How to deal with critical mother-in-law, ask God for help.

1 First of all, in my mind, a daughter-in-law is not a daughter and a mother-in-law is not a mother. Both mother-in-law and son should face this fact. I said the same thing before my husband and before my mother. But for a person, the husband of the daughter-in-law, the son of the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law come together. So, first of all, we can't expect too much from each other, but it is also because this person should be considerate and polite to each other and care about each other. I told my mother that you should not compare your sister-in-law with your sister, nor should you compare your sister-in-law with you. It's totally different. I don't expect my mother-in-law, but I respect her and treat her as an elder, just like menstruation menstruation. Mother and son will not feel the same, but I will arrange for her to see a doctor and buy medicine. I will send it back to her when I see the right clothes, because her son doesn't understand these things. In retrospect, I want credit like my husband: you see how good I am to your family, and you reimburse me ~ ~. Haha 2, my mother-in-law gave birth to a son, but she has no obligation to marry her son, take care of her daughter-in-law and look after her grandson. I wonder if JMS in the forum agrees? A daughter-in-law can't ask her mother-in-law to love you as much as her own daughter. Similarly, a mother-in-law can't compare her daughter-in-law with her own daughter, saying that her daughter-in-law doesn't love herself. Jms, you are a daughter at home and a daughter-in-law at home. You think your mother is kind to you, but in fact she is also your sister-in-law's mother-in-law. I read a post advocating my own marriage before. As a result, a daughter-in-law replied: It depends on how my husband is. My husband has one person who spends two. I don't ask his mother for money. If she doesn't buy me a house, who will? Hehe, if such a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law in the future, I wonder if she can still hold this view? If you don't get along well with your mother-in-law, please take a month off. Daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law, just imagine how her sister-in-law treats her mother-in-law. Complaining that my mother-in-law didn't take good care of JMS. Imagine if your sister-in-law's mother went to cook, wash clothes and look after the children. Your sister-in-law said that her mother-in-law had come and your mother didn't take good care of her. Do you agree? Of course, there is something wrong with her mother-in-law insisting on taking care of her and not taking care of her. Daughter-in-law is the son's wife, but now the daughter-in-law is not the daughter-in-law in the old society, and her responsibilities and obligations are different. Mother-in-law can't expect her daughter-in-law to be a kannika nimtragol any more. Please tell her sons. Mother-in-law's killer is often how our daughter-in-law is. What's more, the last time I heard my friend's husband tell my friend how my mother did farm work and coaxed several children to do housework without being tired. How can you expect me to do housework and take care of children? This kind of husband should be dragged out to play fifty boards and be a concubine in the Arab countries in the afterlife! Speaking of which, I think JMS must ensure self-reliance, and the economic base determines the superstructure. Everyone has bad habits. Without relying on her husband's self-reliance, her husband can love you, and it is normal for her mother-in-law to stand it. Imagine if your own son married his daughter-in-law, your son earned money to support his family, and his daughter-in-law didn't work, and he still spoiled every day. Can you stand it? 4. The son is the main responsible person and the undertaker of the consequences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Don't think that because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there will be no son's business, and the suppression on both sides will be over. In fact, you are the most important person, and the contradiction between two people is because of you. If you don't handle it properly, you are also the worst sandwich biscuit. Many men can't do it. No matter how their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are, they always want to suppress one side. Don't be proud of your husband's suppression of your mother-in-law. Think about it. If your mother talks back to your sister-in-law, if your brother shouts at your mother, don't you hate your brother? Anyway, if my brother dares to do this, I dare to be anxious with him. On the other hand, my mother sometimes tells my brother how my sister-in-law is, and I will say, Mom, mind your own business. How others live is your own business, regardless of your two lives. You said my sister-in-law was lazy. When you lived in my house, I slept in every day. My husband made breakfast and told me not to wake up. Although you patted my ass and scolded me, you didn't mean to be angry with me at all. My mother said: Yes, well, now that young people are like this, my daughter is still so embarrassed to laugh at her daughter-in-law, hehe. My husband takes an interesting approach between me and my mother-in-law. Many times he shows my shortcomings in a funny and exaggerated way, telling his mother behind my back and imitating and laughing at his mother's shortcomings with me. We know each other, just look at my husband's jokes. In fact, many times, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law don't really care about contradictory skills. They are often angry because their son is unfair, so the son realizes the shortcomings of mother-in-law. Daughter-in-law and mother think that this man knows, and generally forget it. For the sake of wife, mother and yourself, a son should never live under the same roof with his parents. You said it very well when you got married. My parents always want to keep them, but they can't live together. If your parents like it here (in his hometown county), we'll buy another house. They think the house is small, so they live in the big one, and we live in the small one. 6. If you don't cook, don't be picky about cooking. If you don't coax children, don't be picky about the wrong way to coax them. It doesn't hurt to dress the children in old clothes and eat some chewed rice. It's hard to be confused, JM. 7, communication, communication, must communicate. Our general practitioner sometimes comes to stay for a while. The first time we came here was when we just got married, and it was also the first time I met GP. When I got home, they had already cooked the meal. I finished eating, my husband washed the dishes and I chatted with GP. Speaking of happy places, I said, mom and dad, I'm the youngest in the family, and I'm spoiled. There must be something wrong. However, my mother is still very strict with our family education. I know how to respect the old and love the young, and I also know how to take care of my family and everything. So if you don't like me, just say so, I will try to change what I can, but I will explain, hehe, the habits of the two generations are definitely different, so we should tolerate each other more, but we can't keep everything in our hearts and cause misunderstandings. It's fun to stay for a while every time. 8. Many things have to be overcome by yourself. I wear casual clothes, and I like something special. Wear white-collar workers to work, and wear what you like as soon as you get off work. Old people are not used to it. Once at dinner, my mother-in-law looked at me and said, "You wear these formal clothes, which are much better than the usual messy clothes." Hehe, I just had a funny meal, and then my husband often makes jokes on purpose. Sometimes when you see me wearing a business suit, you say to his mother's face, ah, you are dressed with great temperament today. Hehe, my mother-in-law recognized my "messy" clothes in distress situation. This move is the same as dealing with my mother. My mother-in-law thinks she is not an outsider, and I think it is normal for her to be a little disgusted. Everyone wants to drive, which is good. After all, I think the key is to put yourself in each other's shoes. Don't think you are a mother-in-law. Think about how your own mother is also a mother-in-law, and what your sister-in-law does suits you. When a mother-in-law thinks about how to treat her daughter correctly, she treats her daughter-in-law in turn. Son, not a judge, should play the role of buffer+glue+harmony agent in the middle. Family harmony is not difficult.