As the old saying goes, those who harm others will harm themselves, and those who harm others will harm themselves.

Never laugh at others, those jokes may come true on yourself later.

There has been such a saying since ancient times: "If you harm others, don't harm yourself; if you prevent others, don't prevent others."

Why can't you hurt others? Because hurting others is usually equivalent to shooting yourself in the foot, and hurting yourself.

No matter what goes around comes around, Jiang Taigong once said, "If you want to measure others, you must first measure yourself. Hurtful words or self-harm. You spray blood on people before you get dirty. "

Before you want to judge others, make irresponsible remarks and tell others what to do, you should first weigh what you have done in your mind;

Be careful what you say that hurts people, because talking about others often means talking about yourself; When discrediting others, the first thing to discredit is actually your own character.

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The reason why many people speak stiffly and lack sympathy and tolerance is because they lack empathy.

And why there is a lack of empathy, which is what we often say. The reason is this mystery, that is, measuring others, not measuring yourself.

The system, standard and mechanism of "quantity" are only aimed at outsiders he wants to measure, not including himself.

More commonly, I am selfish, but I blame others for being selfish. I don't suffer anything, but I get angry when I see others refuse to suffer.

People who get rid of "self-measurement" in advance sometimes seem to have a heart in mind. If they exclude themselves from judgment, they can do whatever they want, and they can say and laugh at others at will.

But in fact, it is equivalent to missing a door, which is the door of self-discipline.

There are many kinds of indulgence, one of which is not to accumulate virtue and let one's own words hurt others.

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Ordinary people have a saying: never laugh at others. What you laugh at others is likely to come true for yourself in the future.

A man saw an old lady with a limp, crooked neck and hunchback. She laughed very hard and was very strange.

But later, his three children, a hunchback, a lame leg and a crooked neck, laughed at the old lady's words and laughed at themselves, leaving him in sorrow.

The reason why hurtful language has hurtful power is often because it hits others directly, revealing the shortcomings that others want to cover up, the shortcomings that others are ashamed to talk about, and the shortcomings that others care about in their own hearts.

If there is a kind of goodness, it is to turn your head and pretend not to see others naked; There is a kind of evil, that is, picking out the shortcomings and pains of others, even imagining the shortcomings in others' lives, and swearing.

Taking advantage of one's own shortcomings, emphasizing others' shortcomings and saying hurtful things are originally a kind of compensation and defense.

But the effect, is likely to be killed one thousand, since the loss of eight hundred. Fool others, not yourself.

This way of hurting people, in turn, will reduce a person's self-esteem, but make them feel less about themselves.

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Those who like to laugh at others and publicize their shortcomings have probably never thought that their own character is the first to be hacked.

Imagine, if anyone knows that there is such a big mouth around him to seize other people's privacy shortcomings and quickly put them everywhere, who will trust him and open up to him?

Bacon said: "the human mind is either nourished by its own goodness or feeds on the evil of others." If a person lacks this, he will inevitably swallow it ... his own defects cannot be made up, and he must do his best to damage the strengths of others. "

Words that hurt people feel low in style, because a person who can't even understand manners and personal image exposes his inner defects.

This kind of defect may be a defect in ability or a lack of security.

But nourishing oneself by consuming others' injuries, covering up one's shortcomings and shifting the target of attack from attacking oneself to attacking others are, in the final analysis, weaknesses in personality and defects in cultivation.

Those who attack and hurt others unscrupulously, although they may have the upper hand verbally, degrade themselves because of their lack of manners and kindness.

A person with verbal violence is not necessarily a bad person, but he must be a person with weak cultivation.