Farewell to the last journey of life

Death is the end point that everyone has to face, and it is also the end point of life journey. When everything turns to ashes, everything before death will dissipate, leaving only endless thoughts of loved ones. Stephen william hawking wrote in "A Brief History of Time": "If everyone is an asteroid and the deceased relatives and friends are like dark matter around them, I would like to see you again. I know I can't see you. " Then, in the grief and disappointment of relatives and friends, how to let the deceased "leave" with dignity will test everyone who works in the funeral home.

From the dead to the funeral home. First of all, the undertaker should do cleaning, makeup and other work. For the deceased, and sometimes he needs to do facial repair or limb repair for the deceased; After that, the body of the deceased will be placed in a coffin surrounded by flowers to accept the last respects of relatives. During this period, the funeral master will guide relatives and friends to pay tribute to the deceased; After that, the body of the deceased was sent to the cremation workshop ... until the cremator handed over the ashes to the relatives of the deceased, the life of the deceased ended.

Li Jingru

Li Jingru, a post-90s undertaker, treated the deceased gently and seriously.

Li Jingru is lively and cheerful, clever and lovely, and speaks very fast. From the appearance alone, it is hard to believe that she is a mortician with five years' working experience. 20 17, she returned to Yunnan from Changsha. With one year's funeral experience in other places, she has been employed in the funeral home in Qilin District, Qujing City for nearly four years. In the past four years, Li Jingru has disposed of an average of 4,500 corpses every year. "My colleagues say that I talk a lot, but they are not used to it when I am on vacation." Li Jingru smiled wittily, and his eyes bent into a crescent-shaped hook behind his black-rimmed glasses.

From 65438 to 0994, Li Jingru was born in an ordinary worker's family in Anning City. In 2007, Li Jingru's grandmother died, which was the first time she faced death. "In the funeral home in the western suburbs of Kunming, I didn't realize that my grandmother had left. Looking at grandma lying there, I had mixed feelings, but I didn't know how to release her. I cried for a long time. " Later, an undertaker wanted to arrange grandma's body, and she asked to watch it. It was from then on that the dream of becoming an undertaker quietly sprouted in her heart.

20 14, graduated from Li Jingru high school. When filling in the college entrance examination, she inadvertently learned that the funeral college of Changsha Social Work College was a funeral professional college at that time, so she decided to apply for the college regardless of her family's opposition.

There is a line in the movie "The Dying Lord": To awaken the cold dead and give them eternal beauty, we must be calm and accurate, and most importantly, we must have tenderness. Seeing off the deceased at the farewell ceremony with everyone was very peaceful, and all the dance steps looked so beautiful. Of course, the scenes in the movies are all beautiful, but this is not the case in real life. During the five-year funeral work, Li Jingru was treated coldly and indifferently by her family, but she was also thanked and respected. All she can remember is such warmth.

Li Jingru remembers that in 20 15, she received the body of a 70-year-old grandmother. When receiving the body, grandma's wife was furious with everyone in the funeral home because she couldn't accept the fact that her wife had died. Li Jingru was also scolded by her grandfather. Despite unknown so, she disposed of her grandmother's body according to the steps. After the farewell ceremony of grandma's body, grandpa took the initiative to find Li Jingru and apologized to her. Grandpa told her that they loved each other very much. Grandma has been paralyzed for more than ten years, and grandpa has been taking care of her alone. He couldn't accept the fact that his wife died for a while, so he became emotional. This incident touched Li Jingru greatly, and because of this, she strengthened her determination to be a good undertaker.

"I don't do it, someone has to do it. Besides, I like this job very much. I just want to do more front-line work now. Even if I can't go to the front line one day, I don't think I will leave the funeral industry. Because I can treat the deceased gently and solemnly during their last journey, I will be satisfied when I hear a thank you from my family. " Li Jingru said firmly.

Wei Qiong.

"After 95" white housekeeper Wei Qiong's excellent service soothes the soul.

At work, they look solemn and unsmiling, accompanying the deceased to finish the last journey of life; In life, they are warm and cheerful, laughing and enjoying all kinds of fun in ordinary years.

Wei Qiong, a girl from Funing, Wenshan, is the white housekeeper of the funeral home in Qilin District, Qujing City. She just turned 25 this year and has worked here for nearly four years. From a nursing graduate of Qujing Medical College to a practitioner in funeral industry, Wei Qiong's first career in her life has been questioned by others. Fortunately, along the way, she has been the girl with a smile on her face.

"At that time, it coincided with the fruitless employment in my hometown, so I tried it with curiosity. I didn't expect to be chosen by mistake. " 20 17, 10 In mid-June, Wei Qiong, who learned the recruitment information from the head teacher of the university, came to the funeral home in Qilin District to apply. Although she knew nothing about the funeral industry, Wei Qiong finally succeeded in taking the post of housekeeper. Learning while doing and asking questions while doing, her business ability is increasing day by day. Now, she is comfortable in her post, and her family has already dispelled doubts and supported her efforts to realize her career ideal.

