money. I am a robber. Who am I afraid of?

Therefore, personally, it is only 654.38+10,000 yuan, which is quite reasonable if the following points can be achieved.

Discuss with parents, have a baby, and take the man's surname.

Since your family wants a bride price, that's no problem. According to the 5000-year-old tradition in China, the man can give. Who wants to see your land? But if the man gives a bride price, it means that the man married you. Then if you have a child, you should take the man's surname, not yours. You should make it clear to your parents, that is, in a hundred years, your family will be passed down to your generation.

When your sister got married, your family also gave a bride price of 65438+ 10,000 yuan.

It doesn't matter if your parents don't agree to the above one for the sake of carrying on the family line, then when your sister gets married, let your parents also pay a bride price of 6.5438 million. If they get married, they will make up 654.38+ ten thousand. If your parents are willing, it is not too much for your family to ask for 654.38+ 10,000 bride price.

After asking for 65438+ ten thousand bride price, your family may become a joke of the whole village, even the whole town and county, as long as you can hold back.

As we all know, inserting the door backwards means the adoption of the man. According to the custom in most places, a child is born with the woman's surname. In this case, the woman should give the man a bride price, that is, don't give him any bride price money. If the man still has money for the bride price, why did you marry you? It is because the man's family is poor that others will be willing to accept the bride price.

Your appearance, are you really beautiful?

If you look amazing, like a heartthrob, there will be a large number of people who will fall for you if you stop there. You can beat and scold and enjoy it, then the man will not pay a bride price of 6.5438 million yuan, just like Shang Zhouwang was infatuated with Su Daji. It was a stupid decision made in a crazy situation, but when that man develops you all and calms down, you will not have a good life after all.

To sum up, since you want to be the laughing stock of others, the man is a son-in-law and the woman wants a bride price, you can let it go, not 65,438+10,000, a little more. This kind of marriage is estimated to wait until the man's economic conditions are good, and when it comes to changing partners, because there is no room for nostalgia and affection, it has been torn to pieces by bride price and injury.