Parents paid a bride price of 0.2 million/200 thousand for their daughter's marriage Are they selling their daughters?

Sometimes I don't understand why an ordinary family should embarrass another ordinary family. Behind the so-called "dilemma", is it really purely for the good of the daughter, without any selfishness?

As many people say, it is the same to have boys and girls now, but when it comes to marriage, it will be different immediately.

It's really about marrying a daughter, so everything needs to be prepared by the man, including the house, car and bride price, and he is confident.

Obviously, the idea that boys and girls are all the same has become a joke, or the premise that they are all the same is that there is no interest involved, and it is even more ironic to think about it. So many people just say one thing, but doing things is another, duplicity and selfishness.

In addition, have you ever thought that the source of marriage balance is the word "marriage", which often destroys the reciprocal relationship between husband and wife.

Even parents think that the daughter marries the son-in-law, not the daughter marries the son-in-law, so they have to accept the disadvantages behind the marriage and the inequality between husband and wife.

It's all the same, men and women are equal, and it should be the same in marriage.

At that time, there was no such thing as marriage, but two young people broke away from their respective families and re-established a small family belonging to two people. Parents at both ends, going back and forth as usual.

This is an equal marriage model, and the abilities and conditions of both families will help the formation and construction of this new family.

As a tradition, the bride price itself only represents a beautiful meaning and a simple blessing, so behind the high-priced bride price is also the greed and selfishness of human nature.

In the final analysis, two young people still lack the determination to share their destiny in this life.

It seems that you lost to the bride price, but it's not that simple at all. The source problem is interest. I didn't expect two people to share a fate, which is the same as interest.

Then even if one party compromised and got married successfully, in fact, the marriage crisis has already happened from this moment.

We don't rule out the possibility that the bride's parents ask for a high price bride price. Taking the high-priced bride price as one of the rewards for raising a daughter means that the birth of a daughter was originally regarded as an investment.

When you can't directly admit the facts, you can only make profits for yourself under the banner of being good for your daughter.

What I am most afraid of is that girls are controlled by parents' remarks that they will always love their children selflessly, and assimilated by their families, so that they have no ability to think independently and distinguish right from wrong.

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Seeing a post, a mother asked:

After the daughter got married and the man met the conditions of the house and car, he asked for 200,000 bride price. As a result, the man questioned whether he wanted to sell his daughter. So I don't understand, asking for 200 thousand bride price is selling my daughter?

Want to know the answer, it is hidden in three questions, and both sides can make judgments based on these three questions.

1, why do you want a bride price of 200,000?

As the saying goes, if you get off the bus and make a name for yourself, you are not afraid of colorful gifts, and you are afraid that they can't tell why they need colorful gifts. Only by explaining the reasons can the two sides jointly negotiate to solve the source problem.

There is no need for a bride price, but it is unreasonable to ask for a bride price of 200 thousand.

Even if you say this is a local custom, it is still so popular now. After the man confirms, he is willing to take it out. If the conditions do not allow him to take it out, it is not impossible to find a solution. Anyway, it's all for outsiders. Take any form, unless he wants it for himself.

After all, we must find the problem before we can solve it. If we don't say anything, there is nothing we can do when the fairy comes.

Or you can just say it's a guarantee for your daughter. In the final analysis, you should tell your true thoughts, so that the man can meet your requirements. If it cannot be satisfied, it can be solved by other means.

2. Is there a dowry? How much dowry?

As long as the bride price is paid, there is no dowry, or the dowry is lighter than the bride price. Essentially, it is obvious to take advantage of the man.

Otherwise, it is because you think you are marrying your daughter that you are justified.

Have you ever thought that your attitude may directly lead to your daughter's miserable life after marriage and be looked down upon, despised and valued by her husband's family?

In real life, everything has a realistic side.

3. Will the bride price be taken back by her daughter?

If you plan to keep the bride price for yourself, obviously, you can only have one reason. It is not easy to raise a daughter, which proves that raising a daughter is an investment.

Then the bride price and marriage become a deal between you and the man's parents, and your chip is your daughter.

If, on the other hand, the amount of the bride price given by the man is finally recovered by the daughter, and this money is used for the construction of her daughter's small family, then this is a face at that time, and it is also a good luck and blessing.

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There are no unsolvable problems, only unsatisfied selfish desires.

As long as there is no selfishness behind it, it is not difficult for anyone to take a step back, so it doesn't matter how much the bride price is. The key is what is behind it.

If you take the bride price as your own, fundamentally speaking, the bride price will lose its meaning.

Bridal price and dowry are the blessings of the two families to the newborn family, and they are the start-up funds of the newborn family. When this resource is not used in newborn families, bride price and dowry lose their original meaning.

You see, the source of the problem is still here, whether the bride price and dowry are used in the construction of a new family.

No one is a fool. On the contrary, everyone pretends to know, and some things are unwilling to be exposed directly, so no one will face them. The more sensitive the question, the more you can see a person clearly.