What happens to family affection in the face of interests?

In this materialistic society, competition between interests and emotions can be seen everywhere. Who will have the upper hand? No one dares to give it an accurate position. However, some things often happen around people. It seems to remind people, and it also seems to prove that in this contest, interests are always the final winner.

The most disguised thing in the world is family affection. Family affection that involves vital interests is often more terrifying than the enemy camp. What suffers most is often the cruelty of family affection. In a market economy, family affection and market laws are not contradictory, but when faced with the choice of interests, family affection will depreciate.

In life, there is often a scale with money on one end and family, friendship and love on the other. How many people can always keep the two ends of this scale balanced?

According to According to statistics from the Shanghai Zhabei District People's Court, of the more than 5,700 civil cases they accept in a year, cases related to marriage and family account for 40% to 45%, and among marriage and family cases, 90% to 95% are related to property. Relevantly, some are divorces between husband and wife, estrangement between brothers, and discord between parents and children due to financial management issues. Some are family disputes arising from financial management and property issues when dealing with divorce, custody, support and other issues. In modern society, interests have become the first factor and the link connecting relationships. In the face of interests, family ties often become so fragile. There is a saying that hemp seeds do not exceed the limit. It is said that some people will not give in even something as big as a sesame seed for their own personal interests. There are two true stories:

Two brothers, Wang Jixiang and Wang Puren, from a village in Liyuan Town, Yizhang County, got into a fight just because Wang Puren’s cattle ate the corn seedlings in Wang Jixiang’s field. Wang Puren was seriously injured and Wang Puren committed suicide by taking poison. It is really inappropriate to have such serious consequences for a small profit!

In December 2003, a natural gas well blowout occurred in Gaoqiao Town, Kaixian County, Chongqing City, destroying the lives and property of nearby villagers. They suffered huge losses, but the huge compensation of 50 million that followed made the locals show the paleness of family affection and the ugliness of human nature in the face of interests. A scene of girls vying to get married was staged in front of a lonely old man; orphans became the first to be raised by relatives; widows who lost their loved ones were in danger of being deprived of their right to compensation by their tribesmen... While hearing and witnessing these events, you can deeply feel it. to the moral crisis and mutation of family ties in modern economic society.

Confucius once said: "A benevolent person is best served by close relatives." This means that people in the world should love each other and help each other. Tolerance, humility, and peace have always been one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. However, now, just for a few young plants, one can attack his own brothers, leading to human tragedy. It is really incomprehensible!

Of course, in real life, many beautiful things happen every day, such as donating money and materials to victims whom we have never met, or even donating bone marrow or kidney organs. These are the concrete manifestations of truth, goodness and beauty in the world. reflect. It can be seen from this that everyone has a good side, and this is also true as "a tiger's poison cannot eat its seeds". But why, when things happen to you and are related to your own interests, why do you become so indifferent and disregard family ties, fight for every inch of profit, compare every penny and penny, and even get into a fight, leading to a murder?

This seems to be a very profound question, but in fact it can be answered with a very simple sentence: it is all because of money! In fact, there is nothing wrong with money itself, and there is nothing wrong with people fighting for and safeguarding their own interests. The key is People should take legitimate and legal measures. And when using legal means to seek or protect one's own interests, one must not lose the virtues of humility and generosity. However, it is regrettable that in contemporary economic society, people have become more and more materialistic. It is this materialization that has caused people's values ??to lose their balanced principles, and this has also made people's soft hearts gradually lose their balance. It has become hard and narrow, and some can no longer accommodate a sesame seed, a green seedling, or even a joke!

Bill Gates, the world's super-rich man, once said that his billions of wealth Just a number. It is precisely in this way that Bill Gates can always maintain his enterprising and creative spirit and create wealth for the world and mankind.

There is such a story: a lonely millionaire saw a poor neighbor living in harmony and happiness, so he wanted to exchange his wealth with the poor. As a result, the poor became rich, but the family turned against each other because of the wealth.

This shows how powerful money is.

In life, people often use "blood is thicker than water" to describe family affection, and the meaning is self-evident. However, the power of interests is considerable. In the face of interests, relatives will also choose legal means to solve their problems. Perhaps, no one wants to go to court with their relatives, but this is a helpless choice. The reality is so ruthless. When family ties conflict with interests, family ties are often ruthlessly torn apart.

Family is the paradise of family affection, but when family affection conflicts with interests, family affection will always depreciate in the face of interests.

In 2004, a car accident that occurred in a certain city was thought-provoking. After an old man was unfortunately hit by a car and died, the police quickly called the old man's children to the scene. Unexpectedly, after the old man's children stayed at the scene for a while, they felt they had nothing to do and left without looking back. There was no trace of sadness or nostalgia for their loved ones on their faces. Later, when the old man's children went to collect the accident compensation, the first thing they did was to count the money in front of everyone, and they laughed happily after counting them.

The lives of loved ones are not as important as money. "People cannot be resurrected after death." Is it because they are detached and open-minded? Of course not, this is just cold-blooded, so cold that it chills the heart. Although there are not many such extreme examples, it is a fact that many people increasingly value money and ignore family ties.

In order to renovate the ancestral home, his son died in a car accident. "The white-haired man gave the black-haired man a gift" had already made the seventy-year-old Fahrenheit heartbroken. However, after the building was completed, his daughter-in-law actually occupied the property rights. The elderly can only move in after settling the housing construction costs clearly. A few days ago, the execution court of the People's Court of Ganyu County, Jiangsu Province quickly made a judgment on this special house use rights dispute case. The house occupied by the executione Li Xiaomei for a long time was forcibly returned. So far, the six-year-old property between the parents-in-law and their daughter-in-law has been forcibly returned. The dispute was finally resolved satisfactorily.

