Parent communication skills

Q1: What should I do if my child doesn’t concentrate on homework, always multitasking, writes homework slowly, and answers exam questions slowly?

A1: Hello parents, this problem is relatively common for children. I would like to know with you what it is like for your children to do homework at home.

Or you may listen to what kind of thing it is. One is that the child likes to move around or makes frequent small movements every time when doing homework; the second is that the child will sit there all the time, maybe reading it after an hour, The book is still on the same page and there is no progress. The third is procrastination. There is no time limit. I feel that I just need to finish it before going to bed. I would even rather get up in the morning and catch up. Which type do you think your child belongs to?

The first type: This is the XX mother/father. Children are not as strong in self-control as us adults. When we adults encounter problems that we are not familiar with, we will push and push them. Not to mention children. So when he encounters a problem, his first reaction is to escape. He will choose to do some things that do not require a lot of thinking, such as eating something, changing pen refills, going to the toilet, etc. Problems that require a lot of brain use will be put aside first. . In addition, children are more lively and active. After class, I will pay special attention to the cultivation of children's concentration. This is also an advantage of our one-on-one class compared to school classes. I can grab his attention at any time and guide him to learn.

The second type: Well, the father/mother of the child, this situation is also relatively common. For example, if a big question is divided into one, two or three small questions, then our child may be able to answer the question for the second time. By the time he asked the first, second, and third questions, he didn't know how to do it anymore, so he was stuck there and couldn't continue.

The third type: the child procrastinates because he has no concept of time, or if he cannot finish his homework, it will not have a particularly big impact, so he will not be punished or worry too much. Therefore, children must have certain time limits when doing homework, and provide rewards and punishments. For example, if it is too late to write, no one will stay with him until midnight, and both parents have to go to bed; If he is slow and sleeps late, he will not be asked to get up the next day, but will get up by himself. He will be late at his own risk; or if he can complete it within the specified time, he can be rewarded with playing games for a while, etc. Then if he takes my class in the future, he will also have time-limited training in class. Of course, this requirement may be higher than the time requirement of the exam, so as to cultivate his sense of tight time.

No matter what the situation is, the slow answer is ultimately due to incompetence or weak knowledge points. Therefore, in the early stage, we must thoroughly understand all the basic knowledge and examine his knowledge points through various summarized methods. Whether he can understand it, after he understands it, then do exercises to consolidate, and tell him how to use these knowledge points in various types of questions. When doing questions, the child may know that this knowledge point is tested but does not know what the idea is, so I would like him to do several types of questions and then conduct training based on different types of questions. Through such a The series of processes will strengthen his mastery of knowledge, which will naturally improve the problem of slow problem solving.

Q2: Is there any way to improve children's carelessness?

A2: xx Dad/Mom, I understand your feelings. Did your child have this situation during recent exams or recent studies? Or has this always been the case?

The first type: If this situation occurs recently, it is temporary. It may be that the child did not pay attention to the key words or information when doing the questions, or the child did not read the questions carefully and did not read the questions well. way of thinking. In response to this situation, in my class, I will focus on cultivating children's habit of circling key words in reading questions, leading them to slowly analyze the test points, and cultivate their ability to self-examine. Later, formal classes will also make it mandatory to complete the exercises. Leave a minute to check carefully. If it is a general carelessness problem, it can basically be discovered through self-examination. In addition, I can also help children analyze important knowledge points that are easy to forget and make mistakes, strengthen and consolidate review, and conduct occasional spot checks and repeated practice of wrong questions to avoid forgetfulness.

The second type: the child’s father/mother, regarding the disordered copying and illegible handwriting, it may be because the learning attitude is not correct and they want to cope with the problem and quickly complete the task at hand so that they can do other things they want to do. things to do. In response to this situation, I will help the child to clarify the purpose or goal of learning. Maybe the child does not have a deep understanding of learning. At the same time, the parents will also cooperate and communicate to understand what the child wants to do and finish the homework in a hurry. If you are playing games, you can clearly define the duration of playing every day, what must be done before playing, and establish rules; you can also temporarily confiscate tempting things around you, etc. In addition, in my class, I will also use various teaching methods to make children interested in the subject and build a small sense of accomplishment, so that they will gradually take it seriously.

The third type: Through my contact with so many students, I think there are relatively few truly careless children. Just like how many 1 1 equals, no one will make mistakes in this question because they are proficient enough in this question. But when we encounter subject knowledge, we will not do it. In the final analysis, our knowledge points are not proficient enough.

In addition, it is possible that he understood these knowledge points but failed to apply them in practice in time. As we often say, theory is far less realistic than practice. Children usually have too few exercises and reflections. . Therefore, in the early stage, I definitely want him to understand all the basics, check whether he can understand the knowledge points through various methods, and try to connect the knowledge points with life as much as possible in class to arouse the child's interest and attention. After he understands it, he will do the exercises; at the same time, I will also take the child to sort out the knowledge points, tell him some skills and methods on how to do various types of questions, and make special breakthroughs based on the children's easy mistakes or careless questions. , and finally be able to draw inferences from one instance and improve the so-called carelessness problem.

Q3: What should I do if the price is expensive?

A3: Has your child ever attended a cram school before? Is it online or offline? Class lessons or one-on-one?

? (Start by analyzing the different situations of students’ classes, highlight the features in the comparison, do not oppose, do not criticize, and add according to the training content)

I understand your mood , I believe you also know something about online education, including offline one-on-one costs. Although the price of our one-on-one courses is on the high side, it is still much cheaper than offline courses.

In addition, whether it is one-to-one or one-to-many, we have systematic course content that can help children check for deficiencies in a targeted manner. When they study with me in the future, I will also consolidate and deepen the knowledge points that the children have mastered, and then focus on the knowledge points that they have not yet mastered. Finally, there will be comprehensive training to achieve improvement in performance. As a teacher, I will spare no effort to help my children. I will pay attention to developing habits during the learning process and develop an exclusive improvement plan for them. Therefore, I believe that our parents' current efforts will still have high returns.

The cost of money and the cost of time are inherently contradictory. For students, time is a more precious thing. When the child reaches higher education, it will really be too late. Learning is a daily accomplishment. It doesn't happen overnight.

Q4: What should I do if I don’t have time to take care of my children?

A4: (Parents may have two purposes for raising this issue. First, it may be to pass the blame. Parents will think that I spent money and you, as a teacher, must be responsible for the results of my students; second, I I don't have much time, so don't give me homework that requires me and my children to complete it together.

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First of all, the child’s father/mother, I will definitely do my duty to help the child when I am in class, but after all, the time in the teacher’s class is very limited, and I can see him once a week, or twice a week. Three times, most of the rest of the time is spent at home and at school. I am not clear about the child's performance, so I need parents' assistance in this part, such as restraining the child at ordinary times, letting him know how to make up for classes here, and the homework requirements assigned by the school. It is equally important. As a parent, you can play a supervisory role and keep communicating with him at any time if there are any problems. In addition, you can also encourage him more and put forward some expectations and requirements appropriately. In addition, let professional people do professional things, such as checking for omissions and filling in vacancies, analyzing test papers, etc., which are what our teachers are good at. I will give very specific improvement plans to help children avoid detours, and ultimately achieve the same academic performance as Abilities are improved.