When will women understand that truly good men are actually very "heartless"?

In emotional life, love needs management. If you manage it well, you can go through a lifetime; but if you manage it poorly, it will force the person who loves you to leave. Some people ask, how can it change like this? It has become so helpless. It turns out that divorce is just like those scabbed scars. Even if it is different, you can still remember the pain at that time at a glance.

There are many reasons for women to divorce, but in the final analysis, they still feel that the man does not love her anymore, because he is cold to her again and again, so her heart becomes cold. But there was a divorced woman who realized something after her divorce, that is, truly good men are often very "unfeeling". Don't be deceived by temporary indifference.

I thought he was a naive boy who would not grow up. In fact, it turned out that he had a cold face in the eyes of outsiders. Social psychology has said that people will prefer things they are familiar with, just like Wu Yu and Su Hui. Wu Yu and Su Hui were classmates in junior high school. They met again in a company 12 years later. Wu Yu rarely has contact with female colleagues. Everyone said he was very cold and inhumane. But after Su Hui came to the company, he gradually became enthusiastic about her and took a lot of care of her at work. So they got together and got married after two years of dating. Colleagues all thought that Su Hui was the destined person who opened Wu Yu's heart.

But who would have thought that Su Hui and Wu Yu would not be able to escape the marriage grave after two years of marriage. Su Hui just couldn't bear it in the end. The only thing that caused Wu Yu to grow was his age and immaturity. Five years later, he was still the same old man. boy.

She got divorced and lived alone. Three months later, a former colleague came to visit her and knew that she was lonely. After they exchanged simple greetings, the colleague asked her, "How did you get divorced so smoothly?" We were most optimistic about you before." Su Hui said: "I don't know, maybe he is too naive." His colleague said: "Maybe he is naive to you, I have never seen him do this to others. However, the coldness doesn't feel like someone you know." Su Hui was stunned for a long time, and she said, "I thought he was a naive boy who wouldn't grow up, but I didn't expect him to be cold in the eyes of outsiders. ”

He is good enough to you, and there is no trace of the opposite sex around him, but you have never noticed it. The colleague said: "Although I don't know why you divorced, I know he is a good man." Su Hui looked confused and asked: "Why do you say that?"

The colleague said: "You didn't Before coming to the company, several girls fell in love with Wu Yu. He was handsome and very capable. He didn't talk much to them, but at least he was still polite. Later, when you came, he was attentive to you and stayed with you. Later, he rarely had contact with female colleagues. "Su Hui said: "This may be his personality, and it may not be because of me." The colleague said: "Then you are wrong. They had dinner together in the department before. A female colleague made him drink, and he later became dizzy and told the women that I have a girlfriend and I have to go back quickly. I won’t drink so much at parties in the future.” Su Hui said, “He is really like that. "You mean that?" My colleague said, "Yes, he is good enough to you. He also recommended you to go to the company for promotion and study opportunities before. But I didn't have the opportunity, and there was no trace of the opposite sex around me. It's just that you never found it." "

After her colleague returned, Su Hui suddenly realized that Wu Yu had been silently protecting and supporting her. He had taken it to heart when she mentioned her interest in studying. Others always say that only he can grasp such a "heartless" man, and he thinks that what others say is a joke. It turns out that he has been waiting for their feelings.

Relationships in this world cannot be regretted until after they are lost. When we were together, we could not see every bit of the other person’s contribution. After we left, we realized that true care and love had already become our own habits. A man who truly loves himself will keep a certain distance from the opposite sex. The greater the distance, the deeper he cares about you. It turns out that "unfeeling" is the proof that he loves you the most.