A family that was supposed to live in harmony frequently had disputes over the right to live in the house, even gathering relatives and friends to fight, and filed lawsuits many times. In the end, it not only hurt each other's feelings, but also wasted a lot of money. of time, energy and money. Why bother?

Under the impact of the market economy and the changes in social transition ideas, the family affection between people is really so vulnerable in the face of interests. When the son is gone, the old man should love his daughter-in-law and grandchildren even more; when the husband is gone, the daughter-in-law should respect and be filial to the old man even more. But the old man's stubbornness made his daughter-in-law sad, and the daughter-in-law's behavior chilled the old man's heart and left a heavy shadow in the child's heart. Not only that, there are also many people who defraud their relatives of money.

Nowadays, people can often see on TV, newspapers and other media that many relatives are fighting over the issue of property distribution, and some even live without contact until they die. In these family disputes, the affection between parents, children, brothers and sisters has disappeared, and each only has their own interests in their eyes. This cannot but be said to be a tragedy for family relationships in today's society. There are also many people who abandon their parents for the sake of profit.

There was a man who came from a very remote rural area. He studied very hard and finally got into college. In order to pay for his tuition and living expenses, his parents worked in the fields at sunrise and returned at dusk. The old father's cataracts could hardly be seen clearly because he had no money to treat them. Of course, he also studied very hard. After graduating from undergraduate degree, he was admitted to graduate school and finally to PhD. It can be said that the future is bright.

Of course, girls will rush for excellent men. The daughter of the vice president of the university fell in love with him. Her charming face made him feel that his life was very satisfying. However, when she learned that his home was in a very poor rural area, she became reluctant and cursed that he had "red sweet potato blood" in his veins. The vice-principal used his connections to help him find a good job with an annual salary of more than 300,000 yuan, and also married his daughter to him. His wife made three stipulations with him: she could not say that he was from the countryside, only that his parents were teachers in a university; he was not allowed to have any further contact with his family; and fellow villagers from his hometown were not allowed to come to their home in the city. Looking at everything blooming in front of him, he finally agreed.

On their wedding day, all the people coming and going were the woman’s relatives and friends. He also had the urge to cry, but he couldn't help it, he couldn't let go of everything in front of him. From then on, he only dared to secretly send money home, but never more than 200 yuan each time. He was afraid that his family would think that he was fine in the city and come to the city to seek refuge with him. It was two years later that he told his parents that he had gotten married in the city.

The happy, sleepless mother sewed her grandson's clothes and trousers stitch by stitch under the dim light. I received a package from a rural area, weighing about 20 kilograms. It was hard for him to imagine how his skinny mother carried them to a county town dozens of miles away. His wife held the small piece of clothing with two fingers and yelled at him to throw it out because it contained fleas. He wanted to beat her and endured it for a long time. However, in the end, the bag of clothes ended up in the trash can.

On the day when my son turned one year old, many people came to the house. The family living in 200 square meters was full of excitement. He was busy greeting people, and suddenly for a moment he thought of his father. The security guard of the community said on the intercom that someone was looking for him. He thought he was a guest and greeted him happily. It was many years after he left his home in the countryside that he saw his parents now. It was raining heavily outside, and water was dripping from the hair of the two old men. He was stunned and stayed at the door at a loss. When his wife saw that he hadn't come in for a long time, she came out to see him.

He led the two old people in. The muddy Jiefang shoes squeaked when he stepped on them. The father’s feet didn’t know how to walk on the smooth wooden floor, so he had to take them to the kitchen. . Then, he told the puzzled guests that he had found the wrong old man. His wife told him to take the person away quickly, but he had no choice but to explain to the room full of bosses, old professors, or some respectable people that they were his parents.

Then, he took his father to a big hospital to see his eyes. The doctor at the big hospital said that his father’s eyes were completely blind. It was delayed for too long. If it had been a few years earlier, he would not have been blind. Blind. Looking at those two completely cloudy eyes, he felt that he was not human. He did not take his parents to live at home. The parents stayed in a hotel for two weeks. The parents finally understood that their son would not be able to welcome them into the home they thought they should enter. As for his wife, she has never been seen again since that brief meeting. He always said that he wanted to take them to see big cities. His mother looked into his father's eyes and said, "We can't get used to living here, let's go home."

Two months later, he went on a business trip. Back to my hometown. All the people in the neighborhood came to see this great man who had emerged from a poor ravine. From the conversations of the villagers, he learned that when his parents went to the city, they sold the pigs and gave the fields to others for planting. They just wanted to spend their remaining years there. When their parents returned to the countryside, they told them that their son was very kind to them and did not want them to leave, but they were not used to living there and missed the people in their hometown, so they came back. When I came back, I brought a lot of "miscellaneous bags" for everyone. The old father fumbled and cooked at home, often with unhealed wounds on his hands. The seventy-year-old mother was still struggling in the fields for food rations. After working for a while, she straightened up and beat her waist.

When he left, he left 20,000 yuan for his father, saying it was 2,000 yuan in 10-yuan pieces. He asked his father to put it away carefully and use it for emergencies when he had difficulties in the future. He also knew that he was not worthy to be their son.

People are like this. Although the choice between interests and family affection seems extremely difficult, people often choose the former in the end.