Guide the bereaved families to handle business, deeply understand the life of the deceased, and carefully prepare a string of words for the ceremony ... At every farewell ceremony, Wei Qiong always hopes to comfort the bereaved families through his own language and help them get out of the grief of the death of their loved ones. However, it often backfires. Once, after the deceased went into the furnace, the bereaved family suddenly found Wei Qiong and asked him, "Why don't you go into the furnace to salute?" Wei Qiong hurried forward to explain that the families of the bereaved were too excited to take care of their own reminders when the salute sounded, so that they did not hear the salute. However, even after Wei Qiong repeatedly explained, the bereaved families still insisted that "you didn't salute" and even forced them into a corner and demanded a heavy fight. In the face of unreasonable demands for bereavement, Wei Qiong had to take pains to appease him, and then make further communication after he calmed down until he stopped pursuing it.

"I fully understand the bereavement when we bid farewell to our loved ones, but this understanding is mutual. Whether it is out of professionalism or moral cultivation, as long as we are in this position, we are obliged to be responsible for every deceased. " Although there are grievances and unwillingness, Wei Qiong always believes that getting along with others means "communicating the truth with your heart and patiently calming grievances." Along the way, her service has also touched many bereaved people, making them let go of their "heart knot" and forget their "taboos", and regard this "post-95" housekeeper as their friends and even relatives. "A thank you and a candy before bereavement is a great comfort and affirmation for me, and it is also the driving force for me to continue."

In March of this year, Wei Qiong got married, and her husband was a colleague in the same office. "I'm not afraid of your jokes. If we don't' digest internally' in this line, it will really be a problem to find an object. " When he said this, Wei Qiong was particularly relieved. In recent years, WeChat has been hacked and the phone has been hung up. She has long been used to life without friends. Every day after work, she associates with her colleagues. We talk to each other and encourage each other. She is not only a partner at work, but also a good friend in life.

Because they often face separation and death, they cherish each other more and cherish every fate; Because they know that life is short, they choose to live in the present and enjoy the sense of accomplishment in their work. Because they know that life is fragile, they bravely live high's life, radiating the light of youth ... For every young undertaker like Wei Qiong, this job has a temperature, and they will constantly enrich themselves with professional knowledge and advanced concepts, and pay with quality service and warmth, so that the dead can rest in peace, the living can be comforted, and the new funeral civilization can be blown into everyone's heart.

Chen.

Chen, a 23-year-old cremator, helped the deceased leave with dignity.

Chen, 65438-0998 Tianjin native, 23 years old, has been engaged in the funeral industry for 2 years. At first, he didn't adapt to the working environment during his internship and felt that this was not his ideal career. Introduced by fellow villagers, Chen contacted the funeral industry and tried to make it his first job in life.

As a cremator, Chen was never afraid to talk about his career. In Chen's career, I have a better understanding of life and death.

"Are you afraid of the funeral industry?" Chen still remembers his fellow villagers asking him. "I'm not afraid. It is a good thing to help the deceased leave with dignity. " In this way, Chen left his hometown and came to Yunnan to start his first formal job in his life.

At first, Chen was just a ceremonial host. After a while, he was transferred to the feather room and became a cremator. From beginning to end, Chen has never had any conflict or fear about his career. "Today's young people have changed their minds and will not be as traditional and feudal as the older generation. There is no essential difference between funeral work and other work. If you insist on saying something different, I think there is nothing wrong with having the opportunity to send countless relatives and compatriots to the last journey. "

Dark rooms, cold atmosphere and unreasonable staff are the inherent impression of the world, but it is far from the truth. At half past eight every morning, Chen comes to work. The first thing to do is to clean the house. Around 9 o'clock, the deceased was sent to be cremated. Before cremation, carefully confirm the name, age, ID number and other information of the deceased, then give the list to the family members for confirmation and signature, and then invite the deceased to the fire. After cremation, Chen and his colleagues will pick up the ashes, pack them and inform their families to take them away. At the busiest time, five machines are running at the same time, and more than 50 dead people are cremated every day, with an average of about 20 cremations every day. "The master in our workshop knows the position of every bone in the human body like the back of his hand." Chen said to:

In the funeral home all year round, you will experience a series of places where you will go every day. In Chen's view, whether they died naturally or unnaturally, long or short, at least they have stopped in this beautiful world, and trying to live is the best interpretation of life.

"We respect every deceased person and pray for them at work. The pain of losing a loved one is hard to accept at the moment. Practitioners in the funeral industry will try their best to appease the emotions of their families, set up a separate lounge for them and give them their own space. " Chen said to:

"Contacting and communicating with the families of the deceased every day has improved my ability to treat people and made me more aware of the value of life. I have become more fond of and cherish life. Any industry needs practitioners' persistent perseverance and down-to-earth attitude. As long as you are careful, every industry can make a difference. " Chen concluded.