Parents interfere excessively with their children's marital happiness, right?

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"For your own good" may backfire.

Read such a wonderful news:

Chen Mou, a man from Zhejiang, went to the woman's house many times to stop her 26-year-old son from falling in love, hoping that his parents could persuade him to break up, but failed.

So Chen Mou streaked downstairs and came to his son's girlfriend Xiao Fang's house. Finally, Chen Mou was placed in administrative detention on suspicion of deliberately exposing himself in public places.

Afterwards, according to Chen Mou, what he did was to let his son know that his father was detained by the public security organs and feel guilty, so as to expand his influence and let his neighbors persuade Xiao Fang's parents not to be such "wonderful" in-laws.

Chen Mou's son finally broke up with his beloved girlfriend because of his father's "wonderful" behavior and left home.

Chen Mou's "painstaking" is just the epitome of many parents who interfere with their children's love and marriage.

Bottom line: We all do it for your own good. Let the children be speechless.

There is no doubt that parents must love their children, and the starting point of their intervention is to hope that their children will be happy.

Even if their children don't like it or don't want to, they still stubbornly stick to their own practices.

Faced with such parents, many children finally gave in. However, are children who succumb to their parents' "arrogance" happy?

Under the banner of "for your own good", the essence is that you don't want to let go of your children, for fear of losing their love and ultimately ruining their happiness.

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Marriage is a two-way interaction.

Once, a mother in Taiwan Province Province said something to her daughter, which caused a heated discussion among countless netizens on the Internet. Many people commented below: More than a dozen such mothers have come. ...

But I always feel something is wrong.

Colleague said that she told her daughter that she hoped her future boyfriend would be a boy who loves cooking, so that her daughter wouldn't have to walk around the stove every day like herself.

Unexpectedly, her daughter replied: other boys and mothers may think so, too. I hope my son can open his mouth to eat and reach for clothes.

Although my colleagues said it was a joke. But I think her daughter is great, and she is right.

Everyone is selfish, especially as the parents of children. Who doesn't want their children to get more care?

Such selfishness is understandable, but it should also be viewed objectively.

Educating her daughter like that mother in Taiwan Province Province has undoubtedly given her a false expectation, expecting the other party to take care of herself unconditionally, thinking that if she marries the other party, she will be responsible for her happiness for life.

In this way, pinning your happiness and happiness on your boyfriend or husband will bring invisible pressure to the other party and eventually disappoint yourself.

Love and marriage are men's and women's business. The disharmony and happiness of two people also come from both sides. It is unrealistic for one party to pay unconditionally or for the other party to rely on it in all directions. Such a marriage will not have long-term happiness.

You can't ask for it, no one can be responsible for your happiness except yourself.

It is misleading for mothers in Taiwan Province Province to educate their daughters in this way, which will eventually harm their daughters.

I hope I can help you. Good luck.